Hi Need Help Again.

[iceman19_19]

Wait until you hear this. I went over to my ex-girlfriend, current friend's house. the one i told that i like tickling. (PS all i told her was that i was into tickling, you know that i like it. nothing in the sexual way) anyway, and her brother and sister, both younger were there. i was play fighting with her brother and she began tickling me. a total of three different times.

now she told me that it weirded her out a little but that i was still her friend when i told her that i liked tickling. but now she tickles me.

can anybody shine a light on this situation?


PLEASE HELP! ANYBODY WHO THINKS THEY CAN.

 

[sepa]

The problem with talking about tickling

Common blunder this: There's basically nothing you can do now except wish you had never said anything, pretend you didn't, learn your lesson, and hope it hasn't really "weirded her out".
I really can't see the point in talking seriously to a girl (one you enjoy tickling) about this kind of thing unless you are in a proper relationship and have got to the point where you feel she needs to know. Tickling is meant to be light hearted play, and if you blurt out "I'm into tickling" you can't expect her not to be thinking quite what you meant next time you tickle her. If you only want to play around, making said announcement only casts the whole hting in strange light, and hence ruins it completely. Even if I felt I could easily get away with a girl knowing, I would MUCH prefer to just let them figure it out by tickling them all the time and making my enjoyment obvious. (also more fun than a serious chat 😉) Four girls in my life so far have known I have a fetish for tickling. Only two of those ever asked me about it and I never spoke of it until they asked. They only knew because I had decided to let them know by making it so obvious. By the time they ask, I already know they know and don't care, so it's easy to discuss it. Like I say two of them seemed happy to just know and not quiz me on it. One of them was actually my gf of 20 months. She knew it drove me wild tickling her, it was no secret: When she wanted sex she'd actually do stuff like grab things off me and refuse to give them back or just put her feet on my lap 🙂 Likewise, I figured out exactly what her quirks were and indulged her as often as possible. I loved how well we knew each other without speaking of it. It was like this deep, unspoken understanding that needn't be discussed. I guess I'll never meet someone like that again. Anyway, this is drifting from the point really so I'll shut up now. Bottom line is, keep your mouth shut. Divulge this kind of thing on a need to know basis, and you can carry on tickling as much as you want.

Also, "Ex-girlfriend, current friend" sounds nasty. I'm guessing you still fancy her. If you do, GET AWAY. I can't stress enough how painfull, time-wasting, and generally soul destroying it is to cling onto someone who has gone off you....

 

[sepa]

Having just re-read your post, it sounds like she might well have started tickling you to see how you respond, in light of what you told her. She probably is a bit "weirded" but also intruiged to see what kind of reaction she can get out of you. You are being watched - you decide what to show her, but beware the above.

 

[MistressValerie1]

now she told me that it weirded her out a little but that i was still her friend when i told her that i liked tickling. but now she tickles me.

can anybody shine a light on this situation?

Most girls like to tickle guys, so she assumed that you meant that you like being tickled when you said that you "like tickling." If you don't like being tickled, then you should explain to her what it is you want, but be prepared for her not to be very happy about it.

Best regards,

 

[iceman19_19]

thanks for all you help

will keep you all posted on future events

 

[mart]

My view, for what its worth.

Some people need a little time to adjust to new information about somebody they thought they knew. They get a little freaked out at first when something like a fetish or so is spoken about. Like finding out that a friend you've known a long time is actually gay. But then you think about it and realise that it really is ok and you remain friends.

And in her case, because she figured it was really quite a fun thing to be fond of, she decided to give it a bash with you. She obviously likes you, values your friendship and the best thing to do is to see where it leads.

 

[sepa]

Good stuff eric. Bit more mature and down-to-earth than my rant 🙂

 

[cosquillero1]

Wait until you hear this. I went over to my ex-girlfriend, current friend's house. the one i told that i like tickling. (PS all i told her was that i was into tickling, you know that i like it. nothing in the sexual way) anyway, and her brother and sister, both younger were there. i was play fighting with her brother and she began tickling me. a total of three different times.

now she told me that it weirded her out a little but that i was still her friend when i told her that i liked tickling. but now she tickles me.

can anybody shine a light on this situation?


PLEASE HELP! ANYBODY WHO THINKS THEY CAN.

Speak her clearly, just tell her that you enjoy tickling women rather than be tickled.