SemoreBellys
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first time jitters?
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it is perfectly normal to have the first time jitters..i know i did..when i made my first session with dtrell i backed out..although i gave him two weeks notice i think..he was pissed anyway but that's him lol....we did meet however later...he had forgiven my backing out...and yes i had the jitters...so much in fact that when he first began to tickle my feet, they didn't tickle at all..which worried me no end...so i suggested he tickle harder..which he did..i later found out that those non tickling sensations were normal when experiencing your first tickle session..because of my nerves...i was soo relieved as my feet are so ticklish..
just make sure you know the person very well...have talked with them on many occasions...and trust them completely before you allow them to tie you..
just make sure you know the person very well...have talked with them on many occasions...and trust them completely before you allow them to tie you..
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luvgirlsfeet
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With my first tickling experience I was nervous and thought of backing out but held on and went and had a blast. She never tied me up or tied her up we just took turns tickling the daylights out of each other all night long. To this day i can still see the soles of her feet in my mind and the majority of my tickle poems are dedicated to her..
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brianspencer66
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Everyone has those and its normal. Perhaps the first time you meet you dont have to act on your tickle urges and just get to know one another in person first. Then the second time you meet you can slowly take it from there. Try to keep in mind that the person your meeting may be just as nervous as you are but slowly things will work out and have a good time. Good luck to you.
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My fist time, I was very nervous and had butterflies almost to point where my stomach was getting upset and tied up in knots but I did my best ,took alot of deep breaths, and I was with a friend I trusted and in my perspective in hindsight I would have been upset with myself if I had backed out
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It's natural to have first time nervousness. It's best for your first real session to be with somebody that you know and trust. 😀
The other side of fear ...
An old saying is that the other side of fear is desire. It's the fear and desire felt at the same time that makes it exciting. I think it will help if your partner is an expert at tickling you first, and this may take time and practice, which is fun anyway.
I was scared to be tied and tickled the first time. In fact, I had some lady friends who were in the same boat as me: we had lovers who tickled us mercilessly every day, and they wanted to tie us and do it. So we shared our feelings on our jitters about it. What was the big deal, we said, we're getting held down and tickled endlessly anyway? The difference is submitting voluntarily. That's really asking for it.
Eventually, our desire overcame our fear, and eventually we all let ourselves be tied and tickled, and we shared our experiences with each other. We liked it so much, we wanted it again and again. The fear was sort of still there, but it turned into anticipation, and tied up, there's a lot of anticipation. I think half the fun of tickling is the anticipation. Sometimes we'll schedule the tie and tickle as much as two weeks in advance. That way we go nuts with anticipation. Of course, there's spontaneous tie and tickle. That's fun too!
An old saying is that the other side of fear is desire. It's the fear and desire felt at the same time that makes it exciting. I think it will help if your partner is an expert at tickling you first, and this may take time and practice, which is fun anyway.
I was scared to be tied and tickled the first time. In fact, I had some lady friends who were in the same boat as me: we had lovers who tickled us mercilessly every day, and they wanted to tie us and do it. So we shared our feelings on our jitters about it. What was the big deal, we said, we're getting held down and tickled endlessly anyway? The difference is submitting voluntarily. That's really asking for it.
Eventually, our desire overcame our fear, and eventually we all let ourselves be tied and tickled, and we shared our experiences with each other. We liked it so much, we wanted it again and again. The fear was sort of still there, but it turned into anticipation, and tied up, there's a lot of anticipation. I think half the fun of tickling is the anticipation. Sometimes we'll schedule the tie and tickle as much as two weeks in advance. That way we go nuts with anticipation. Of course, there's spontaneous tie and tickle. That's fun too!
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I was scared shitless at my first NEST and had no desire to be tickled at all, let alone tied up, but after meeting a lot of people and realizing they weren't psychotic like I'd feared, I calmed down and had fun.
Basically, you just have to be comfortable with whoever you're playing with, there needs to be a level of trust there, and rules and boundaries need to be discussed before-hand.
Basically, you just have to be comfortable with whoever you're playing with, there needs to be a level of trust there, and rules and boundaries need to be discussed before-hand.
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I recently attended my first gathering and had my first real session, and for me I was honestly more nervous about if I would be ticklish enough than the actual session itself. All I can say is try to at least talk a little bit to the tickler beforehand if it isn't going to be someone you know really well. Other than that, defeating nervousness is really just a function of will and maintaining a positive attitude towards the upcoming experience. You wouldn't be here asking this if you didn't think you like to be tickled, so just make sure that the tickler knows that it is your first time, and most likely you will both have lots of fun discovering just how ticklish you are, as well as all the spots. I know I had a blast and the 15 minutes flew by too quickly.
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i know that even if i get into the position to be tickled by someone i know, i still get jittery. tickling is exhilarating, but to be tickled by someone who has never done so before...i still imagine myself getting nervous and even a bit flighty.
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When I was first tied up, we had discussed it for a while beforehand, I also had no issues with trusting him as I did and still do, I was nervous, not sure what to expect would I be as ticklish or would I get myself in such a state that I wouldn't react at all. I was also very excited by the prospect of it, being helpless and just got at, so for me that excitement overrode any anxiety I had 🙂
Now, I love to be tied/cuffed up sometimes I even say, I want to be cuffed up and of course he never lets me down, hmm wonder why that is mwahaha 😉
When I was first tied up, we had discussed it for a while beforehand, I also had no issues with trusting him as I did and still do, I was nervous, not sure what to expect would I be as ticklish or would I get myself in such a state that I wouldn't react at all. I was also very excited by the prospect of it, being helpless and just got at, so for me that excitement overrode any anxiety I had 🙂
Now, I love to be tied/cuffed up sometimes I even say, I want to be cuffed up and of course he never lets me down, hmm wonder why that is mwahaha 😉
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Get familiar and comfortable first
I think it probably helps a lot to get familiar and comfortable with someone before trying something like tickling, which can be kind of personal, especially if you don't know the other person very well yet. A level of familiarity and comfort, no matter how long it takes to develop, will likely make the tickling experience much better because it's easier to relax and enjoy each other's company----being nervous might make the whole situation difficult and uncomfortable. Then it could be doomed to failure before it ever gets off the ground.
I think it probably helps a lot to get familiar and comfortable with someone before trying something like tickling, which can be kind of personal, especially if you don't know the other person very well yet. A level of familiarity and comfort, no matter how long it takes to develop, will likely make the tickling experience much better because it's easier to relax and enjoy each other's company----being nervous might make the whole situation difficult and uncomfortable. Then it could be doomed to failure before it ever gets off the ground.
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My first time was somewhat unique in that I was taken by surprise. I didn't realize that it was going to be a bondage encounter until it was too late to do anything about it. Fortunately, it was with someone I really cared about and trusted, and it all ended well... but I still had jitters.
My first time was somewhat unique in that I was taken by surprise. I didn't realize that it was going to be a bondage encounter until it was too late to do anything about it. Fortunately, it was with someone I really cared about and trusted, and it all ended well... but I still had jitters.
