Fortune Favors The Bold

[korovan]

A Challenge!

Occasionally I browse through the Member Profiles... you know... clicking on the handles that seem cool to me or intrigueing somehow. But I've noticed something... almost no one says where they are from. Why is that?
I understand all about the anonymity of the Web, and all. Part of the appeal for many, sure. But...
As much as I like to read posts, and write posts, and take tickle-polls, and chat... I would even more like to meet tickle philes in my area. men, women, lers, lees, whatever. Naturally,I have my preferences: I am a straight man and a ler,so am most interested in lady lees... but just a face to face conversation with anyone would be great. It would make me feel less alone in this particular way.
It seems to me that if we were all a little more open in sharing info of this sort it would help 'the community' move out of the Web and into the real world, where it could prosper even more.
Of course, no one is going to list his/her street address or home phone #... I sure as hell am not! But I am not so paranoid that I think putting 'Seattle' as my location compromises my privacy or personal safety/security. And anyone looking for a contact in Seattle can email me (I am not shy about listing a hotmail address either) and we can it from there... or take it nowhere... whatever....
My point is that it would help us all to come together in a more ... well, REAL way if we, all of us (yes, you too, hiding in the back) went to our own profiles and put in a city (or even a state!) into the appropriate space.
That's my challenge: tell us all where you are.
Think about it. What could it hurt? and... think of the possible rewards.

 

[Maria_Rose]

I wouldn't put the name of the town I'm from, because if anyone who knows me happened to find this site they would find me out 😱
In particular, there is one person whom I know is a tickler who I think could possibly find this site (god forbid) and who would probably harm me if he figured out who was making these posts. All it would take is for him to read enough of them and piece it together. I know this is extreme paranoia talking, I'm up at 3 AM worrying so this is not my best time of day to answer this question. Please don't let me scare anyone out of putting their location in their profile, it is a perfectly safe thing to do for most people. That's just my own reasoning.

 

[Novus]

Harmed?

In particular, there is one person whom I know is a tickler who I think could possibly find this site and who would probably harm me if he figured out who was making these posts. All it would take is for him to read enough of them and piece it together.

By "harmed" do you fear he will tickle you because you said he is a tickler or do you mean "harmed" as in a psyco way? If he really is into tickling he could be one of us and reading this right now. Anyhow caution is always needed on the internet because you never know who is out there reading this.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

what trash

how can anyone know who anyone is by listing the state you live in??? pu-lease!
if folks don't want to list their location, that's their right. but then why list a profile at all?
i live in a north west suburb of chicago illinois. there, now what? am i supposed to cower in fear? why, for heavens sake? i've pissed off more than a few people on the internet, mostly fellow tickphiles, but nothing has ever happened to me, and never will!
come on people, stop being so freaking chicken shit!
steve

 

[TickledToDeath]

I wouldn't put the name of the town I'm from, because if anyone who knows me happened to find this site they would find me out 😱
In particular, there is one person whom I know is a tickler who I think could possibly find this site (god forbid) and who would probably harm me if he figured out who was making these posts. All it would take is for him to read enough of them and piece it together. I know this is extreme paranoia talking, I'm up at 3 AM worrying so this is not my best time of day to answer this question. Please don't let me scare anyone out of putting their location in their profile, it is a perfectly safe thing to do for most people. That's just my own reasoning.

A point and observational question, if I may.

If someone you know found this site, that person would be "looking for it", no? This is not a site one, stumbles accross accidentally when looking for ESPN or a shopping site.
You would at least have to be searching the catagory making that person "One of Us". Wherein lies the harm or foul?

Maria, not to get personal but, is there a subplot to you wishing to avoid this ONE person you mentioned? Why/How would he "harm" you?


I have found that people here in the TMF tend to protect and or worry about one another as well as care.
Present company included.


TTD

 

[qjakal]

Dammit!

I misread the title...lol..thought it said Fortune Favors The B(a)ld! I was just going to jump in and agree! The subconscious mind at work.... Q

 

[TickledToDeath]

Re: Dammit!

I misread the title...lol..thought it said Fortune Favors The B(a)ld! I was just going to jump in and agree! The subconscious mind at work.... Q

I, for a quick moment saw the same thing! As a bald by choice man myself, I too would agree if that were the title!

Just think of the money we save on hair products and maintainence?!

TTD😉 😀

 

[BigJim]

Well I've listed just about eerything except my telephone number on the TMF and I've had zero luck in 2 years of being a member. I guess that's the difference of the title of this thread and "fortune doesn't favour the desperate!"

 

[ontheverge]

I have to say that I'm an offender because I actually fudge the truth about where I'm located. My profile says Philadelphia, but I actually live in Southern New Jersey (about a 5 minute drive from Center City Philly).

