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[ticklebug101]

Hey gang it's me, again.
I got a problem. I realy wanna go back out with my ex but I'm scared.
See, I've dumped him and asked him back out at least 3 times and every time he takes me back but I'm worried that if I ask him out again, he's gonna turn around and say "No, enough you crazy witch!" which he would be well within his rights to do.
But as I've told him before, I cant see myself being happy with anyone else. My ex is..... or was, pretty much perfect for me.
Any opinions would be appriciated,
thanks,
Bug.

 

[melanie2]

hmmm buggie...i dumped David three times during our engagement...and lookit us now...so go ahead and ask him again...if he says no...then you will at least know..

 

[ticklebug101]

And you guys are still married 31 years later? Wow thanks Izzy

 

[Noeyes1]

ok you have to ask yourself why you split before have either of you changed or was the problems resolved if not i would think you have work to do before taking each other back

 

[melanie2]

And you guys are still married 31 years later? Wow thanks Izzy

He wouldn't give up...he kept coming back lol...i wonder if he regrets that now..giggles...

seriously hon...do what you think is best..

 

[PurpleStyle]

If you actually have to fight for your relationship, then somebody is doing something wrong. You should probably focus more on the rest of your life instead of your love life.

 

[spiderswebf]

Is it love

You have to ask one basic question is it love, or infatuation if it is love you may regret not chasing him, i know that to my cost, but each one of us is different,it could also be argued that to chase too much is counter productive, but if you don't well he may think you don't care a damn, its a very fine balance, bottom line from me is if you can't do without him then for gods sake don't let him go. good luck hun if i can help pm me.

 

[Grim1]

My girlfriend is constantly telling me to go away, but I always come back. The key is persistence, if at first you don't succeed, try and try again. However she's since issued a restraining order and I'm forced to try from her garden, and can only catch glimpses of her through the bathroom window. But I'm pretty sure it's love, I can only imagine wearing her skin as a coat, and hers only.

 

[melanie2]

My girlfriend is constantly telling me to go away, but I always come back. The key is persistence, if at first you don't succeed, try and try again. However she's since issued a restraining order and I'm forced to try from her garden, and can only catch glimpses of her through the bathroom window. But I'm pretty sure it's love, I can only imagine wearing her skin as a coat, and hers only.

lol...

 

[ticklebug101]

You have to ask one basic question is it love, or infatuation if it is love you may regret not chasing him, i know that to my cost, but each one of us is different,it could also be argued that to chase too much is counter productive, but if you don't well he may think you don't care a damn, its a very fine balance, bottom line from me is if you can't do without him then for gods sake don't let him go. good luck hun if i can help pm me.

Thanks Spiderweb that's very sweet.

 

[ticklebug101]

My girlfriend is constantly telling me to go away, but I always come back. The key is persistence, if at first you don't succeed, try and try again. However she's since issued a restraining order and I'm forced to try from her garden, and can only catch glimpses of her through the bathroom window. But I'm pretty sure it's love, I can only imagine wearing her skin as a coat, and hers only.

Go seek proffesional help 😉

 

[Grim1]

In ENGLAND?! Professional help here is dished out by Jeremy Kyle and This Morning. I'll pass, and keep my dignity rather than my sanity. :stickout

 

[ticklebug101]

in england?! Professional help here is dished out by jeremy kyle and this morning. I'll pass, and keep my dignity rather than my sanity. :stickout

lol!

 

[chickles_:)]

Hey gang it's me, again.
I got a problem. I realy wanna go back out with my ex but I'm scared.
See, I've dumped him and asked him back out at least 3 times and every time he takes me back but I'm worried that if I ask him out again, he's gonna turn around and say "No, enough you crazy witch!" which he would be well within his rights to do.
But as I've told him before, I cant see myself being happy with anyone else. My ex is..... or was, pretty much perfect for me.
Any opinions would be appriciated,
thanks,
Bug.

Hiya TickleBug! :Angel_anim:

Wow, it sounds like quite the thing with you and your ex.
First of all, if we're honest, everyone of us have had a relationship where one person kept coming back. The fact is, as you can see from what others have already rightly said, sometimes it turned out to be the right one and, well, sometimes it didn't.

I'm not sure persistence is the key though. I mean it matters in every relationship - even if there isn't the excitement of break up and make up. (which by the way some of us develop a kind of subconscious habit of doing partly as a kind of emotional drug. I'm not saying that is you, hon. But if I were having the break up-run back thing you have going on, I'd at least check that out with people who know me and whom I trust.)

But most of all, I would listen to those who ask the fairly obvious Q: What is it that has caused you to dump him 3x already? If he's such a catch why have you felt it necessary to end it? Is it something in him, or in you, or between the two of you? Again, check it out with those who know you best.😉

Whether you are persistent or not; whether you are true soulmates or not; that key question needs to get sorted out before you can have the stable relationship you deserve - either with him or with any other guy.
After all, whatever is at issue here may turn up with someone else - unless you can work it out.

I hope that helps, T-buggie 🙂

Whatever happens I sincerely wish total happiness for both of you. :hug:

Many blessings,

 

[Chris Prime]

Poor you Bug. :cry

Hope things get tied up well for you.

I had a lousy love life long ago and it ended with my ex dumping me for ciggies, booze & a measly job. :blush

 

[ticklebug101]

Hiya TickleBug! :Angel_anim:

Wow, it sounds like quite the thing with you and your ex.
First of all, if we're honest, everyone of us have had a relationship where one person kept coming back. The fact is, as you can see from what others have already rightly said, sometimes it turned out to be the right one and, well, sometimes it didn't.

I'm not sure persistence is the key though. I mean it matters in every relationship - even if there isn't the excitement of break up and make up. (which by the way some of us develop a kind of subconscious habit of doing partly as a kind of emotional drug. I'm not saying that is you, hon. But if I were having the break up-run back thing you have going on, I'd at least check that out with people who know me and whom I trust.)

But most of all, I would listen to those who ask the fairly obvious Q: What is it that has caused you to dump him 3x already? If he's such a catch why have you felt it necessary to end it? Is it something in him, or in you, or between the two of you? Again, check it out with those who know you best.😉

Whether you are persistent or not; whether you are true soulmates or not; that key question needs to get sorted out before you can have the stable relationship you deserve - either with him or with any other guy.
After all, whatever is at issue here may turn up with someone else - unless you can work it out.

I hope that helps, T-buggie 🙂

Whatever happens I sincerely wish total happiness for both of you. :hug:

Many blessings,

Thanks. Let's just say he lied to me and is pretty good at messing with my head. But I'm miserable when he's not around, I dont work without him. And I'm doing the jobhunting thing right now so I'm at home a lot, giving myself way too much time to think. And Chris, you know where I am if you ever need 2 talk. *Hugs Chickles, Chris and Izzy.*