Guys: ever wish you didn't have to get to know a woman before tickling her?

[CaptainQuantum]

This is why I like gentleman's clubs so much. I have very low self-confidence and self-esteem, and so I am not a very social person at all. I like to keep to myself, I go practically everywhere alone, actually prefer being alone. Except for having itchy tickle-fingers, that is. When I see a good looking woman in a store, the library, on the street, etc I'm interested in her as far as wanting to tickle her, but that's it.

The whole thing about socializing with her, getting to know her, don't call too soon or you'll look desperate, trying to appear "cool"......it's all just so much work. More effort than I'm willing to put in, especially when I can just go to an exotic dancer, tell her what I want, give her the money, get what I want and go home. So much less effort. And I don't have to deal with her anymore after I get what I want.

At 32 I finally got my first girlfriend. She was bi-polar and heard voices and had a speech impedement and was clumsy, so she didn't make the best trophy. But she was cute and let me tickle her, the 2 most important things to me. It was fun to tickle her and fool around with her, but other than that I really just wished I could go back to playing video games and going on the internet all the time instead of doing "boyfriend/girlfriend things". I kinda wished I could just tickle her and fool around, and then she'd go away until I got horny again.

Well, can any guys here relate? Do you ever sometimes like to go to a strip club/massage parlor/escort service because socializing with women is just too much effort?

 

[BrightEyes1082]

I know that in the subject you titled this to the guys, but you didn't really expect to say what you said and not get at least some of us to reply, did you? Besides, speaking to a specific audience in the titling never stopped anyone from outside the audience on here before. This is going to sound harsh, and I don't mean it to be, but if that's how you truly view women, it's no wonder that you didn't have a girlfriend until you were 32, and it's no wonder why you're single now. This is going to sound cliche', but women aren't objects. I've seen you in the chatroom on numerous occasions, and I've never seen you have just a general conversation. It's always questions about different tickling scenarios. I wish I could say, "How would that make you feel?" but I doubt it would go anywhere, being that Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (if you don't agree, that's a whole 'nother can of worms!) If you ever experience true love, you may feel differently about us. I'm sorry to read such a jaded point of view.

 

[FlockOfSeagulls]

No I can`t relate .......I am just being honest. I want to get to know the woman well & for her to get to know me. That is the best part as far as I am concerned. You can`t build trust until you get know each other. thats just my two cents.

 

[TicklishLurker]

While I agree mostly with the whole "we're not objects" and stuff, sometimes I wish a guy would just up and tickle me without trying to get to know me first. I'm so dang shy and awkward. I don't know anything about flirting or showing interest. And I fear commitment.

 

[maniactickler]

I have to know the woman at least a little first. i have to click with her. if i dont get a good vibe, its not going to happen.

 

[Mastertank1]

Nope; sorry.

The better I know her, the more I enjoy tickling her.
That's just me.

 

[Jamie1862]

I am middle of the road here...

There are some women I would like to know more intimately after I tickle them, and then there are ones I do not. I am much more open with tickling. Not openly say "Hey, I like to tickle women" loud and obnoxiously in a bar, but I do tickle women all the time. Some like it, some do not, but I always get away with it. I can not fault you Captain for feeling the way you do, but it will not get you anything long term.

I find that tickling is something to everyone in many different ways. Ladies who do not like it want to feel more empowered so when they are tickled, it is something they can not control, hence they hate it. (It does make it allot of fun to tickle them because they are usually the loudest) Some women I find are afraid of tickling. Mostly because it gives them a bad point of reference, a strange uncle who used to tickle them, or tickled before a date rape. I am not stereotyping women in different tickle catagories but this is some of the feedback from many of the women I have met, dated, or just tickled in general.

I will say this, all women feel something for tickling and being tickled, even if they are not ticklish. The feeling sometimes are not good ones but there is something tied to the feeling they have when they are tickled. I know my answer went on a much different tangent but its what came out when my fingers hit the board.

Jamie

 

[Cave In]

The better I know her, the more I enjoy tickling her.
That's just me.

I feel the same way. I like to have a conversation with a girl having a laugh with her and getting to know her alittle better because from that you get an idea of a girls personality and in turn you can kind of guage how far you can go with the tickling. I just feel theres far more plus's from geting to know a girl than not.

 

[BLUE_THUNDER]

maybe im old school, but i prefer to get to know the woman in question first, in my opinion it makes it more comfortable for both of us

 

[BikerBadBoy]

socializing

This is why I like gentleman's clubs so much. I have very low self-confidence and self-esteem, and so I am not a very social person at all. I like to keep to myself, I go practically everywhere alone, actually prefer being alone. Except for having itchy tickle-fingers, that is. When I see a good looking woman in a store, the library, on the street, etc I'm interested in her as far as wanting to tickle her, but that's it.

The whole thing about socializing with her, getting to know her, don't call too soon or you'll look desperate, trying to appear "cool"......it's all just so much work. More effort than I'm willing to put in, especially when I can just go to an exotic dancer, tell her what I want, give her the money, get what I want and go home. So much less effort. And I don't have to deal with her anymore after I get what I want.

At 32 I finally got my first girlfriend. She was bi-polar and heard voices and had a speech impedement and was clumsy, so she didn't make the best trophy. But she was cute and let me tickle her, the 2 most important things to me. It was fun to tickle her and fool around with her, but other than that I really just wished I could go back to playing video games and going on the internet all the time instead of doing "boyfriend/girlfriend things". I kinda wished I could just tickle her and fool around, and then she'd go away until I got horny again.

Well, can any guys here relate? Do you ever sometimes like to go to a strip club/massage parlor/escort service because socializing with women is just too much effort?

