Feeling kind of hopeless

[Reallycoolguy]

I dunno, I feel like I'm putting energy into a hopeless task. I mean, the majority of those into tickling seem to be guys, and being physically disabled and not good looking seems to render my choices fairly small if any even exist.

I dunno, I just feel like my sexual fetish only reinforce the notion that perhaps I am destined to be alone.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

feel your pain and agree with you that the majority of people who enjoy tickling are guys. My best advice is try to attend a gathering that is tickle related and go from there. You can also find listings of gathering on here in the Personals section and also titled General Gatherings, best of luck

 

[smokinj]

What is it you’re looking for? A long term relationship with a girl into ticking or just someone to satisfy your desire like a prostitute? Try the personals, you’d be surprised how many people share your interest. There’s someone out there for everyone. Chin up, buttercup.

 

[Crazy Wabbit]

I dunno, I feel like I'm putting energy into a hopeless task. I mean, the majority of those into tickling seem to be guys, and being physically disabled and not good looking seems to render my choices fairly small if any even exist.

I dunno, I just feel like my sexual fetish only reinforce the notion that perhaps I am destined to be alone.

I know the feeling. However, I'm not quite ready to throw in the towel as of yet because before I can really be serious about finding someone, there's work that I need to do with myself. For starters, I need to work on getting over my social anxiety, which is a psychological disability. Another is to lose some weight, which is the reason why I haven't posted a pic of myself here or over at Fetlife.

I would strongly encourage you not to give up. As someone already mentioned, check out the personals. Keep an eye out for one of the munches or meet and greets in your area. Attend NEST or one of the other various gatherings they have once a year. This is something that I have every intention of doing once I gain some more self-confidence and am comfortable with my appearance. Like the old adage goes, you only have 1 chance to make a 1st impression. So you might as well make it the best one you have.

 

[mabus]

What is the nature of your disability?

The "not good looking thing" is subjective, believe me. I've seen a lot of not good looking guys with hot girls, or okay girls, and I've seen some not good looking girls with hot guys.

There's WAY more to attraction and hotness than magazine looks. (I may do a whole thread on that later.)
Like, if you met a hot girl, but she maybe didn't have attractive feet and you're into foot tickling, or she wasn't ticklish, or worse, she was a mean bitch and she thought tickling was stupid and disgusting!

Then you have an okay looking girl, really ticklish, likes being tickled, has a great personality, kind and fun, who happily indulges your fetish, and even takes you to places you never even considered in your sex/play life.....who is "hotter?"

(Answer - the second girl, of course!)



But maybe it isn't about meeting a girl to tickle you, …..just go meet people. If you have a large social circle, mathematically the chances are better for you to meet someone who's into tickling, and again, can bring things
to your life you needed but never even considered.

 

[BarbaricTickler88]

Don't beat yourself up. Disabled or not, chances are slim to none that you will actually find a woman with a tickle fetish. If you are lucky, you'll find someone, anyone. If you are really, really lucky, that someone will have no problem with your fetish. And if you're. like, insanely lucky she'll actually enjoy it with you. There is no point in suffering. It's not so bad being alone anyway. Being alone and lonely don't have to be same things.

 

[brotherted]

I have kind of a different take than some of those here.

Obviously, few of us here actually know each other, and so I can only say... yeah, maybe you are destined to be alone. Or maybe you aren't.

The point I wanted to make is all of us can only live the best, most exciting and rewarding life we possibly can, without hurting others. But that absolutely doesn't have to include a relationship. Half of married people, after all, get divorced. They're generally miserable for years before finally splitting. Millions of others stay in those unhappy relationship. I know divorced guys right now who'd give their right arm to have never been married like you. So perhaps you're harboring an illusion that a relationship is some kind of magic ticket to happiness in life. No to the no... lots and lots and lots of times those very relationships you're craving have actually been a ticket to misery. I've never been sadder than when I've been stuck in a bad relationship. Single's not so bad, trust me.

You say you're physically disabled, but in today's internet era there are all kinds of exciting online identities, jobs, friendships and even porn you can experience.

Just writing to say there's a whole lot more to life than a girlfriend. Great food, new ideas, challenging job, trusted friendships, creative projects... don't buy the myth that your happiness in life can only come one way.

 

[ichbins]

Just writing to say there's a whole lot more to life than a girlfriend. Great food, new ideas, challenging job, trusted friendships, creative projects... don't buy the myth that your happiness in life can only come one way.

Well spoken and many times easily forgotten that it is like you say.

 

[dskodj]

Half of married people, after all, get divorced. They're generally miserable for years before finally splitting

*raises hand as one of these people in the past*

 

[mikeytheman921]

My suggestion, assuming you’re not content to wait for “Luck” to happen to you, is to either

a) Date 3 levels below your own attractiveness (i.e. if you’re a 6, go for a 3. If you’re a 7, go for a 4)

Or

b.) Pay for it.