foot tickling/ massage conflict, need advice

[dcbahr]

Hi all,

Yes, this is yet another foot tickling question. I met this girl who I really do lke, a great personality but I really didn't know what her body looked like. I had given her a hug but that was about it. Well, tonight, I ended up see her feet and legs, and she seems to have great feet, I'd say a size 6 or so, maybe 7 from the feel of them.

anyway, we were sitting at a table and I reached down with the itent to massage her foot, she seems pretty open to physicality. She raised her foot, I gave it a few rubs and then she squealed and jerked her foot away saying it tickled. I knew she wa ticklish a lot of places by this point, sorry if the spelling's bad I've had one too many, I'm blind drunk! Ha!

Anyway, I really would like to give a foot massage, just as a friendly courtasy, but I've hit two walls. First, she's too ticklish, which I like but she doesn't, she's already said, "feet are off limits." Which leads in to the second problem, that being she doesn't like having her feet touched, even her firends said, "yeah she's got a weird feet thing." Well, I know there has been a lot about feet and tickling and feet and all, but I post it here because I think you guys can give me advice that won't just be like, "don't touch," I like both of them. Now I know that's the sensible thing to do, but as many of us who are in to both are aware of, it's hard to do.

Belive me this is not the only reason I'm interested in, I love her laugh, and her personality, and her sense of humor. I was conscientous (can't spell that), if I was too physical wit her, as blind people tend to be tha way since we can't look people in the eye. I've had problems where with females that went overboard. i knew she was pretty from the hg, but hadn't gotten to see anything else, don't worry I wasn't groping.

Ok, sorry, I'm rambling, but can anyon give me advice on this dilema? If you don't want to post here, feel to send me a privat message. I hope I explained this well enough.

Thanks guys, later,
Dave

 

[Stugots]

"anyway, we were sitting at a table and I reached down with the itent to massage her foot, she seems pretty open to physicality. She raised her foot, I gave it a few rubs and then she squealed and jerked her foot away saying it tickled."

"she's already said, 'feet are off limits.' Which leads in to the second problem, that being she doesn't like having her feet touched, even her firends said, 'yeah she's got a weird feet thing.'"


The good news is her feet are sensitive and that means you can make her feel really good with stimulation to her feet. She's weirded out not by feet, but from the pleasurable sensations she gets from having her feet touched. If her feet were really off limits.. she would have a. not allowed you to touch her feet when you two were at the table and b. she wouldn't have been barefoot around you.

A big mistake foot fetish guys make around women is they're too direct and obsessed in their communication of the topic and they present it in a way that only benefits themselves (it doesn't even benefit the woman's feet in most cases). It's a total turn off and if there is one thing every man must learn with regards to women...it's not to be sexually selfish!

Assuming this girl is attracted to you...what you need to do is build more comfort with her and then communicate your foot fetish in an indirect way. Get this girl acquainted with and comfortable with your touch. Use the web or read books on massage and reflexology. Massage her scalp, neck/shoulders, hands, and/or back to make her feel good. When she's feeling good, stop massaging her and just sit back and enjoy the mood.

You know she'll be feeling good from your touch if she's relaxed and even comments on it, if she compliments you on your touch, if she moans, or if she happens to be a smart ass. The smart ass will make a comment like, "I can get use to this."

You must pause the massage and break when you have her feeling good because it will leave her wanting to be touched by you more. She'll also wonder just how good your touch is on her R and X rated areas and even her feet.

A common mistake inexperienced or "nice guys" make is they figure continuing with the massage when she's feeling good will really bolster the experience. Little do they know they are not creating any kind of comfort, suspense or anticipation, or even curiosity...which are so important in an interaction with women and making them feel good.

So, pick a body part to massage that isn't R or X or fetish related. I suggest you start off with her hands. Learn how to read her palms (palmistry) and tell her about her personality. Then start rubbing your thumbs into her palms applying gentle pressure and maybe slowly stroke up her wrist and the inside of her forearm to her elbow and back to her wrist with your fingertips. Try making as little contact with her skin as possible because if you touch the little hairs on her arms it creates quite a response.

Educate her on nerve endings in her hands and how certain medical problems such as headaches can be relieved through hand massage. P.S. The way to relieve a headache is to pinch, massage, and apply pressure in web of skin between the thumb and index finger on each hand (on the right hand for aches more toward the left side of her head and on the left hand for aches more toward the right side of her head).