I won't be more specific, however, because of my job. I am a teacher. For every tolerant individual in the world, there are surely a dozen or so who would view my tickling affinity as deviant and therefore harmful to the teenagers I teach. While my work and my bedroom never merge, there always seem to be folks who assume otherwise. I can't allow that to happen.

Chicken Shit? Possibly, but I do not see a reasonable alternative.

 

[Biggles of 266]

the way I figure it... if someone wants to find out where you're from and they're halfway serious about it, they'll be able to do it whether or not you put your state on your profile. If someone really wants to crack my hotmail address, there's nothing I can do about it, so why worry?

Biggles

 

[Phineas]

come on people, stop being so freaking chicken shit!

arena, the depths of your ignorance never cease to astound me.

in case you've forgotten, there are a lot of unstable people in the world. many of them are men. they have a tendency to latch onto women. they become possessive, and sometimes violent. I know this first-hand because I don't have a single female friend who HASN'T had problems with a guy who didn't feel like taking "no" for an answer... and that was local. Now compound the issue by letting many more people come in contact with you via the Internet. more potential for crazies when you factor in the entire country (I won't go so far as to say world, here).

you have nothing to fear because you're a man. women must be careful on the internet. especially in sex-oriented forums where a lot of the men go looking for someone to "play" with.

geez.

 

[Biggles of 266]

you have nothing to fear because you're a man.

what about if Bubba-Joe from Chicago sees Steve's pic in the members section, thinks he's cute, and one day Steve wakes up in a scene from Deliverance? It could happen to guys too... but Steve isn't worried.

Biggles

 

[TickledToDeath]

Careful, safe and causious is one thing. Letting it engulf your life in a world cloaked and you are in need of therapy or perscription meds. Fantasy worlds are nice to visit but LIVING in one is disturbingly unhealthy.
You cannot live in a world if distrust regardless of the occaisional deal gone bad.
Being bold to the world is one thing. However you should be at least OPEN to your closest friends and to yourself.
Live life. If you don't, you are a prisoner within your own body and mind.


TTD😉

 

[Phineas]

TTD,

please explain to me how not wanting to advertise your home city to the world in order to avoid unwanted "attention" from web crazies equates to living in a fantasy realm or suffering from paranoia?

 

[BigJim]

what about if Bubba-Joe from Chicago sees Steve's pic in the members section, thinks he's cute, and one day Steve wakes up in a scene from Deliverance?

Biggles

Squeal piggy, squeal!!!!!!!!!


HOOOWWWWWWWWWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[korovan]

TTD,

please explain to me how not wanting to advertise your home city to the world in order to avoid unwanted "attention" from web crazies equates to living in a fantasy realm or suffering from paranoia?

I know this was addressed to TTD, but...

Everyone has a right to protect themselves in whatever way they see fit, of course. Nobody should expose themselves in a manner they feel is unwise. But....

Well, maybe I just not web-savvy enough, but I just can't see how listing a home city can be a problem. How could anyone cause problems for me when all they know is that I'm in Seattle? When I say 'problems' I mean REAL problems in the REAL world, not just unwanted emails asking me to 'tickle-party'. I get spam all the time: I delete it and get on with life.

So, unless there is a way for someone to deduce my 'secret identity', my address, or my phone number from the sparse clues in my profile (korovan, seattle, massage therapist, etc) I don't CARE if anyone knows I'm in Seattle. In fact, the whole point is that I DO want people to know where I am, so that I CAN be contacted by liked-minded people in my area. If I get unpleasant, offensive, or otherwise-undesirable emails... I'll DELETE them, and hope the next one is better... what's the problem?

I guess what I'm saying is that if you really don't want to put your city or email ... then don't. OK. No problem. Whatever. But... if you haven't really thought about it before, or just forgot... think about it now and take a minute to update your profile, if you find it a good idea for you. Maybe you'll get some emails. It's a buffet: take what you want and discard the rest (with appropriate courtesy, of course).

I guess I just don't see much risk at all, compared to the chance to make new friends and contacts.

Korovan

 

[Deleted member 2452]

well phineass i don't think too much of you either

as for not wanting to be set up as a target, then why put up a profile at all, hmm?
my you live in quite a town! i grew up in chicago, and i don't know one woman who has been sexually molested, as a personal friend that is. what the heck are you doing in that town of yours?!
biggles raised a good point, i have said where in live, i have posted a picture, so i could be a target for a homo rapist again. but now i have a gun, no i have several guns! all large caliber🙂 . so no, i'm not too worried.
on the verge, you and i discussed your unique situation before, and i agreed with your reasoning, if you remember.
steve

 

[qjakal]

Security

Perhaps some of you might like to check this site out...it's a well written piece of code with good info:

https://grc.com/x/ne.dll?bh0bkyd2


Internet security is a complicated vast subject. Basic precauitions are a good idea for a variety of reasons. Spend a bit of time on it...it's important. Q

 

[mabus]

Unfortunately, Maria, if this guy already has access to the internet, and likes tickling, he's already here. I recent development has occurred that kind of nice for us, but you won't like. A while back, if you went into Google, and typed up "tickling," the first site that came up I think was Tickling Terri's site (that bastard!) and this forum wasn't even on there, unless it was ten pages down. Recently, in the last several months, we must have grown folks, because if you go into Google or Yahoo, and type up tickling, the first two links you get are The Tickling Media Forum! Yeah! But sadly, again, if he can use a computer, and ever typed up tickling in the last year, this is the first place he saw.

