Get Real Guys; How do you say I'm into tickling?

[TaraToes25]

It's fun to talk about tube tops, cut of jeans, and "tickle me" sox (I have some too) but I am a professional person, like most of us, and I am unlikely to be in a nice bar / restaurant wearing a tube top? OK for a beach party, or to get us HOTT in the bedroom, but what about real life?

What interests me as a young woman is "how do I know if a man i meet in a bar, in a place like New York, if he has any interest in my feet, tickling me, kissing my arches during sex, et cetera> yes, i could ask, bit not a good idea as I am not a slut.

SOOOO; I meet you in a bar, love your smile, like your butt, and think your funny and cute.... but will u bore me "at home?"

You are out to meet an attractive woman that happens to be insanely ticklish, maybe even have a fetish (feet ot tickling) may even want to tickle you too! How do you communicate that to a woman?

How do you dress? If warm weather, do you wear flip flps with khakis or nice jeans? Do you say nice things about my shoes, or say i have pretty feet if i am wearing sandals or dressy flip flops? If we sit together, do you cross YOUR leg exposing your flip flopped foot, hoping that i might be bold or drunk enough to run my nails up the side of your fooot as i get up to go to the ladies room? That would be subtle, ha?

Or do you ask me where i buy my shoes? Tell me you like my color hose? Stare at my foot if i dangle to see if you are interested?

So how do you tell me if you are into tickling me / my feet?

Tara

 

[wazoo]

Easy To Tell

I Would Love To Meet A Lady Like Yourself In A Nice Bar And Buy You
A Drink If You Agreed And We Had A Couple Of More Together Id
Comment You On Your Outfit Shoes Etc.and Id Ask If You Were Into
Foot Reflexolgy To Break The Ice And Lead Into Foot Masages Do
You Like To Give And Recieve?and Take It From There.it Would Depend On Your Responses That Could Lead To A Fun Evening Of
Mutual Foot Tickling!!!


Wazoo

 

[daryl]

drop a comment about how your last pedicure or massage felt, or something else ticklish. anyone who fits your description will bite (literally or figuratively) and then you'll know.

 

[BklynFrankie]

Being a professional counselor myself, I generally don't have difficulty using tact to say anything to anyone. However, i find introducing this subject extrememly difficult. I definitely have not gotten it down yet.

 

[barefeetarebest]

standoff

Tara,
probably we'd both be dropping subtle hints and waiting on the other to respond in the affirmative, but testing the waters to see just how far either of us is willing to let on as to how deep our fetishes are, because it is obvious that you are deeply into these fetishes and desires as am I, you have been disappointed in the past, as have I , and you are probably apprehensive about fully exposing who you are and what you're all about or into to someone you're not totally sure about, as am I. Many "regular", "normal", "vanilla" or what have you people just don't get it and won't try to understand this thing, they never will. We all have had experiences with this, but by the same token we all know that that one special person who clicks with us on ALL levels, that perfect "fit", exists out there somewhere; even when you know the person you may be with at the time may NOT be the "ONE"....(they just "go along with it, or scoff at you, or won't involve themselves in any way, or some combination of the three)
This fetish is strong and deeply-rooted in many of us, and to truly be complete it takes someone who is just as deep and like-minded, or at least understanding and sympathetic to fetishes.
Thats about all I can add at the moment on the subject. (You asked us to get real, so I took your question seriously)
btw I'd love to be in a situation where I have my leg crossed at the bar and I'm wearing flip-flops (which I can get away with but usually don't, as I've been told I have nice looking feet for a guy) and my date gets up to use the ladies room and gives the instep of my foot a quick tickle---That would really blow my mind, not to mention send me into orbit for a sec!!!

 

[barefeetarebest]

btw I've always thought that size 7 feet are perfectly ideal for a lady, (i viewed your member profile) not too big, not too tiny, just right🙂 and I was hoping one day you'd be willing to share with us a picture of your ticklish feet if you have not done so already....

 

[Coffee]

SHoe dangling always ALWAYS gets my attention. If you have stockings on as long as the weater isnt to hot you could rub your legs or straighten your stockings. Tell me where to meet you and i'll let you know if these hits work...lol

 

[ft_tklr007]

If he has a tickling fetish you don't really have to do anything. He's already thinking about it. So...What part of perfect-ville did you come from again?

 

[TaraToes25]

I love that idea/...

drop a comment about how your last pedicure or massage felt, or something else ticklish. anyone who fits your description will bite (literally or figuratively) and then you'll know.

And i can always talk about pedicures, and they do ticle!

Thank u,

Tara

But how does a man say with HIS clothes thathe likes tickling???

 

[TaraToes25]

But would be dressed a certain way...

Being a professional counselor myself, I generally don't have difficulty using tact to say anything to anyone. However, i find introducing this subject extrememly difficult. I definitely have not gotten it down yet.

...to give off vibes that you were into feet or tickling??

How do U SAY I subtly I am into licking yur arches?

Tara

 

[TaraToes25]

BUT HOW woukld I know he has an interest?

