I just feel like typing out my thoughts on something that happened last night because I'm pretty happy about it.
I'm a 26 year old guy. I haven't led the most exciting of young lives. I have social anxiety. Talking to new people is not an easy task for me. There's one thing about me that doesn't fit the mold though. I LOVE dancing. Not like professionally, but like dancing for fun. Something about music I enjoy just gets me out of my shell. I barely talked to anyone in high school, then at the prom I was the hit of the dance floor. People were stunned. Wedding receptions are my jam! Over the past few years, my friend and I have found this awesome dance bar in my area that we go almost every weekend. He likes to drink and try to meet women. I just want to dance, and as with anywhere, if I met a woman I'd be very pleased. The issue for me is that although dancing gets me out of my shell and out there, I'm still horrible if faced with interactions, especially with women. I've had a few circumstances where women have come up and tried dancing with me or talking, and I revert right back into my shell and get all nervous.
So last night I was out there dancing, and these girls were very clearly looking at me. I usually chalk it up to judging me lol. My friend noticed it as well and he kept encouraging me to go up to them but I was nervous. We also noticed that they were pursued by a couple other guys out there and they quickly turned them down. That's another reason I feel weird about pursuing women out there, because they have to deal with so many obnoxious men and creeps when they're just out to have a good time. I didn't go up to them, but I did continue to notice them looking and they seemed to be getting a kick out of some of my dancing. I somehow worked up the courage to dance near them to see what may happen, and they without hesitation danced with me. It was awesome. Dancing and singing and laughing. I ended up talking to them, one was single, the other had a BF. We exchanged numbers and it was really nice. It was honestly an innocent great time which I loved. It was just a pretty big step for me socially, and I hope it leads to better confidence moving forward.
I'm a 26 year old guy. I haven't led the most exciting of young lives. I have social anxiety. Talking to new people is not an easy task for me. There's one thing about me that doesn't fit the mold though. I LOVE dancing. Not like professionally, but like dancing for fun. Something about music I enjoy just gets me out of my shell. I barely talked to anyone in high school, then at the prom I was the hit of the dance floor. People were stunned. Wedding receptions are my jam! Over the past few years, my friend and I have found this awesome dance bar in my area that we go almost every weekend. He likes to drink and try to meet women. I just want to dance, and as with anywhere, if I met a woman I'd be very pleased. The issue for me is that although dancing gets me out of my shell and out there, I'm still horrible if faced with interactions, especially with women. I've had a few circumstances where women have come up and tried dancing with me or talking, and I revert right back into my shell and get all nervous.
So last night I was out there dancing, and these girls were very clearly looking at me. I usually chalk it up to judging me lol. My friend noticed it as well and he kept encouraging me to go up to them but I was nervous. We also noticed that they were pursued by a couple other guys out there and they quickly turned them down. That's another reason I feel weird about pursuing women out there, because they have to deal with so many obnoxious men and creeps when they're just out to have a good time. I didn't go up to them, but I did continue to notice them looking and they seemed to be getting a kick out of some of my dancing. I somehow worked up the courage to dance near them to see what may happen, and they without hesitation danced with me. It was awesome. Dancing and singing and laughing. I ended up talking to them, one was single, the other had a BF. We exchanged numbers and it was really nice. It was honestly an innocent great time which I loved. It was just a pretty big step for me socially, and I hope it leads to better confidence moving forward.