But you left open a mystery that I wish you give us more facts on, if you choose. Who is this guy, is he just an annoying tickler, is he insane, how do you know he is even a tickler? If he doesn't know you are a tickler now, how will he find out if he comes here, is your name Maria Rose in real life?

I have to agree with areenactor and some of the others, yet I am disagreeing with no one. I mean, you guys are the only people who know me as mabus. There could be someone here, typing away and leaving messages here, that I work with, see everyday, and have no clue because they use an alias also. If I said, this is the city I live in a the exact place I work, people STILL couldn't find me, because there are over a hundred workers there. I am in Lousiana, and from the looks of it, and the people I meet everyday, this state is DEVOID of ticklers or tickees. There may be ticklers, but certainly no ticklees. If you are too afriad in Canada, come to old Louisiana, just don't expect to get tickled any time soon. I've always said, I can live till I'm 90, and I know I will never meet another person with a tickling fetish. I could see someone everyday who has one, and will never know.

I think this whole thread is a fantasy, one that will never happen to me, but may happen to other people -like all those "I met this ticklish girl" thread verifies. This is not a flame to korovan, don't get me wrong my friend. Well, I share your wish, and I think I know where you're coming from. If it happens to you, ALL RIGHT! But it ain't going to happen to me.

Okay, here we go, this is what I think he mean in this thread. I know others of you have this fantasy as well, so you can't criticize. You get on this board, expecting a bunch of wierd guys. You get, instead, a bunch of normal people, who share our tickling love. Then you see there are a lot of girls here. A few have displayed their photograph in the member's section. You see normal looking guys and girls there, and it feels great, "hey, there are people just like me here" I'm sure the girls have fantasies of meeting great looking guys who want to be tickled or tickle them. Well, we guys look and say "Damn! Most of those women are absolutely beautiful! WOW!" And we imagine the great luck of meeting a beautiful girl with a great laugh who loves being tickled. But there are none around us. So, we fantasize. We imagine, (but stop there) beautiful girls we know, and that maybe, just maybe, they are members of his board, and we'll discover each other and laugh till there's no tomorrow. And we imagine that we'll meet a beautiful member of this board one day, who sought us out for a tickling. Like, I'll be working somewhere stacking folders on shelves on a slow day at work, and all of a sudden a beautiful pair of pantyhose clad feet in high heeled sandals will stop right next to me, and I'll look up and see Slave4tickles! or BettyBoop2002! or tonipooh24! or eroticticklee! or (I'll stop there, the list gets long) and I'll be like "Oh my GOD!" And she'll ask me to tickle her feet all night long and it'll be great.....

Well, that's not going to happen! Ever! Beautiful girls will probably not go seek you out, because I don't think that has ever happened. The big, ugly, insane guys are the ones who will do that, they'll go look for the girls - or guys as Biggles of 266 said. That's just life. It's sad, but it's life.

korovan, I think you may want to go the route of others here, and just meet girls where you live, and hope that you are lucky and God sends a ticklephile your way. THAT fantasy has become a reality to several guys and gals here, as their threads testify. And good luck, I really hope you find someone one day who loves tickling. I don't know about anyone else, but I love those threads where ticklers meet each other. It gives the rest of us hope.

 

[Neutron]

I Have A Friend...

Who used to work as a nuke with me. He now networks for the Pentagon. He designs their secure server so he has to make them hackproof. He can come to this place and if I asked he could provide me with your phone numbers, emails and addresses. It'd take him maybe about 30 seconds per person.

But he's extremely good at what he does.

So far as providing additional info in profiles, Uh Why? Who really cares?


Tron

 

[ShiningIce]

He designs their secure server so he has to make them hackproof.

NOTHING is hackproof.

 

[qjakal]

Yes...and no.

The military equipment, for anyone who has ever seen or spoken with those with access to it, is incredibly beyond what reaches the public. There are those with the capability to hack through nearly anything, as Tron states, although I can't imagine anyone jeopardizing their position and liberty for anything trivial such as our little board or tracking an ex down.

Rumor has it that we are currently perfecting the hackproof communications system postulated afew years ago...using photons as packets. This type of tech is indeed impenatrable, because the act of observing it actually destroys the message....fascinating advances these days. Regardless, hackproof systems are coming into play as the demand for them rises exponentially.

