Girlfriend Changes Man Into Someone She's Not Interested In

[alchemy]

http://www.theonion.com/articles/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someone-shes-not-inter,1507/

Why is it that some women are like this? Why do they try to change guys that they're in a relationship with? Why can't they just love somebody for who they are instead of who they want them to be?

I don't understand it.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Men should always maintain two sides with these types of ladies...

Being themselves by day, and the guy they want them to be in bed. Only to get the action(and, orgasm), and not be happy... They are happy when she's not around! It goes both ways.

 

[phant0m]

http://www.theonion.com/articles/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someone-shes-not-inter,1507/

Why is it that some women are like this? Why do they try to change guys that they're in a relationship with? Why can't they just love somebody for who they are instead of who they want them to be?

I don't understand it.

Why do some men convince women that they are in love with them so they can have sex and dump them? Why do some parents hit their kids over stupid shit, while other parents refuse to discipline their wretched children at all? Why don't the Presidents fight the war, why do they always send the poor?

Some people are just not very smart/nice. If you're interested in this particular phenomenon from an actual scientific standpoint I'm sure there are discussions in psychology journals, but I'm not entirely sure where to look.

 

[Amnesiac]

Even though this is humor, the article's descriptions are probably based on innumerable similarities that actually happen.

I'd wager that women are usually attracted to the initial qualities because they are different than her mundane life. But if those same qualities are brought INTO her mundane life, they become intolerable and grating.

The woman typically wants her cake and to eat it too: she wants a guy who has all of the exciting instability that makes her life interesting, but she doesn't want that behavior contaminating her ordered personal living space. Which is a problem because if the woman becomes THAT attracted to the guy, she typically wants to bond and form a life with him, which means integrating the two.

On a side note I also think there's a phenomenon where women are raised to think that it is acceptable to manipulate people with their approval, and as a result, have a slightly immature notion of other people and feel it is alright to psychologically/sexually coerce people into doing what THEY want while being staunchly defensive about staying stagnant themselves.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

Very nice article. 100% agree.

 

[totoforhire]

Even though this is humor, the article's descriptions are probably based on innumerable similarities that actually happen.

I'd wager that women are usually attracted to the initial qualities because they are different than her mundane life. But if those same qualities are brought INTO her mundane life, they become intolerable and grating.

The woman typically wants her cake and to eat it too: she wants a guy who has all of the exciting instability that makes her life interesting, but she doesn't want that behavior contaminating her ordered personal living space. Which is a problem because if the woman becomes THAT attracted to the guy, she typically wants to bond and form a life with him, which means integrating the two.

On a side note I also think there's a phenomenon where women are raised to think that it is acceptable to manipulate people with their approval, and as a result, have a slightly immature notion of other people and feel it is alright to psychologically/sexually coerce people into doing what THEY want while being staunchly defensive about staying stagnant themselves.

Women are taught to manipulate because for a very long time that was the only way that they had power. Although it's better now, direct or aggressive women are still seen as a bad thing by many people. Because they are encouraged to be non assertive, they get their way indirectly.

 

[TropicThunder]

On a side note I also think there's a phenomenon where women are raised to think that it is acceptable to manipulate people with their approval, and as a result, have a slightly immature notion of other people and feel it is alright to psychologically/sexually coerce people into doing what THEY want while being staunchly defensive about staying stagnant themselves.

I'm going to tell you the story about my family one day.

 

[c7_assassin]

A lot of women are sexually attracted to men with qualities that make them good lovers but poor life-mates. They want wild, aggressive, handsome men to knock them up, but they need stable, loving, responsible men to help raise those kids.

In a perfect world (for women), they'd have a harem of sexy man-*****s with scars and leather jackets and dirty hair to visit whenever they got randy, and a rich sugar daddy back at home. In real life, they usually live with compromise.

 

[Rusty Shackleford]

A lot of women are sexually attracted to men with qualities that make them good lovers but poor life-mates. They want wild, aggressive, handsome men to knock them up, but they need stable, loving, responsible men to help raise those kids.

In a perfect world (for women), they'd have a harem of sexy man-*****s with scars and leather jackets and dirty hair to visit whenever they got randy, and a rich sugar daddy back at home. In real life, they usually live with compromise.

QFT.


Hahaha great article. Now you've got me on an Onion.com binge. Damn you.

 

[stroker]

Another fine example of why no man should ever take adivice on relationships from a woman, even if its his wife . No amount of feminist idealolgy or articles in Cosmo can change the fact that no matter how much a woman may say she wants Mr caring dependable and responsible in the end its the caveman that really lights her candle. We just havent swung out of the trees long enough for it to be any other way.

 

[Rusty Shackleford]

Well, stroker, the same could be said for us dudes... usually the women we covet and bed wouldn't make the best mothers, you know? At least for me, haha.


I think because of the long gestation period of the human female and the inordinately protracted childhood of the human in general (compared to everything else) women are hardwired to break your knees, cut your balls and keep you local and docile... satiated and predictable makes for a good lifemate, methinks.

 

[stroker]

Well, stroker, the same could be said for us dudes... usually the women we covet and bed wouldn't make the best mothers, you know? At least for me, haha.


I think because of the long gestation period of the human female and the inordinately protracted childhood of the human in general (compared to everything else) women are hardwired to break your knees, cut your balls and keep you local and docile... satiated and predictable makes for a good lifemate, methinks.

And this is why if you must have a wife its always best if its somebody elses.

 

[LD_Tickler]

In other news, people are often fickle and not always self-aware.

 

[Rusty Shackleford]

HAHAHAHA both of you are funny

 

[alchemy]

Thanks for the responses guys. Yeah, I just went through a similar situation of sorts and thought the article was appropriate.

