For those of you in a serious relationship

[nosforatiop]

Does your significant other (married or not) approve of you tickling others? Do you approve of them tickling others? Just curious.
Thanks

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Drew and I are both switches....though I'm more lee and he's more ler. We play with other folks somewhat regularly. The difference for us as opposed to some folks is that tickling is entirely playful and not sexual when playing with others. When playing with others, we tend to lean towards those for whom this is also true. If it were only sexual in nature for us, it would be an issue. Then, we wouldn't play with anyone else.

Ann

 

[venray]

Same with Tracy and I. Nothing sexual just pure fun when we play with others. We are secure enough in our relationship to let each other enjoy playing with other people......



Ray

 

[tkrexx]

Believe it or not, this issue has never come up with my Wife and I. I've never brought it up, nor have I tickled any other for the length of our marriage. We've never been to a gathering, tho, because I know she would be uncomfortable, and I won't attend one without her. I never want to give her any reason to ponder the idea that I may have been cheating.

I'm sure that one day it'll happen, tho, that an opportunity will be too good to pass up and I'll make another woman scream (By TICKLING her, O ye of dirty minds!). I just hope that time will come when my Wife is present, so she can see I CAN tickle another and NOT be interested in anything else.

Fidelis Rxx

 

[TicklishSinner]

Jester and I have a very open relationship and we would love to attend a gathering some day just because it would be fun to be able to tickle others as well as get tickled by others, we have set boundries with tickling others and being tickled by others, such as no tickling certain areas and stuff like that

 

[ali32]

I am getting married later this year (to tickletoy3) and intend to to keep tickling others. We have discussed this several times and although he is not thrilled to bits about it, he knows I need this to be happy. There are boundaries of course, which I would have even if I wasn't married (for example, no nudity, no sex, no tickling certain places). I don't intend to do this behind my guy's back. When I do it, its just fun tickling, and I am lucky to have someone so understanding. I, of course, would be very happy for him to be tickled by others, with the same boundaries.

ali32

 

[TickledToDeath]

Does your significant other (married or not) approve of you tickling others? Do you approve of them tickling others? Just curious.
Thanks

Yes on both parts of your question.
We are both switches. So long as it is JUST tickling and we KNOW it's is going to happen before it happens on both ends.
Knowledge out of plain respect.

TTD

 

[Majestic]

Daddy and I tickle others occasionally, and like Ann said, it is playful and not of a sexual nature. As a couple we know there are boundaries and we stick to them out of respect for each other.

Majestic

 

[EvlJester]

I know that if me and Smurfy went to a gathering together that we both would have fun.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Drew and I are both switches....though I'm more lee and he's more ler. We play with other folks somewhat regularly. The difference for us as opposed to some folks is that tickling is entirely playful and not sexual when playing with others. When playing with others, we tend to lean towards those for whom this is also true. If it were only sexual in nature for us, it would be an issue. Then, we wouldn't play with anyone else.

Ann

The last time we drove to Connecticut, we went to JPie's house. At one point, I was the one in restraints...and would you believe, my wife joined in with the others?

This might happen on Sunday too...😛

 

[natural tickler]

Well, my wife isn't as passioned a tickler as I am, (only in revenge type situations does she tickle), but we both have an understanding we will be tickled by others, and tickle other people. As long as we both remember where home is, there is no conflict. The moment either one of us forgets, it will be reminded to us very quickly😀

 

[TummyDragon]

The difference for us as opposed to some folks is that tickling is entirely playful and not sexual when playing with others. When playing with others, we tend to lean towards those for whom this is also true. If it were only sexual in nature for us, it would be an issue. Then, we wouldn't play with anyone else.

Ann

That's Rio and I as well. While we've never actually "played" with others, we've had some serious discussions about it. Though between us it can be extremely sexy, sexual, etc. The idea of playing with others is just not the same type of thing. It's definately a non sexual "fantasy" of ours to tickle with another couple.

As far as "approving". Neither one of us approves of meeting and playing with others one on one. There's just too much risk there on various levels, but as a couple, it's all fun and good.

 

[del]

All relationships are serious

All relationships are serious

 

[AffectionateDan]

Communication is everything.

Ya gotta be honest and on the same page with each other about everything, or else insecurity is gonna fester into outright resentment. My honeybunny and I play well with others, and we tell each other everything, so there's no surprises later. Nothing sexual, and it's with people we've known for years from the community. Everyone knows each other's boundaries, so there's never an issue.

Life is good!

 

[unclebill]

Well thought out post Dan. Being honest with each other is by far the best way to go. On the other hand you may be flirting with a date in divorce court if your spouse catches you doing tickling sessions with others.

 

[del]

Everyone knows each other's boundaries?

. . . . . . . Everyone knows each other's boundaries, so there's never an issue. . . . . .

Life is good! [/B]

Is this 100% true in your experience?

Yes, life is good.

 

[Bagelfather]

tickling out of a relationship

Aquafeline and I have had the discussion of playing with others. We play at the gatherings we have been at before. Sometimes I am in the same room she is in tickling her or tickling others and she is present, or she is in another room tickling another lee.

We have talked also about playing outside of a gathering situation and have set the limits of such play. She has found a nice male lee who she plays with and also is a lee to him on occasion. I don't feel threatened at all by such actions. Mind you if this was 2 years ago I probably wouldn't be feeling the same way. It depends on the people involved and the relationship you have formed.

 

[drew70]

My wife knows I love being tickled. When we visit her country in South America, she sometimes encourages her female relatives to tickle me. I go to NEST every year. I think she was a little uncomfortable about that at first, but now sees that yes, I actually do come back home. 😀

 

[Ayla ny]

I am the honeybunny that Dan refers to, and since he can’t answer right now (I “fixed” his computer while I was out there… ), I figured I would chime in.

since we met at a gathering… tickling others was obviously going to be an issue we would need to address.

I can really really (really!) understand how jealousy could be an issue… but, if approached in a completely open and honest way, it can just be another way to share something you both love. there are parts of it that will always only be shared between the two of us… but I do have to admit that I just love seeing that grin just before he strikes. and knowing that I am not going to be on the receiving end of what makes that grin… makes ME grin! oh… and ummm… pity for the poor dear who WILL be… (are you buying that? I said it with a straight face…)

we’ve been doing a long distance relationship (incredibly well, I might add) for almost two years now, and I guess that in itself takes a certain amount of security in what we have and trust in the fact that we both want to keep it (and mushy stuff like love and commitment) but it also takes some very real communication. we never go into a situation wondering how the other will react/feel. we know. and what the other feels is what matters most.

so I guess I can sum it up by saying this. if it’s a part of sharing your love of tickling… then yes, you can approve of your significant other tickling others.

and enjoy it even. 😀

encourage it…

bait it…

hold her down for it…

you know… 😉

 

[AffectionateDan]

Re: Everyone knows each other's boundaries?

Is this 100% true in your experience?

Yes, life is good.

Nearly 100%, yes. There are always going to be exceptions, where despite honesty and communication, there are misunderstandings or just plain outright denial going on. But for the most part, yes, absolutely true.

so I guess I can sum it up by saying this. if it’s a part of sharing your love of tickling… then yes, you can approve of your significant other tickling others.

and enjoy it even. 😀

encourage it…

bait it…

hold her down for it…

you know… 😉

See? Isn't she great, Gang? I've said it before, I'll say it again...

Life is GOOD. 😉