Has anyone heard from Tenebrae?

[TMF Jeff]

He's usually so active here, and it's been almost a month since he last logged on.

 

[Bugman]

I wouldn't be surprised to learn the forum has been blocked in China. I read a week or so ago they are cracking down on anything they consider to be porn.

 

[BlasterMaster]

Yeah, I'm hoping he doesn't live in Hong Kong. The shit is REALLY HITTING THE FAN there. 🙁

Hoping he's safe. 🙁

 

[TMF Jeff]

Yeah, I'm hoping he doesn't live in Hong Kong. The shit is REALLY HITTING THE FAN there. 🙁

Hoping he's safe. 🙁

Actually, I think maybe he does live there? I'm not 100% sure about that, but now that you bring it up, I think that might be right.

 

[Mitchell]

I hope he;s still around. Tenebrae is one of my favorite people on the forum.

Hope he will be back soon.

 

[Libertine]

Disparage the West all you want- but we're basically a free society.

I hope Tenebrae's safe in a society that isn't.

 

[BlasterMaster]

Disparage the West all you want- but we're basically a free society.

We are 100% free to criticize our government and our leaders WITHOUT FEAR of being locked up and tortured or sent to a re-education camp.

In China and in other nations, that particular freedom doesn't exist unfortunately.

 

[Tenebrae]

Hi everyone!

I apologize for the long silence

First off, I am alive and well. My wife is okay too.

The reason of my absence is that a couple of unrelated tragedies have struck my family recently, and I had to give them my full attention for a while. After things got sorted out a little, I realized that I quite liked my life without social networking, and stopped checking LinkedIN, Weibo, Twitter... and the TMF for a while, just because I felt it allowed me to give more attention to the people around me whom I felt needed it.

Little did I know that there would be other people here who would notice my absence, let alone worry about me. I thought it would have been terribly pretentious if I had gone like Milagros and made a post like "I am gonna be absent for a little while", because I never considered myself a figure of our community. Now seeing the PMs, email, and now this thread, I realize that I SHOULD have let you know I would be gone for a few weeks, and I feel terribly guilty It was never my intention to have you worried about me, so please accept my apologies for the lack of communication. The LAST thing I want is people feeling bad for me. I will reply to each of you who wrote me a PM personally, but I really wanted to clarify the situation. Since 99% of you know me only through this forum, you have no other way to contact me outside of it, so it's easy to let one's imagination run wild.

Speaking of which, thankfully I live in Beijing, the capital city of the People's Republic of China, veeery far away from the violence that is threatening to tear down the beautiful city of Hong-Kong. Beijing is in fact one of the SAFEST cities in the world, and under the most complete surveillance network and government scrutiny ever seen in the history of mankind, so the chances of something bad happening to me are about equal as being hit by a tile falling from my own roof as I walk out. Once again, I really have to stress this: PLEASE DO NOT WORRY.

I cannot give too many details about my current job, but I can tell you that it is an office job with unusual working hours and a decent pay. It is extremely gratifying, and it does not involve any sort of physical or political risk, so again, I do not wish to see you worried sick about me. I am just a normal guy in his mid-thirties who legally emigrated to the country of his dreams to live the life he has chosen for himself. I packed up my fetish and traveled all the way to China with it, and found to my surprise that it was just as easy, if not easier, to express it here. The TMF is freely accessible, and I get many opportunities to practice my kink, again freely, with my wife to our hearts' content. I am happy and well, and there are few other places in the world I'd rather be.

Just when bad things happened to other people we are very close to... well it sort of took precedence over my social networking. I am really sorry you were all so worried, I had no idea Rest assured that it shall not happen again, as I will strive to balance all these aspects of my life a little better.

 

[TMF Jeff]

Sorry you're dealing with these tragedies and for raising this false alarm, but I'm glad you're ok, and it's good to hear from you!

 

[Tenebrae]

Sorry you're dealing with these tragedies and for raising this false alarm, but I'm glad you're ok, and it's good to hear from you!

It's really me who needs to say sorry. Thinking about it again, you had all the right to be worried. I failed to realize that until I got an email from a fellow user who told me that "they are starting to get really concerned, even created a topic about your absence"; I was like "WHAT?!" I seldom felt this dumb in my life.......

 

[milagros317]

Very glad to hear that both you and your wife are okay, my friend. 😀

 

[Bohemianne]

Hi everyone!

I apologize for the long silence

First off, I am alive and well. My wife is okay too.

The reason of my absence is that a couple of unrelated tragedies have struck my family recently, and I had to give them my full attention for a while. After things got sorted out a little, I realized that I quite liked my life without social networking, and stopped checking LinkedIN, Weibo, Twitter... and the TMF for a while, just because I felt it allowed me to give more attention to the people around me whom I felt needed it.

Little did I know that there would be other people here who would notice my absence, let alone worry about me. I thought it would have been terribly pretentious if I had gone like Milagros and made a post like "I am gonna be absent for a little while", because I never considered myself a figure of our community. Now seeing the PMs, email, and now this thread, I realize that I SHOULD have let you know I would be gone for a few weeks, and I feel terribly guilty It was never my intention to have you worried about me, so please accept my apologies for the lack of communication. The LAST thing I want is people feeling bad for me. I will reply to each of you who wrote me a PM personally, but I really wanted to clarify the situation. Since 99% of you know me only through this forum, you have no other way to contact me outside of it, so it's easy to let one's imagination run wild.

Speaking of which, thankfully I live in Beijing, the capital city of the People's Republic of China, veeery far away from the violence that is threatening to tear down the beautiful city of Hong-Kong. Beijing is in fact one of the SAFEST cities in the world, and under the most complete surveillance network and government scrutiny ever seen in the history of mankind, so the chances of something bad happening to me are about equal as being hit by a tile falling from my own roof as I walk out. Once again, I really have to stress this: PLEASE DO NOT WORRY.

I cannot give too many details about my current job, but I can tell you that it is an office job with unusual working hours and a decent pay. It is extremely gratifying, and it does not involve any sort of physical or political risk, so again, I do not wish to see you worried sick about me. I am just a normal guy in his mid-thirties who legally emigrated to the country of his dreams to live the life he has chosen for himself. I packed up my fetish and traveled all the way to China with it, and found to my surprise that it was just as easy, if not easier, to express it here. The TMF is freely accessible, and I get many opportunities to practice my kink, again freely, with my wife to our hearts' content. I am happy and well, and there are few other places in the world I'd rather be.

Just when bad things happened to other people we are very close to... well it sort of took precedence over my social networking. I am really sorry you were all so worried, I had no idea Rest assured that it shall not happen again, as I will strive to balance all these aspects of my life a little better.

Hmmm... that sort of clarified some misnomers about China. Welcome back, Tenebrae! 🙂

 

[Tenebrae]

Very glad to hear that both you and your wife are okay, my friend. 😀

Thank you, my friend

Hmmm... that sort of clarified some misnomers about China. Welcome back, Tenebrae! 🙂

Thank you

Hahaha, do I know I CONSTANTLY have to fight stereotypes about this most misunderstood country, even within my own family. That said, most people do not have a clue of what they are talking about; the phenomenon is not limited to China only.

The point here wasn't, however, to lecture everyone about China, but rather to let them know that not only I am alive and well, I also fit quite snugly in Chinese society. I am a happy legal immigrant who arrived as a student 10 years ago and now has a wife, an apartment and a really good job. I cannot wait to find out what the next ten years have in store for us