kcantankerous
4th Level Red Feather
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I contemplated the reasons behind the behaviors of some of my fellow species, by that I mean other men. I wonder why men seem to flock towards women and sometimes appear over bearing or too aggressive, or to shy. What I came up with is the overwhelming force that an average man must overcome to attract a women. Looking at the news makes it seem like every other man could possible rape or kill an innocent helpless girl. Or maybe there may have been one or two instances when a particular women has been stocked by a secret or blunt admirer, possibly even the womens high physical standards, or a driving unwillingness to commit to a relationship, or the imaturaty to do so, or it could be the string along approach, or just the fear of hurting someone else.
Either way the answer among other things is the honest truth. Expressing your apprehention to the guy whose asking you on a date. And tell him why, because it honestly provides a means for the man to if needed better himself or his tactics. That means no "its not you its me" comments. If its really because you dont want a relationship, or a sexual thing than say thats the reason. Or if the guy is not your type than say so. If its because you see him with alot of women or whatever just be honest. In my personal life that would have saved me time and money. Cause I dated girls who said they wanted the same things when I laid them out there but truely didnt want them at all. Secondly if you want to end a relationship, again tell the truth as to why for the same reason. So many relationships and mistakes could be solved if problems and or feelings where expressed in the first place.
And for god sakes if your an angry lady let the poor gentalmen know why that is. I've seen to many women who obviously have issues with trusting the oposite sex, destroying the relationship and themselves because of the untrusting feeling. If you let your prospective person know about some of your habits it makes things go alot smoother.
Because of the difference in communication styles, between men and women, the only answer is really mature adult level conversation. You don't have to reveal everything altogether, but at least main issues. Such as if you dont like smoking and what not. Or if your typically more of a stay in and watch a movie person as opposed to going clubing. Failure to communicate even in relationships that are just physical will continuously leave you out in the rain.
Either way the answer among other things is the honest truth. Expressing your apprehention to the guy whose asking you on a date. And tell him why, because it honestly provides a means for the man to if needed better himself or his tactics. That means no "its not you its me" comments. If its really because you dont want a relationship, or a sexual thing than say thats the reason. Or if the guy is not your type than say so. If its because you see him with alot of women or whatever just be honest. In my personal life that would have saved me time and money. Cause I dated girls who said they wanted the same things when I laid them out there but truely didnt want them at all. Secondly if you want to end a relationship, again tell the truth as to why for the same reason. So many relationships and mistakes could be solved if problems and or feelings where expressed in the first place.
And for god sakes if your an angry lady let the poor gentalmen know why that is. I've seen to many women who obviously have issues with trusting the oposite sex, destroying the relationship and themselves because of the untrusting feeling. If you let your prospective person know about some of your habits it makes things go alot smoother.
Because of the difference in communication styles, between men and women, the only answer is really mature adult level conversation. You don't have to reveal everything altogether, but at least main issues. Such as if you dont like smoking and what not. Or if your typically more of a stay in and watch a movie person as opposed to going clubing. Failure to communicate even in relationships that are just physical will continuously leave you out in the rain.
