F/m Ruined Orgasm What's in it for him?

[Palad]

Hello all. It seems like only yesterday that i first typed the T-word into a search engine and started my journey into our little corner of kink. I am still amazed at how many different little facets and niches there are in our little world. tickling from light to torturous has always gone hand and hand with sensual teasing, denial, forced orgasms etc. lately, one subset of erotic tickling is Male ruined orgasm. For this discussion i am not asking about the "ruin" where tickling/spanking etc. is introduced at the moment of climax. I am asking more about the "RUIN" where at the exact moment (or sadly just before) climax all/most stimulation is removed to completely change (or eliminate) the pleasurable sensation.

From the perspective of watching a femdom tease, humiliate, and torment a sub the vids and the concept are insanely hot. Evil women just ARE. MY question is directed at male subs/lees as to why they crave/enjoy it so much. Most of the content that focuses on the subject focuses in the extreme, For example: Sub x hasn't been allowed to climax in 4 weeks and is finally allowed to cum only to have it ruined. It seems that the producers try to make the scenarios as extreme and as horrifying as possible. In my personal play as a male top to a female sometimes begrudging bottom I am much more of a light to moderate tease/denial player with the ultimate goal to make the eventual climaxes (big ES) for my partner as hard and as intense as possible. The idea of completely taking away her enjoyment in a real sense wouldn't be my thing.

So to any male subs/lees out there who enjoy or crave ruined orgasm play, What does a ruined orgasm actually feel like? What's the headspace like? Do you generally expect or need a full stimulation climax during a session? Can you actually live on "ruined" climaxes alone?" Do you actually "ruin" your orgasms when and if you play on your own?

Any Females with their own desire for giving or receiving ruined orgasms i would love to hear your feedback as well.

Cheers.

 

[Park CollegeO]

I don't know about ruined orgasm but I've experienced post orgasm torture in F/M sessions before.

It's hell lol

 

[WheresThe Clip?]

Imagine eating a lovely bowl of ice cream. Now I am sure you will agree that the last few spoonfuls are the most pleasurable. Then imagine before you are able to eat them, some woman deliberately knocks the bowl onto the floor. You wouldn't hesitate to see her as a sadistic spiteful bitch. Thus we have the ruined orgasm.

The pleasure is not there in any orgasmic sense, but purely for the male with a SUBMISSIVE mind-set who cannot help but be affected by a woman being cruel to him.

 

[BellybTickler]

The pleasure is not there in any orgasmic sense, but purely for the male with a SUBMISSIVE mind-set who cannot help but be affected by a woman being cruel to him.

^ This. For me, it’s the ultimate feeling of loss of power and control. A reward turned into a punishment. And it’s amazing 🙂

 

[Bradhadair]

Ruined orgasms are all about the top/Dom. It’s about power dynamics, not the actual orgasm.

For me, I prefer the post orgasm tickling, and forcing a second orgasm!

 

[Blue Soda]

When I tickle my boyfriend, I love to tease him and prolong allowing him to cum for as long as possible. But ultimately, I want him to explode....it's way hotter that way. Not sure how prevalent orgasm denial is, but in my household it's unheard of 😉

 

[jujimbo]

I'm not sure about ruined, but teasing your partner and denying him/her an orgasm for a long time as a means of torture. It's a thing that goes very well with tickling severing the punishment of it. I certainly love that aspect. The orgasm in the end is so much more intense. So it's not that much ruined in the end.

Of course, giving someone blue balls or a blue bean sucks.

 

[longstory]

Imagine eating a lovely bowl of ice cream. Now I am sure you will agree that the last few spoonfuls are the most pleasurable. Then imagine before you are able to eat them, some woman deliberately knocks the bowl onto the floor. You wouldn't hesitate to see her as a sadistic spiteful bitch. Thus we have the ruined orgasm.

The pleasure is not there in any orgasmic sense, but purely for the male with a SUBMISSIVE mind-set who cannot help but be affected by a woman being cruel to him.

Good explanation. I for one understand at least somewhat better now.