How would HE dress? I doubt sox that say "tickle me, tickle you" so is there something i am missing in undestanding a guy... before i know him intimately???

OK, do guys that likeot tickle women's feet, wear flip flops themselves? or what is a clue???

Girls need to know this secret men!

Tara

 

[TicklesFemales]

Tara

You will know if a guy has either a foot fetish or tickling fetish or both if he continually stares at your feet in a bar or anywhere else for that matter. If you have a pedicure with pretty painted toes and a guy who has a foot fetish or tickling fetish sees this he will definitely be staring at those delicious toes and feet of yours. If you catch someone staring at your feet and toes just ask him straight out if he likes your feet and if he says yes then you know he is that kind of guy. That would be an ice breaker. Then you can ask what do you find attractive about my feet, he may ask say he was wondering if your feet are ticklish then you know he is into it. I would love to tickle your feet myself Tara especially if they are extremely ticklish are they?

TicklesFemales

 

[TaraToes25]

Thats helpful...

You will know if a guy has either a foot fetish or tickling fetish or both if he continually stares at your feet in a bar or anywhere else for that matter. If you have a pedicure with pretty painted toes and a guy who has a foot fetish or tickling fetish sees this he will definitely be staring at those delicious toes and feet of yours. If you catch someone staring at your feet and toes just ask him straight out if he likes your feet and if he says yes then you know he is that kind of guy. That would be an ice breaker. Then you can ask what do you find attractive about my feet, he may ask say he was wondering if your feet are ticklish then you know he is into it. I would love to tickle your feet myself Tara especially if they are extremely ticklish are they?

TicklesFemales

I'm sure a guy would stare at my feet, and they do... and yes i tease by wearing flipflops... i even comment on guys shoes if they are nice, and he is cute. Yes, i love to see a man in flip flops, if he has cute feet and an equally cute butt... of course i wonder about tickling his feet too, and whether he looks like a man that will love to tickle my soles/arches as we make love.... am i asking too much?

I am just seeking perfection.... cute LER with LEE flexibility if I feel like sctratching his soles, or yes, maybe nibbling his toes!

 

[911]

These things are impossile to know for sure by looking at someone. I think us ticklers need a secret way of telling other ticklers that we are alike. I believe however this fetish is rare which is so depressing I think I'm going to cry. As if finding a woman isn't hard enough, I have to have this strange fetish too. I understand your fustration.

 

[ft_tklr007]

I think that's a good idea. I think there should be a secret phrase or question when conversating to find out.

 

[wazoo]

How To Tell?

Tara I Agree It Is Easier For Women To Spot Guys Who Are Into Feet
Because We Tend To Spend More Time Admireing Your Sexy Feet On
The Way Up To Your Legs And Hot Ass!!! But To Tell You The Truth If
Im Admireing A Womans Feet And I Feel She Is Into The Attention
And The Conversation Is Getting Into Foot Massages And Is She
Ticklish On Her Feet I Try To Mention How Ticklish My Feet Are
And How It Becomes Such A Hot Erogenous Zone!!!!!a Couple Of Drinks Always Helps.

 

[Capnmad]

Egads...

Secret phrases, saying things tactfully... There are tactful ways to go about saying stuff like this, but usually these things are best left unsaid and simply acted upon once you know you have the go-ahead. It's like, "How do you know when it's okay to kiss someone?"

Do you ask permission? Not usually. You sense your opportunity, and then you do it. This is exactly the same -- it's tactile, it's social bonding, and it's arousing.

If you jump into something too quickly with someone you don't know well enough yet, you're going to get rejected, pure and simple. It doesn't matter if you "try" something, or ask to do something -- it's just going to be weird. Try something physically too early and you're done. But it'll just be really weird if you ask too early and then that question's just hanging out there in the wind (unless you really know someone well mentally -- if they're open-minded).

Your best bet is to wait until you get both some mental and physical rapport going. Touch, hug and be comfortable with hugging, or kissing, or petting. And when you sense your opportunity, give a playful tickle. Be subtle about it. You could stroke their neck a bit too quickly to be a caress -- see if they shiver. In a kissing session with a bit of friendly groping, work your way up their ribs and try something -- see if they laugh. Remark "innocently" 😉 , "Oh, are you ticklish?" Maybe then go for it a bit more. Watch how they respond. See if they "counterattack".

Afterwards, you'll know more about where they're at. If they rejected the tickling without enjoyment, game over. If they didn't, or better, if they counterattacked, it's something you can start talking about. Besides, if they reciprocated, they're complicit in the act -- it will be hard for them to consider you strange for tickling them without considering themselves strange as well.

And in discussing it, you don't have to drop loaded words like "fetish". They may balk. You can just say "That was really hot." or "You've got a great laugh... ...lemme see if I can make you laugh a little bit more..." or figure something else out. There are lots of ways to convey it. There are smooth ways to go about this, but it helps to be at least a little patient, and even subtle, when called for.

I have an old friend who I share significant physical and mental rapport with, and we were getting kind of cuddly and kissy one night. For me, things naturally progress to tickling and kissing. Her laughter was intoxicating, and in the middle of it all, I just said, "I don't know whether to tickle you or kiss you." That pretty much said it all right there. When I later told her I had a tickle fetish, it didn't faze her at all.