It's never smart to assume you can't be traced or observed....this doesn't mean you should live your life looking over your shoulder, but the average human activities are pretty boring and I doubt anyone has much to fear. Tighten up as much as you can...it's common sense. The same kind that makes you leave lights on and perform other home security tasks. A determined professional can still get into your house, but likely will mosey down to a more convenient target. Q

 

[Phineas]

okay, first of all, I repeat what I said before; all of you posting "I have nothing to fear, I don't care if people know where I am", are MEN. A woman is twice as likely to be targeted for unhealthy activity, especially from a sexual forum, as man; precisely because (nearly) all of us men come here looking for women to indulge in our interests with. From my observations, the women come here just to hang out with like-minded people. Nearly all of them are involved already. Just go look at the Personals section. See any women? Maybe one or two. See how many replies they get? Pages. Case closed.

Arena;

as for not wanting to be set up as a target, then why put up a profile at all, hmm?

because you have one as a member of this forum by default. It's your choice what to list in it, but you HAVE one, like it or not.

my you live in quite a town! i grew up in chicago, and i don't know one woman who has been sexually molested, as a personal friend that is. what the heck are you doing in that town of yours?!

I'll ignore your smartassed attempt to assume I'm the one doing it.

case study #1; a woman I met through a dating service who I became long-term friends with regularly calls me and regales me of tales of men she has to have the service intervene with on her behalf because they don't listen when she says "don't call me again".

case study #2: I once posted an ad on behalf of a friend to Yahoo! Personals since she didn't have a computer. Being allowed to screen a female friend's mail to weed out the whackos is a real eye-opener.

biggles raised a good point, i have said where in live, i have posted a picture, so i could be a target for a homo rapist again.

but now i have a gun, no i have several guns! all large caliber . so no, i'm not too worried.

of course not. you're a guy. what are the laws for concealed carry in your state? do you take them with you everywhere you go?

Tron is right; I am far more web-savvy than is probably healthy, and enough time talking to any of you, plus a home city, gives me enough information to find out where you live.

and Korovan, the focus here is not really on un-wanted E-mails. Okay, delete those you don't like. But the women get far more than you. In addition, you don't get to pick and choose who sees your information; you post it publicly and HOPE the "right" kind of person takes the initiative. You want people to know where you live, or do you only want "certain" people to know? What happens when you meet up with someone, decide you don't like them, then tell them to go away? Or that first "date" turns out lousy? You meet someone in person, it goes sour; they now not only know where you live (generally) but what you look like and maybe even the car you drive. NOW how hard will it be to find you?

what this all boils down to is y'all are coming here hoping to meet a tickle buddy, and when none of the women (understandably) want complete strangers knowing where they live, it pisses you off.

and on one final note (and jen, forgive me if I shouldn't be dragging this up again but I thought it was relevant here, bold emphasis is mine):

The reason for this post and the one about R/L tickling session safety, was prompted by an unfortunate incident. Initially, I was not going to say anything for fear of driving female ticklees deeper into hiding, but recently, I met with someone off this forum and it was a very bad situation.

the entire thread can be found HERE.. It happened around a year ago, in this very forum. Think the same thing would have happened if she were a guy?

 

[TickledToDeath]

TTD,

please explain to me how not wanting to advertise your home city to the world in order to avoid unwanted "attention" from web crazies equates to living in a fantasy realm or suffering from paranoia?

Actually, I was leaning more towards people just posting the State they are in. (and not a state of insanity or shock either wise guys)😛 😀

Also as I have mentioned, anyone who finds this site is LOOKING for it or is in the subject searching for other sites alike.

Some people here may be Strange😉 and most are strangers to each other but I find it hard to believe that demented stalkers lurk in a forum related to tickling. THOSE sick fu**s hang in Porn sites and kiddy sites etc. .

Admitting ones' home STATE harbors no ill attraction.

Hiding and lurking, wanting to meet yet cloaking ones' self from any possibility OF meeting leaves one hovering in a perpetual fantasy world.

Not that there's anything Wrong with that....😉 😀 😛

TTD

 

[Deleted member 2452]

sorry phinease, but you struck out again!

i have been the target of 3 female cyber stalkers, since i came on line. all three were/are tickphiles. i had to change my home phone number, and screen name, over the years. so no, it's not only ladies who attract nut cases.

i don't come here looking to meet up with women to tickle. i am married, unhappily, but still married, and i do get to have an occational tickle session with my wife. and i dought that any of the other married guys come here looking for women, if they were, they wouldn't admit to being married. so look in the mirror, not at the rest of us with your accusations.

i don't carry a gun with me where ever i go. i figure i'm pretty safe going to the store, and it would be at the home that one would be most likey to be attacked.
3 strikes, and you're out!
steve