Find a g/f to tickle or a ticklee to be your g/f?

[Edge]

Wow I haven't been to the site in forever! Been way too long. Anyway, since I've last really been around I've met a few girls that I've tried tickling sessions on. It went great in both situations. They were "normal" girls I met online who I explained the truth about tickling to. They were obviously both openminded to try it. One was 28 and her name was Allison. Believe it or not the other girl who I met last summer on myspace also was named Allison lol. She was 26. She is still actually friends with me. And...she is interested in doing it a 2nd time. So anyway I've also gone on some dates from a dating website. Some were bad and some were ok. The best one though I had a long convo with in person and I felt we got along well. She seemed to listen to me and be interested in what i was saying. I had mentioned tickling to her several times as being something that I liked but I never went into the whole "tie you up and tickle you till you cry" thing lol. Anyway, she claimed to be very ticklish but seemed to not like the idea of it. During convo I told her I like it. She asked me why I didn't try to meet a girl on the tickling site I had mentioned to her (this site) and date someone from there. I explained to her that although tickling is a part of my interests I don't need a g/f who wants to be tickled everyday. Seriously I've gone months and months at a time without tickling anyone. I told her it'd be something I'd like my g/f to be open-minded to trying once in a while just as I would be open to going to an art museum with her (even though I am not into art at all and find it boring). I feel it's about compromise. Anyway...I still feel that way that I need to find a g/f first and then hopefully she'll be open enough to do tickling sometimes. However, I admit I'm a bit afraid of finding this great g/f and then having to come out and tell her the truth...and if she's so against it that it could ruin everything. I doubt I'll ever find a g/f who is on the TMF (just seems hardly anyone on here actually tries to meet people). I don't feel that need to...but I also know that if I do have a g/f I do want to tickle her sometimes. If she's not crazy about it I would definitely back off some and not do it too often but I'd still want/need to do it sometimes at least. I think I'm better off staying single and finding new girls to try tickling on...its so much easier and maybe more fun. My friend in TN is trying to set me up with a cute 25 year old friend of hers who is moving to my area in Sept. My friend in TN DOES know the truth about tickling and that I"m into it (she's a freak so this is nothing to her compared to the stuff she is into lol) so I dont know if she has told her or not. Anyway I am rambling now but yeah...it does make you wonder sometimes. Why can't I just be a "normal" guy who likes boobs and sex and that's it? Oh well 🙂...I am getting experience with tickling sessions...and I am getting good at it and love it.

 

[Fire_Sprite]

I also think its better to get a vanilla girl and introduce tickling into the relationship. It kind of sucks that they'll never be as into it as you are, but relationships shouldn't be founded on sexual interests anyway.

Even if you found a girl off the TMF who wanted to date, odds you wouldn't be compatible anywhere except the bedroom. The outside world has a much wider selection.

 

[mass1926]

Most girls like tickling. I think you are better off finding a girl that is looking for a real relationship and gradually get her into tickling. Meeting a girl that is into tickling to the point where she revolves her life around it could mean major relationship problems down the road if you want an actual relationship.

 

[robmic]

