Girlfriend mind If you tickle her friends?

[wendynpeter]

You know what? Different people have different outlooks on relationships. I don't think you guys should be trying to convince the women that they should think differently about what they want in a relationship - not that you'll have any luck anyway. The truth is that there's nothing wrong with having a issue with your boyfriend or husband acting out sexually with another woman. It doesn't MATTER whether you want to fuck the other woman, what matters is that not wanting a mate to tickle another woman is a perfectly valid desire, and there's nothing wrong with that approach to a relationship. On the other hand, there's also nothing wrong with having an open relationship. It depends on the person. It's all good!

 

[FeatherFeet]

You know what? Different people have different outlooks on relationships. I don't think you guys should be trying to convince the women that they should think differently about what they want in a relationship - not that you'll have any luck anyway. The truth is that there's nothing wrong with having a issue with your boyfriend or husband acting out sexually with another woman. It doesn't MATTER whether you want to fuck the other woman, what matters is that not wanting a mate to tickle another woman is a perfectly valid desire, and there's nothing wrong with that approach to a relationship. On the other hand, there's also nothing wrong with having an open relationship. It depends on the person. It's all good!

yeah, but what your saying right there is acting out sexually. Again, TICKLING ISNT ALWAYS SEXUAL. People keep missing that point.

Let me ask you this, like i keep saying. If a girlfriend didnt want her boyfriend to ever hug another girl....then people would consider that controlling. (at least anyone saine would) because hugging is a perfectly innocent way to show affection to someone in a plutonic way, and its just fun and happy. not to mention they probably hug people long before they ever knew the girl.

tickling is no different than that. you can hug in a sexual way, or tickle in a sexual way. but theres the innocent side to both, and if you cant seperate them that that is your problem, not the guys. even though alot of the time it can be the guys problem too. but i have never had a problem seperating the two. And your right, a relationship is about two people, meaning THE GUY TOO. And what right to do you have to restrict his actions if they are of innocent intent? You wouldnt like it if he told you to never have any guy friends or you couldnt ever do this with another guy because he found that offensive. Heck you wouldnt like it if he told you not to go to this 50 cent store because he didnt like it. Show him the same respect. Alot of people use that excuse "a relatopnship is about us both" to guilt someone into NOT doing somthing that they want to do. which is bullshit, a relationship means getting over your hangups and trusting your partner. Not meaning a partner should restrict their "INNOCENT" actions. (stress the word innocent) I dont care what anyone says, a relationship is about trust and any woman or any man who has hangups THAT stupid has some serious trust issues. End of story.


(once again this converstions is all assumed that the person in question can seperate the innocent from the sexual if in the even they cant then my argument becomes null and void, but this is represented here today because all options should be considered. And I speak as one of the men who can seperate the two)

 

[kis123]

My Ex girlfriend was like that. She didn't want me tickling other girls. Thats not why we broke up, but even though I tickled other girls. It didn't meen I wanted to sleep with them.

So do you think it's okay for your SO to tickle other men? Is it okay for her to touch other men in (possibly) the same way she touches you? Is that really okay? If it is, then you are an enlightened couple and I wish you the best. I'd venture to say that what's good for the goose might not necessarily be good for the gander...........

 

[FeatherFeet]

So do you think it's okay for your SO to tickle other men? Is it okay for her to touch other men in (possibly) the same way she touches you? Is that really okay? If it is, then you are an enlightened couple and I wish you the best. I'd venture to say that what's good for the goose might not necessarily be good for the gander...........

i cant speak for him, but my girlfriend tickles other men all the time. and i tickle other girls all the time. theres a severe difference in the way we tickle them as compared to eachother. Honesly I've even HELPED her tie up some people to tickle them in fun hahah for revenge or what not. I luagh at it, and video tape it and we even plot it sometimes together. Honestly, I dont need "well she only touches me that way" or whatever to trust that she is mine and I am hers. Just being NEAR her gives me that feeling. I dont need it to be constantly proved by her sacrificing fun with other people.

(however, if she was KISSING other guys or something on that line....(other than the hello cheek kiss greeting we both give old friends who we havent seen for months at a time) then I would have something to say. but she would never do that. and neither would i)

 

[kis123]

With all due respect....

i cant speak for him, but my girlfriend tickles other men all the time. and i tickle other girls all the time. theres a severe difference in the way we tickle them as compared to eachother. Honesly I've even HELPED her tie up some people to tickle them in fun hahah for revenge or what not. I luagh at it, and video tape it and we even plot it sometimes together. Honestly, I dont need "well she only touches me that way" or whatever to trust that she is mine and I am hers. Just being NEAR her gives me that feeling. I dont need it to be constantly proved by her sacrificing fun with other people.

(however, if she was KISSING other guys or something on that line....(other than the hello cheek kiss greeting we both give old friends who we havent seen for months at a time) then I would have something to say. but she would never do that. and neither would i)

I'm looking forward to HIS answer to my question.

We obviously have differing points of view. Neither of us is going to convince the other otherwise. I think we should just let it go because we are NOT going to agree. Good for you and your SO-my SO had better not play unless it's been agreed upon first, and I must admit that I'm probably going to say "no" unless it's in a gathering and she's not local.

I don't impose a lot of rules on my man, but I do have some absolutes. If he wants to be with me, then certain rules of engagement have to be followed, plain and simple. If he doesn't like it, he should just move on.

 

[4Pawz]

It hasn't and wouldn't bother me for my boyfriends to tickle other people. As long as he understands that it can't be sexual, I'm cool with just about anything. I'm a friendly-flirty type person, so it doesn't bother me if my significant other is the same way.

 

[Angel_2]

Well when me and my girl hang with her friends, there have been times where I could have tickled her friend in a playfull way but I did not b/c I did not want to give it away that this is what I am into. (My girl dose not know I really like tickling)

I also believe that it depends on the person, some are cool with it and others are not. To each their own.

 

[DannyMc]

It seems from the start it depends on what kind of a reltionship their is . For some it's one on one and their happy with that , it show a close intimacy . For others it's an even steven deal , a group , where the guy gets tickled by women and the woman gets tickled by men and both enjoy the other receiving this . Tickling can be done out of affection and fun and other times by a sexual desire . There are different feelings that can sometimes be associated with certain relationships , jealousy being one . Sometimes theres the feeling of being not as appealing as another or being a bit left out . Nothing wrong with what you like and find comfortable and acceptable , it seems the old saying can help ......."Birds Of A Feather Flock Together"... it will keep things at the least on the same playing field .