Another friend I told straight out over dinner, but that was because of three things: 1. I learned there was zero attraction between us, so there was little to lose. 2. Conversation hit a lull, and sexual proclivities are always meaty material to discuss with the proper audience. 3. She was the proper audience. I knew her to be very liberal and very open-minded. She said to me during dinner, in fact, that she suspected that two of her previous boyfriends/guyfriends she dated were tickle fetishists.

But straight-out discussion about your fetish is a path I'd rarely recommend with someone new, unless you meet them here.

Build rapport. Make a move. Then discuss. Simple.

 

[TicklesFemales]

Tara

Well I myself do like having my feet tickled as well but I am more of a LER. I am ticklish but only allow women to tickle my feet as its the only place I can really stand to be tickled on, even though it makes me laugh uncontrollable my feet and my (not to mention) other area are the only places I allow a woman to actually touch me and tease me. Feet are also my favorite place to tickle a lady and yes I have tickled a ladies feet during sex before. I really hope you find the man of your dreams, as for me I am a member to just find ticklish ladies and meet people to tickle, I am not looking for a permanent relationship just tickle friends either it be a single lady or married couple or a lady with a boyfriend into tickling, or a boyfriend with a ticklish lady that he likes to have others tickle with him. I also do not discriminate between a BBW or race when it comes to tickling. I just love tickling a ticklish lady who really laughs uncontrolably when tickled. Anyway have a nice day and again I hope you find that special man in your life. If not just have fun with this fetish of ours and tickle and get tickled often.

TicklesFemales

 

[phfttklr]

Tara, I'm thinking this might be somewhat of a problem because most guys don't want to come off as a creep and let the woman know of his love of feet or tickling. You may get an idea if he has a fondness for feet if you flaunt them but unless you get the ball rolling, I don't think he's going to step up. He may compliment you on them but that's it. As for how will you know if a guy is into it BEFORE you speak with him...good luck. Unless this place is a fetish factory, chances are it's not going to happen. Join our men's club on trying to figure out if a woman is into tickling before hand. It's not easy.

When doing the online dating, I always manage to slip in a question asking if she minds a tickle fight. I want to know right off the bat. It comes off a playful but gets to the point, quick. I don't want to waste her time or mine and tickling plays a big part of my life. I will always have the urge to be playful and it sucks having a partner who is not into it. I like nibbling on their feet/toes as well. I've only once been able to do so during sex. How long this is going to be a part of my life, I don't know?

 

[curiousabcgirl]

Personally, I don't really have an issue with men being obsessed with feet. I love my feet like I massage them before every track meet and I sit right there on the grass and it's great.

You guys are on to something though. How does one communicate that they're into a fetish? I never noticed mine before. I mean, you don't just tell your friend "hey, I like being tickled, just a fun fact"

 

[dtrell]

you cant really tell by what someone is wearing. that makes no sense. the only way you can tell is when you get them alone on a date and you discuss it, or when you are alone getting intimate. also, i was wondering if math was part of nursing courses, because you say in your profile that youre nearly 26 yet you say you were born april 8th 1982...if i am correct you would be 24 and nearly 25....but i did go to public school.

 

[isabeau]

you cant really tell by what someone is wearing. that makes no sense. the only way you can tell is when you get them alone on a date and you discuss it, or when you are alone getting intimate. also, i was wondering if math was part of nursing courses, because you say in your profile that youre nearly 26 yet you say you were born april 8th 1982...if i am correct you would be 24 and nearly 25....but i did go to public school.

well i have to agree with dtrell...what does wearing anything show anything at all? i never ever wore flipflops or sandals with the intention of showing that i'm into tickling..it never crossed my mind. it's something to be discussed, as he mentioned...alone, intimately, over drinks whatever...

dtrell you are such a smart ass lol...

 

[paracarl44]

Flip Flops & Shoe Dangling.

When a Lady Dangles her shoe I find this to be a Big Turn On. I have tickled dangling shoe ladies to find out what kind of a reaction it causes. After the quick tickles I then engage in a tickling conversation.

 

[Pokey]

Capnmad said it well

Ms. Toes, I can't improve on Capnmad's ideas, very well stated. I don't believe, however that in most cases clothing will provide any light to a persons likes or dislikes about tickling. Communication is without question the best way to that end, and being a Professional, I will bet you are very adept at that already. Good luck!!

 

[sidlives]

I have these cute platform sandals that made my feet and legs look amazing, and they also show off my painted toes! I don't really like my feet tickled all that much, but wearing those shoes seems to get the general point across. Mostly, I have stumbled across men with foot fetishes while wearing these, that aren't really into tickling, but I have caught the attention of a few interested 'lers with those shoes. Also, tops that allow your armpits to be seen are very helpful. Fix your hair, yawn and stretch, do anything to invite a tickling touch. How many men that are into tickling could pass up such an opportunity? 😉 So, you can wear things that get the point across, without having to look trashy to do it!