help me! How can anyone not love this!!

[beccasmile88]

UPDATE! 1 YEAR LATER!! help me! How can anyone not love this!!

I would first like to say that I am so happy I decided to search for tickling online. I never knew that there are people like me. I always knew that I had a *fetish* for tickling, but was too afraid to tell anyone.

I am in a serious relationship, with a boy, and I love him very much. I intend this relationship to last a very long time.

The only problem is that I haven't told him yet. I don't know how he will react. He is open minded, and I know he will accept me however I am.

The real problem is that he DOESN'T LIKE TO BE TICKLED. I barely get the chance to tickle him here and there when he isn't looking. Sometimes, on a rare occasion, I can pin him down, using all of my energy,and tickle him for a few seconds before he throws me off and gives me a look.

He will tickle me sometimes, but never for long enough. I think he doesn't because he doesn't like it.

HELP ME! Has anyone here ever dated someone that doesn't like tickling?

What should I do?

 

[escargot0071]

hey i know how you feel, cuz my girlfriend is the same way. I know that like u i was too afraid to tell anyone about my fetish and was very relieved to find this site with people like me. It definatly made me feel alot better. About telling him, i think you should, earlier this year i finaly let my 3 best friends know about my secret. (2 guys 1 girl). They were really great about it, they had a lot of questions, but ultimatley it was for the best because it felt SO GOOD to finaly tell someone. But if your bf doesnt like to be tickled i dunno. Maybe he would like tickling u more? i say tell him, then maybe he will be a little more open to ur tickling him and stuff. Hope that helped, and good luck 🙂

 

[AcornaMordor]

I agree with this theory. Maybe he also has an infatuation with it and he doesn't like it because when you tickle him it's stirring something he'd rather not be let out just yet. But that's just a theory, it may or may not be true so, while it's not like you're telling him you're a hermaphrodite or anything, it's still a sensitive and (ehem pardon the pun) ticklish subject.

 

[nessonite1]

This has been brought up before and I still have the same stance. Everything is better when you are open and honest. How you broach the subject is up to you and your individual relationship/situation. However secrets of this magnitude are never a good idea and only lead to bad feelings, guilt, and resentment.
Besides, you may very well find his attitude towards it changes dramtically once he knows how important it is to you.

 

[nytoetapper1]

Ness is 100% correct about being open and honest. And even if he never likes tickling, it's better for him to know. He may try to like it, for your sake. Or he may be accepting of the idea that it's ok for you to indulge with others.

My wife isn't into tickling, but she knows how I feel about it and accepts me as I am. She also allows (encourages) me to tickle others. Like you, we have the occasional quick tickle situation. And she is considering trying to see things from my side(wish me luck). But whether she becomes a ticklephile or not, she lets me be. She has even met one of my favorite lees. I would suggest that, if he keeps that open mind, you show him this site. There's loads of related topics to help him see what tickling is. This is a thread I started. Look at it, and see if anything here will help.

http://www.tickletheater.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=1742

If your fetish is more connected to the erotic side of tickling, then obviously tickling with others is out. And while it's difficult, you have to take the chance. The worst that can happen is he won't let you tickle him or anyone else. And while that's bad, if you love him, you'll deal. But you might just get lucky.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

 

[BrotherLust]

I think that if you want this relationship to last, then you must tell him. Part of being in a relationship is being able to share in each other's lives. Even if he's not into it, you both will be better off for having it out in the open.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Start by just telling him. Go from there. Be yourself and be honest and straight forward. If what you say is true about him loving and accepting you....there will be no problem and more than likely he will oblige at least as far as tickling YOU is concerned. As far as you tickling him and him allowing it, you may have to start out slow and sensual......peak his interest.....you can always gradually increase the intensity as you go along.


TTD

 

[robotickle3000]

Hey!

you all know Rosie by ss gohan, well i found her yahoo home at

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/home_to_the_pink_babe_Rosie_Navel/

GO and Enjoy!!

 

[RichardAuc]

Suggestion

I recommend that you tell him how you feel. Tell him casually, when he's already feeling good about himself, without the pressure that might panic him. Telling him without pressure, however, means being ready to accept how he feels about this--whatever way that is.

I was in a good relationship with someone who wasn't really into this, but she pretended to be for my sake. She was so good at pretending that I believed her, and by the time she finally told me how she really felt about this (and other things that she pretended to be other than what she was) we realized we didn't really know each other. She broke up with me 1/18/92. I still miss her.

Relationships are never easy, safe or certain--but other than ourselves, they're all we have. The only hope any of them have is to be honest with each other AND be clear that we expect the same honesty in return.

Here endeth the lesson.

 

[Papabear1]

Most of us agree that honesty is the best policy. Gee Davie I think you should just tell the truth. You younger folks will not get that one. Just be easy, maybe you could introduce a feather and tell him it just feels so good to have it bruched against your skin. Honesty does not mean blurt out your whole dialoge at once. Take YOUR time. Good luck!!

 

[beccasmile88]

Update

Well I haven't told him yet exactly. Someone on the board gave me really good advice. To take it slow. Tell him that I like something here and there. He knows now that I *do* like him to tickle me, and I will try as hard as I can not to fight back when he does. I have gotten to the point where he will tickle me for a few minutes (I still can't tickle him for very long though... ) and then I will show him how much it turns me on, if you know what I mean....

It's been better. On a regular basis I will tie him up, and be very tempted to tickle him. The other day he said, "I'm afraid that you will tickle me if you tie me up tonight." I saw this as a good sign that he is noticing this! But then again, I had to promise him that I wouldn't tickle him if I did tie him up. (I might have by accident once or twice.....)

well, I will keep you updated!

thanks again!
becca

 

[nessonite1]

Please do keep us updated!

 

[beccasmile88]

UPDATE!!
ONE YEAR LATER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We are still going strong, and I am completly in love.

I still haven't outright said anything about it....
but, he knows that I have this 'secret fetish' he says he knows what it is, but I don't want him to guess, I think he would figure it out... hehe....

I tell him how much I like it almost everytime he tickles me. Now he tickles me all the time. Especially when he is trying to ..um... get my clothes off.

Although he still doesn't like to be tickled, he will let me occasionally. Especially when I am mad at him. It's one of the things that he uses when we are fighting.

"awww come on, I'm sorry! I'll let you tickle me! I promise to not fight back!"
Then he will put his arms up and hold his breath. It is so adorable. He can't last more than a few seconds before throwing me off, but I think it is wonderful that he is trying!

 

[TickledToDeath]

Another Suggestion

First, honesty is definitely the best policy here. Just tell him exactly how you feel about tickling and what it does to and for you.

Then, indroduce it to him in a sensual manner and over time, increase the intensity as he gets accustomed to the different levels of intensity.

If all goes well, things will move along quite nicely. Use the same technique with him tickling you only he can turn up the intensity while tickling you.
Eventually bring bondage into play.

TTD 🙂

 

[nessonite1]

Sound slike things are going well for you! Thanks for bringing us up to date 😀 😀
*sniff* I love a happy...um..beginning. 😀

 

[Ticklekiller1]

I would first like to say that I am so happy I decided to search for tickling online. I never knew that there are people like me. I always knew that I had a *fetish* for tickling, but was too afraid to tell anyone.

Just another fetish in a sea of fetishes. Don't let it go to your head. There are more important things in life.