tickling relationships

My ex wife had the hots for me when we started dating and had never been tickled. Of course, I always tried every women I went out with to see if they were ticklish. My ex was very ticklish, but I had no idea at that time just how ticklish. A few weeks after we started dating, she was over, sitting on my couch with one foot under her with her shoe off. Of course, I gave her foot a quick tickle and she promptly pulled her foot away. I loved the feel of nylons, (which she wore all the time), so on a chance, I asked her if she had ever been tied up. She said "no". So, I asked her if she would like to try it. To my surprise, she said "sure". I don't think she had put two and two together. So, we went off to my bedroom and I asked her to lay on the bed. I tied her feet to the foot of the bed then tied her wrists to the headboard. She looked nervous so I reassured her that she was safe, I wouldn't do anything to hurt her and that calmed her. Then I kissed her. At that point, I went to the foot of the bed and sat on the floor facing her feet. I slowly removed one of her shoes and began to lightly tickle her foot. At first, she just wiggled her foot around and didn't laugh. but I started to say "tickle, tickle, tickle". and for some reason, she repeated that then started laughing hysterically. She would lift her head and look at me tickling her foot, then drop back down and laugh her head off. This went on for a few minutes, then I stopped and turned around and removed her other shoe and started on that foot. She was laughing madly now. I tickled that foot for a while, then started tickling both at the same time. She was going nuts now! After a bit, I stopped and gave her a rest. I moved up on the bed and straddled her waist. I kissed her for a bit then started to unbutton her shirt. I laied it open and started to tease her about how exposed her armpits were. She cried " oh babe". I wiggled my fingers over them and said "closer". She started giggling a lot, then laughing as I got closer until I touched them. She let out a screech, then laughed hysterically. Then, the silent laughter.
I tickled her on her feet again before I stopped. Then, with her still tied up, I pulled her pants and hose down and mounted her. That she liked. Then, while making love to her, I would occasionally tickle her armpits.
When it was all over, she never said anything about not liking the experience. She did like the ending part though. But the part that floored me was the next time she was over a few days later the first thing she said when we had retired to my bedroom was "do you want to tie me up again"?

 

[mabus]

My ex wife had the hots for me when we started dating and had never been tickled. Of course, I always tried every women I went out with to see if they were ticklish. My ex was very ticklish, but I had no idea at that time just how ticklish. A few weeks after we started dating, she was over, sitting on my couch with one foot under her with her shoe off. Of course, I gave her foot a quick tickle and she promptly pulled her foot away. I loved the feel of nylons, (which she wore all the time), so on a chance, I asked her if she had ever been tied up. She said "no". So, I asked her if she would like to try it. To my surprise, she said "sure". I don't think she had put two and two together. So, we went off to my bedroom and I asked her to lay on the bed. I tied her feet to the foot of the bed then tied her wrists to the headboard. She looked nervous so I reassured her that she was safe, I wouldn't do anything to hurt her and that calmed her. Then I kissed her. At that point, I went to the foot of the bed and sat on the floor facing her feet. I slowly removed one of her shoes and began to lightly tickle her foot. At first, she just wiggled her foot around and didn't laugh. but I started to say "tickle, tickle, tickle". and for some reason, she repeated that then started laughing hysterically. She would lift her head and look at me tickling her foot, then drop back down and laugh her head off. This went on for a few minutes, then I stopped and turned around and removed her other shoe and started on that foot. She was laughing madly now. I tickled that foot for a while, then started tickling both at the same time. She was going nuts now! After a bit, I stopped and gave her a rest. I moved up on the bed and straddled her waist. I kissed her for a bit then started to unbutton her shirt. I laied it open and started to tease her about how exposed her armpits were. She cried " oh babe". I wiggled my fingers over them and said "closer". She started giggling a lot, then laughing as I got closer until I touched them. She let out a screech, then laughed hysterically. Then, the silent laughter.
I tickled her on her feet again before I stopped. Then, with her still tied up, I pulled her pants and hose down and mounted her. That she liked. Then, while making love to her, I would occasionally tickle her armpits.
When it was all over, she never said anything about not liking the experience. She did like the ending part though. But the part that floored me was the next time she was over a few days later the first thing she said when we had retired to my bedroom was "do you want to tie me up again"?

Damn, and she's your EX? I'm sure there were other issues. And that kind of sums up relationships - there's so much more than just tickling, yet many folks here aim mainly for the tickling.

Does she respect you? Your beliefs? Dreams? Does she bring joy into your life, or drag you down? Do you love being with her, or can't wait until she goes away?

Those are the more important questions - because eventually, the tickling stops, and life resumes.

 

[Babbles]

Really well put.

Damn, and she's your EX? I'm sure there were other issues. And that kind of sums up relationships - there's so much more than just tickling, yet many folks here aim mainly for the tickling.

