First time

[skipsfirstspike]

Hello all, I am new to this site and new to tickling in general, but VERY interested...
I am a straight female.
I was in a relationship for 13 years, and was very Unpleasantly ticklish. He was not even trying to tickle me, but any light touch along my sides or anywhere he would touch on his way down on me would evoke a strong negative reaction on my part. I did not enjoy it--at all.
However, things have changed.
I have been in a new relationship for the last 7 months, and it is just amazing. The trust I have for this man is very strong, and he loves me on a level I have never experienced before. When he touches me--I tingle.
He can touch me all over with the lightest of strokes, and it just about drives me wild. He has a mustache and goatee, and uses it to full advantage. I have absolutely been fantasizing about him tieing me up and tickling me all over. Also lots of fantasies about me doing the same thing to him.
I have been very turned on recently by stories/videos of men being tied down and slowly edged and tickled, brought to the brink again and again, before finally being allowed their massive release.
So any suggestions for a first timer would be greatly appreciated. I don't have any real 'bondage' equipment.. would men's ties be adequate? M y bed has a frame, but no posts. Ideas for tying? I don't want anything too crazy yet, no hog tying or anything, just want to tie him so I have access to his underarms to his thighs, not so much into foot tickling.. yet.
Also, I don't want to scare him by tickling TOO much-- he is new to this as well. But I think he is open to it.. he is Very nipple sensitive, and goes wild when I play with them while going down on him.
So Any ideas, suggestions and comments are very welcome on how to make this first time pleasurable without going overboard.
Thanks!

 

[LD_Tickler]

First up, welcome to the TMF from a fellow Canuck.

As for your situation, I'd advise patience. Sounds like you've got a good thing going, no need to rush it - especially when it comes to things like bondage. Even simple bondage done poorly is surprisingly dangerous.
I'd advise you run the thought past him, and see what he thinks. He doesn't sound like he'll be frightened away by the notion.

 

[skipsfirstspike]

Thanks LD!
Actually we have discussed it many times. It is not a matter of if, but when. And maybe who should be tied first, lol.
We are very open and free sexually (That in itself is very new for me). When I pleasure him, I am already incorporating edging, teasing etc. This morning I also gently tickled under his knees and his inner thighs during, and seemed to get a good reaction. Also, he knows that while I am going down on him, I like him to keep his arms up. So we are almost there.
But I've never full out tickled him, I'm not too sure if he would like that.

 

[ElFewja]

Welcome~

Improv bondage is pretty easy, albeit unreliable. I used a scarf once, which while effective, wasn't as effective as I would have liked. I've tied things - as in not people - with socks before, and I think coats can work but... well, you're risking damaging your stuff. Already stated was that bondage can be dangerous if not done well, so you should definitely research techniques further if possible, though I guess you're doing that by posting here.

Chairs are wonderful to tie people to, by the way.

As for bondage... well, you can tie the person to something, or tie their limbs together. That's really all you can do. As I said, I recommend chairs; they're convenient. Tables can work, but I mean, if you're hard pressed, just wrapping a length of something around the wrists (arms behind back or above head) and wrists works well enough. Not the best, but it works.

As for your situation, I would recommend tickle play before bondage; that is, although it seems you have tickle fights, a good hour or so devoted just to tickling, so to speak. You don't need bondage for it to be good/fun, and the rolling about/fighting etc. can be just as entertaining.

When you say you have discussed it many times, are you referring to bondage? I assume as much since you say that you're not so sure he'd be into tickling.

At any rate, just let him know you're interested. A lot of people tend to make a big thing out of it when it really isn't one; there are a ton of coming-out-of-the-tickling-closet stories around if you wanted to check those for reference. How you do it...eh.. you could just have the tickle fight for a little while, mention it's getting you turned on and go from there, or just sit down and talk about it. Doesn't really matter that much if the relationship is as solid as you think it is.

If you want more info or more specific etc., then etc.

Etc~

 

[tkpolo]

Welcome, I'm sure you'll find everything your looking for here.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Simple - communication. As he's done to you, "listen" to your partner. You'll know what to do. And I don't mean verbal cues. 😉

 

[eric33]

Welcome to the site,..i,m a ler so i can't offer much advise , but listen to these people, they have great advice ,..personally i don't think i,ll ever stop learning from these folks .

 

[paracarl44]

Welcome skipsfirstspike.

WELCOME TO THE TMF! There are many sections to this forum, take your time and look them all over. It seems that you found a very compatible companion. HAPPY TICKLES TO YOU!