Definitely can relate. At times I see a beautiful women exposing their feet one way or another. Either removing their feet from their shoes and rubbing them on their legs or just wearing flip flops (very prevalent in FL) and wish I could just reach over and give them a little tickle. Of course I'd get arrested or something but I always think that would be nice to be able to do. As far as socializing goes, meeting women in the general public and putting forth the effort to get to know them well enough to find out if they're even ticklish seems like alot. Sometimes it's well worth it though like turning a female into a ticklee when she never even knew it turned her on before she met you. But I do agree with you in general.

 

[drew70]

I often fantasize about tickling or being tickled by a complete stranger. The more inappropriate the scenario, the more exciting the fantasy. In the real world, I've experienced this phenomenon to a lesser degree. A few days ago the late night cleaning woman asked me if I had any cigarettes. I don't smoke, but I struck a deal with her. I'd buy her a pack of cigarettes if she'd agree to tickle me. She agreed. I bought her a pack of Marlboro Lights (box, not soft pack). She tickled the living daylights out of me, right at my desk. Life is good. 🙂

 

[datickler]

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I wasnt aware I needed to build a relationship with a woman before tickling her......is this written somewhere? is there a handbook or manual im not aware of?

 

[MrPartickler]

I think a lot of folks are taking this too seriously.

I think everyone has or has had occasional fantasies and desires about tickling (or doing whatever 😉 with/to) someone else without all the blah, blah, blah...first. It's just instant gratification. Who doesn't want that from time to time? There's still a difference between fantasy and reality. And it's not like it's all the time--or even most of the time.

Strip clubs, BDSM joints, tickle gatherings, foot parties, one night stands from a bar or club, etc. all smack of fantasy and/or instant gratification to me. Sure someone may feel more comfortable with one as opposed to another, but it's not like there's a whole lot of time to build a relationship before "interacting" with others at any of these places/events. There's nothing wrong with it either, IMO.

Besides, there's nothing wrong with getting to know someone better afterward. 😛

I often fantasize about tickling or being tickled by a complete stranger. The more inappropriate the scenario, the more exciting the fantasy. In the real world, I've experienced this phenomenon to a lesser degree. A few days ago the late night cleaning woman asked me if I had any cigarettes. I don't smoke, but I struck a deal with her. I'd buy her a pack of cigarettes if she'd agree to tickle me. She agreed. I bought her a pack of Marlboro Lights (box, not soft pack). She tickled the living daylights out of me, right at my desk. Life is good. 🙂

Good story! You should post this in the True Stories section.

 

[gig1965]

Am I the only one who thinks the captain's post is hilarious???!!!!
Way to go brother. I like "say what you mean and mean what you say" people.
I'm surprised the harpies have not yet descended though.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Sounds to me you like to keep women at a distance because that is where they kept you for so long.

 

[Headsnap]

I can relate; I reckon most blokes at some point in their lives have wished for a bit of no-strings-attached indulgence from a woman, me included, but I still much prefer the whole commitment, closeness and security you get from a proper relationship. Sharing a bit of consensual kinkyness with a stranger is fun, but sharing it with someone you care about is a lot more satisfying.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

This is why I like gentleman's clubs so much.

The whole thing about socializing with her, getting to know her, don't call too soon or you'll look desperate, trying to appear "cool"......it's all just so much work. More effort than I'm willing to put in, especially when I can just go to an exotic dancer, tell her what I want, give her the money, get what I want and go home. So much less effort. And I don't have to deal with her anymore after I get what I want.

Hate to bring this up to you but the exotic dancer probably wouldn't dance for you if you didn't "work" for the money. So either way, you are "working" for what you want...the difference is at least with a girlfriend you can have IT all the time. A exotic dancer..well. I hope she enjoys your well-spent money on her while at home screwing her boyfriend.

 

[kis123]

I have my moments where I wish someone would just do what I wanted to gratify me then find the door! It comes from years of relationship burnout. End up in a crappy marriage as long as I was, and you'll be void of desire for being close to anyone! It took me six years before I went back out in the relationship arena again and I have vowed to never get that close to another person as long as I live! My SO and I are great friends-I've trusted him with more in months than I ever did with my ex and we lived under the same roof for 10 years! But I don't know if anything else will progress-I only open up so much then shut down in order to protect myself. I will never be controlled, manipulated, or dominated ever again!!

But, when it comes to certain intimacies, I have to have a certain closeness to my partner. I've never been a type to just have sex for the sake of having sex. I wish I wasn't wired this way--it's caused so many problems over my life and lots of bad decisions over falling in love way to easily and deeply.

When it comes to tickling, I have to trust the person who's doing it so tickling without some sort of connection is out. The people who tickled me at my first gathering took three days of hanging out to connect and be comfortable with them. Even then I felt a little wierd-I'm in a hotel room with two men 1200 miles away from home having the living daylights tickled out of me for the first time. It scared the crap out of me at first, but I'm really glad it happened-it broke a lot of past hang-ups and set me free!

When I first read this post yesterday, I was going to give a knee-jerk reaction-I thought better and decided to think about my answer. Yes CQ, I understand your plight to a certain extent. I'm more concerned that the personality you buried awhile ago doesn't show back up. Since you know what I'm talking about, I will not go any further with this thought. Continue to take care of yourself-my son goes through simliar to what you have and it's hard to be social sometimes and I understand that. But in the end, it's your decision to attempt to pursue relationships or to continue as you always have and remain in your comfort zone.

 

[ShadowTklr]

After reading your post, I was left with a feeling that you may have some significant emotional problems that may require further investigation. I'm sure most people can relate to what you wrote every now and then, but it sounds as though this is a characterisitic of your everyday mentality. If that is true, then this may not be healthy. You might suffer from emotional problems that you cannot remedy by yourself.