Does she respect you? Your beliefs? Dreams? Does she bring joy into your life, or drag you down? Do you love being with her, or can't wait until she goes away?

Those are the more important questions - because eventually, the tickling stops, and life resumes.

You really nailed it -- One of the best summaries I've seen.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Even if you found a girl off the TMF who wanted to date, odds you wouldn't be compatible anywhere except the bedroom.

This is like saying if you meet someone at a baseball game, odds are you won't have anything in common except a love for baseball.

I strongly disagree. I've met several amazing people here, and I have formed deep, strong friendships based on much more than tickling with many of them. There is no reason in the world a relationship that starts here can't bloom into something healthy and fulfilling in every way, sexual and otherwise.

I know quite a few people who have found their significant others here, and are incredibly happy with them. They get an amazing, healthy relationship in addition to being able to enjoy their fetish with someone who understands, appreciates and enjoys it as well.

In response to the OP, I would prefer to date someone I know is fetish-friendly than to find and convert a vanilla.

 

[maniactickler]

You really nailed it -- One of the best summaries I've seen.

Babbles, this is why we are destined to be SOLEmates.

 

[sasaxrah]

Even if you found a girl off the TMF who wanted to date, odds you wouldn't be compatible anywhere except the bedroom. The outside world has a much wider selection.

As Lyz said, this could be true of any relationship that starts with a common interest. My boyfriend and I met through the forum. We're still together a year and a half later. Tickling is a bonus to an already awesome relationship.

 

[myth77]

This is like saying if you meet someone at a baseball game, odds are you won't have anything in common except a love for baseball.

I strongly disagree. I've met several amazing people here, and I have formed deep, strong friendships based on much more than tickling with many of them. There is no reason in the world a relationship that starts here can't bloom into something healthy and fulfilling in every way, sexual and otherwise.

I know quite a few people who have found their significant others here, and are incredibly happy with them. They get an amazing, healthy relationship in addition to being able to enjoy their fetish with someone who understands, appreciates and enjoys it as well.

In response to the OP, I would prefer to date someone I know is fetish-friendly than to find and convert a vanilla.

THIS for the WIN 😀 !!! Right on!

 

[Destro]

I get the impression that Edge is looking for a real relationship that includes tickling. I'll tell you what happened to me a few years ago. I started dating a women and found out early on that she was deathly ticklish. I didn't do or say anything about it for quite a while. After we became close enough to where things became intimate, I looked for a chance to tickle her prior to one of our romantic interludes. The next time I saw her, I told her how for some reason I became incredibly turned on when I tickled her last night and I couldn't explain it. From then on, if I suggested tickling, she was all for it. I even asked her if it was too much for her. She was not really much into tickling, but when she saw how much she turned me on, she was always willing despite being deathly ticklish. The point is, if she is into you, she will willing submit to tickling just to make you happy and to give herself the feeling and power of how she can turn you on. What you must remember is when you "out" yourself, you must make it seem like this experience of tickling her is what turned you on. Do not say things about how you have had this fetish for years, etc. She must feel that she is special. My relationship with her had actually reached the point to where sometimes she would asked to be tied up and tickled half to death as a prelude to sex. Unfortunately, the relationship ended because of unrelated problems. So remember, telling a women early that you have a tickle fetish may creep her out. But waiting until you have that first tickle session with her and then telling her that she has caused the feeling may make her feel empowered over you.

 

[rhiannon]

This is like saying if you meet someone at a baseball game, odds are you won't have anything in common except a love for baseball.

I strongly disagree. I've met several amazing people here, and I have formed deep, strong friendships based on much more than tickling with many of them. There is no reason in the world a relationship that starts here can't bloom into something healthy and fulfilling in every way, sexual and otherwise.

I know quite a few people who have found their significant others here, and are incredibly happy with them. They get an amazing, healthy relationship in addition to being able to enjoy their fetish with someone who understands, appreciates and enjoys it as well.