I was just broken up with because she said she had been trying to get me to change, but I was just too stubborn and that, in turn, proved to her just how little I cared for her or the relationship.

And by change I mean:

She wanted me to change jobs
She wanted me to get a different (nicer) apartment
She wanted me to get rid of one of my two cats
She wanted me to give up trying to be a musician and simply keep it as a hobby
She wanted me to talk to somebody about all this kink and fetish and whatever so we could have a more "normal" sex life
She wanted me to take steps to make myself better potential husband material so she could be sure that I could provide for her and give her a nice house and children

...and because I couldn't do those things for her (in a span of 4 months no less), that meant that I didn't care about her or the relationship.

 

[Rusty Shackleford]

Thanks for the responses guys. Yeah, I just went through a similar situation of sorts and thought the article was appropriate.

I was just broken up with because she said she had been trying to get me to change, but I was just too stubborn and that, in turn, proved to her just how little I cared for her or the relationship.

And by change I mean:

She wanted me to change jobs
She wanted me to get a different (nicer) apartment
She wanted me to get rid of one of my two cats
She wanted me to give up trying to be a musician and simply keep it as a hobby
She wanted me to talk to somebody about all this kink and fetish and whatever so we could have a more "normal" sex life
She wanted me to take steps to make myself better potential husband material so she could be sure that I could provide for her and give her a nice house and children

...and because I couldn't do those things for her (in a span of 4 months no less), that meant that I didn't care about her or the relationship.

...well, then, fuck it, dude!

 

[Deleted member 66627]

The same can be said about men, also..

"Once upon a time, there was a meek, quiet, shy 17 year old girl. She ended up falling hard for a 29 year old aggressive, manipulative, confrontational man.

As their relationship progressed, the man continuously slammed into the 17 year old, that she was spineless and needed to grow thicker skin if she was ever going to be able to make it in the "Real World".

Man explained to her whenever she got sad and cried that it was weak and pathetic. Crying will get her no where and it's best to shoulder it and blast both barrels into the person's face who caused you to cry.

As the girl got older, she began molding herself to the "guide" the man was outlining for her. She began to think that she wouldn't be worth anything to anyone unless she became more aggressive.

Gone went the meekness. Gone went the quiet. In it's place she bloomed into an aggressive, confrontational female version of the man.

Then the man realized what had happened and that the girl he had started out with, was exactly like him; which inevitably pissed him off. So she got away from the aggression. But never forgot what he hammered into her head."

 

[kis123]

Thanks for the responses guys. Yeah, I just went through a similar situation of sorts and thought the article was appropriate.

I was just broken up with because she said she had been trying to get me to change, but I was just too stubborn and that, in turn, proved to her just how little I cared for her or the relationship.

And by change I mean:

She wanted me to change jobs
She wanted me to get a different (nicer) apartment
She wanted me to get rid of one of my two cats
She wanted me to give up trying to be a musician and simply keep it as a hobby
She wanted me to talk to somebody about all this kink and fetish and whatever so we could have a more "normal" sex life
She wanted me to take steps to make myself better potential husband material so she could be sure that I could provide for her and give her a nice house and children

...and because I couldn't do those things for her (in a span of 4 months no less), that meant that I didn't care about her or the relationship.

Alchemy, I don't know where you get these crazy women from, but there may be another issue going on.

Sometimes we need to be careful who we attract and who we are attracted to, especially if we're looking for that "one" we want to have that family with. That was the mistake I made; my self esteem was so low back then that it just screamed off me and I attracted all sorts of crazy in my life. And if that wasn't enough, I had children with two of them (actually married one of them).

I call it the "if only" factor; if you find yourself saying....."if only", it's time to do some serious reassessing of your relationship. "If only" is usually that thing they say or do that drives you insane and it's highly unlikely it'll ever change. If you can live with it, great; but if you can't, than get the hell out before it consumes you.

So we need to be more careful who we allow in our lives in the first place. If they start the complaining and nagging wanting you to "change" for them.......run! Do not walk and do not stay because if you do you'll eventually end up in a ditch and they move on to the next one.

And Crystal is right as well; some men will suck the life right out of you then leave you for the next thing he can damage. He'll separate you from friends and family and you'll wake up one day (like I did) not being able to recognize your reflection in the mirror. I always expect some change being with a new man, but that has to have some balance. I will only bend so much, but he can't have my soul.......that belongs to me.

 

[sheisgone24]

The woman typically wants her cake and to eat it too: she wants a guy who has all of the exciting instability that makes her life interesting, but she doesn't want that behavior contaminating her ordered personal living space. Which is a problem because if the woman becomes THAT attracted to the guy, she typically wants to bond and form a life with him, which means integrating the two.

I would like my cake and eat it too, trouble is .....
I don't even have any cake .....

A lot of women are sexually attracted to men with qualities that make them good lovers but poor life-mates. They want wild, aggressive, handsome men to knock them up, but they need stable, loving, responsible men to help raise those kids.

In a perfect world (for women), they'd have a harem of sexy man-*****s with scars and leather jackets and dirty hair to visit whenever they got randy, and a rich sugar daddy back at home. In real life, they usually live with compromise.

This is what I am holding out for ... seriously! REALLY??

 

[kis123]

You should put that in your sig. That could be a lifechanging quote for some folks if they really sat down and thought about it.

It took me nearly a lifetime of mistakes and poor decision making to develop the theory. Think of it as a hypothesis; if you're catching yourself saying "if only", then run like hell!!!

Thanks for the compliment.......and you're right.