When you pause and break from stimulating her through her hands, pass the time by talking to her about how massaging other areas can make her feel. Hands and Feet are the most neglected body parts. Depending upon her mood and if she's into you, maybe you could bring up feet and how feet are loaded with so many nerves and that you noticed hers were quite sensitive from the table experience. And that sensitivity is a great thing to have and be aware of because so many women are not aware of how good their feet can make them feel and it really deprives them. Be bold and tease her with that. Tell her she'll die a virgin or worse...a bored virgin. Mentally healthy women love trying new things and having fun.

I've turned women on and brought them through orgasms from massaging, tickling, licking, and sucking on their feet and toes...so, I let them know it's possible for them to feel so good from stimulation to just their feet and I tease them with the bored virgin line. Only mention this sort of thing if you can perform, though...because if she's into you, one of her legs or both will swing onto your lap!

Once you do gain her trust and she is comfortable with you touching her feet, don't forget there was a time when she wasn't and now she completely trusts you! So, you better indulge her with your foot fetish in a way that makes her feel good as well as yourself.

 

[maniactickler]

Move on!

 

[isabeau]

ok...my feet are very ticklish, however when i was a bit younger, they were as ticklish and sensitive as your girlfriend...and off limits to anyone...the only way i would allow my husband to massage my feet was to actuallly grab his hands, and guide him to my feet...and told him to grab my feet firmly, not soft..and to massage as hard as he could...not hurting, but not tickling either...anything other than rubbing fairly firmly would tickle like crazy...that isn't going to help your wanting to tickle her, but if you can get her used to her feet being touched, it might be a start...and maybe like i did, she will eventually grow to actually be able to stand having her feet not only massaged, but tickled as well..

 

[jk666uk]

Move on!

sorry man move on as well

 

[dcbahr]

Hi again, thanks for the advice. I can understand the two sides given to me so far, and if anyone has any good ideas for massage techniques, could you please pm me? Or what has worked?

I understand the two people who have said to move one, however, there is more to this girl than her ticklishness and her feet. I would like to try and se what comes of this if anything, and to Melany's post, thanks for that idea. I had thought that I was rubbing firmly enough, but she still said it tickled, so who knows.

Thoughts are still ver much appreciated and opinions welcome.

Thanks,
Dave

 

[maniactickler]

Hi again, thanks for the advice. I can understand the two sides given to me so far, and if anyone has any good ideas for massage techniques, could you please pm me? Or what has worked?

I understand the two people who have said to move one, however, there is more to this girl than her ticklishness and her feet. I would like to try and se what comes of this if anything, and to Melany's post, thanks for that idea. I had thought that I was rubbing firmly enough, but she still said it tickled, so who knows.

Thoughts are still ver much appreciated and opinions welcome.

Thanks,
Dave

Thats your decision. depends on how strong your tickling fetish is. there are no exceptions for me. if your not crazy ticklish, then i have no interest in you regardless of your looks or personality. not for anything long term anyway.

 

[E-Dawg]

Handle with Care

My girlfriend is ticklish on her feet, which I love. But she hates her feet being tickled. So I am very careful when I am massaging her feet.

 

[kis123]

If you show a little patience and some self-control, she can be convinced! Why do I know this....glad you asked! Because I was the same type person long before I knew about the tickling community. I never let guys touch my feet because I had a complex about them; they aren't small and dainty. Actually, there wider and the arches are flatter than other women's feet. It's genetic so it can't be helped; even my daughter with an athletic figure has slimmer feet but somewhat flatter arches.

One man had the patience and curiosity to catch me at a vulnerable moment. My feet were aching and he volunteered to give a foot massage. It started out the usual rub, then I noticed the touch changed; needless to say I nearly jumped out of my skin! His next response was; "this is not meant to tickle!" Well, speak for your friggin' self was my reply! But shortly thereafter it became one of the most erotic and sensual experiences I've yet to have and it was pretty explosive. I can guarantee you that if you give her a sensual foot massage, she'll open up to other things-even tickling if it gets her that feeling again. Have some tradeoff time; some tickling for you, and orgasmic foot massage for her. She'd be crazy not to!