In response to the OP, I would prefer to date someone I know is fetish-friendly than to find and convert a vanilla.

Of course it CAN happen that you find your SO at a site like this. But the chances of finding someone outside of a forum are way higher - especially if you are not female!

 

[Babbles]

The intent is good -

I get the impression that Edge is looking for a real relationship that includes tickling. I'll tell you what happened to me a few years ago. I started dating a women and found out early on that she was deathly ticklish. I didn't do or say anything about it for quite a while. After we became close enough to where things became intimate, I looked for a chance to tickle her prior to one of our romantic interludes. The next time I saw her, I told her how for some reason I became incredibly turned on when I tickled her last night and I couldn't explain it. From then on, if I suggested tickling, she was all for it. I even asked her if it was too much for her. She was not really much into tickling, but when she saw how much she turned me on, she was always willing despite being deathly ticklish. The point is, if she is into you, she will willing submit to tickling just to make you happy and to give herself the feeling and power of how she can turn you on. What you must remember is when you "out" yourself, you must make it seem like this experience of tickling her is what turned you on. Do not say things about how you have had this fetish for years, etc. She must feel that she is special. My relationship with her had actually reached the point to where sometimes she would asked to be tied up and tickled half to death as a prelude to sex. Unfortunately, the relationship ended because of unrelated problems. So remember, telling a women early that you have a tickle fetish may creep her out. But waiting until you have that first tickle session with her and then telling her that she has caused the feeling may make her feel empowered over you.

The only problem with that is that it's not really honest --- you should be able to --- eventually --- share fully & honestly all/who you are --- including your fantasies, history, etc... So they really know you, the person they might share their life with, or a significant part of it...

It's great to know you as a person spark someone's interest, and I'm sure *HER ticklishness in particular affected you, and that's sounds like excellent advice, to emphasize that --

but I wouldn't want a guy to mislead me, though with good intent, into thinking ---- wow, he just likes to tickle me alone --- if that comes with the false notion that (it's not a life-long fetish of his), if he makes it seem like *I triggered that ---

I'd feel foolish finding out later on that's not the case. Even if that information about your life-long fetish somehow didn't surface --- you'd have to continually worry about keeping that a secret...

Otherwise I'm sure you're right --- NOT to just SCARE the person off IMMEDIATELY either, who discusses intimate matters right away anyway (?!) in a real-world relationship ---- but to be gradual about it,

and you are correct that people will want to share or will tolerate unfamiliar things if they care about you, there should be compromise...

Of course it CAN happen that you find your SO at a site like this. But the chances of finding someone outside of a forum are way higher - especially if you are not female!

That seems to be too true --- I'm sure it's hard enough for WOMEN to find nice guys here 🙄 though they do exist, obviously, as this thread proves....

otherwise I'd have said "yeah, just meet someone here, and no worries about hiding or sugar-coating it!!" 😛
It has, it CAN happen, obviously, but --- the math's not in favor of the majority...

Babbles, this is why we are destined to be SOLEmates.

OK, ok, can't deny it, Primo Example right here, there are some REAL MEN in this Forum 😛 Even if they are Republicans... If I wasn't "involved" I'd take you up on it, even if.... omg a conservative....

😀

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[robmic]

Ticklish ex.....

Yes Mabus, there were other reasons for our split. but, for the interim, it was great! She was one of the most ticklish women that I ever knew. I was able to indulge often, which was great. It was other reasons that the relationship soured. What was interesting was, sometime after that, I met a gal that was almost as ticklish. She took a while longer to submit to being tied up, but after our first session, she to, asked for a repeat performance. Again, other issues caused us to separate. So, it seems that if you do the right things for your woman, tickling can be be something that could be a good thing for your sex life. Now, all you have to do is address the other issues so you can maintain a good relationship! 🙂
i would love to meet a woman from here. but, realistically, I think the chances are slim. But, being the eternal optimist, I won't give up hope! 😉 Ladies.............?