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Hiding the truth from others.

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semprini

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Does anybody else out there in tickleland have to hide what they do on this board from a family member? I myself still live at home with my parents only being 19, and I take great care to erase all traces of my coming to a tickling related site, I have all of my pics and stories on disks hidden in my room. I have no idea what would happen if they or anyone else found out, and they do tend to overreact and over-analyse things. Does anybody else hae this problem? And has anybody "come out" to their family and if so what came of it? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
~ Semprini
 
I used to do that. Except I has to stash all my stuff into the depths of my hard drive, because those damn clips are a bit big for a floppy =)

I've ben through the whole "Clear Temporary Cache, Clear History, Clear Documents" thing, but now it makes it a hell of a lot easier having my own computer with a net connection in my room. 😀
 
Until I met my current wife, {and attended a few NEST meetings), I too had a lot of hang ups about tickling. The main thing here is really self confidence. While tickling is pretty much an obbsession for me, I have learned to portray it to my friends as a sort of outrageous, yet harmless quirk. Surround yourself with good people and live accordingly to your moral standards. This will give you the confidence you need to be comfortable with your fetish, and yourself in general. Also remember the old saying "Kinky is when you use a feather, perverted is when you use the whole chicken". Take care.

😎


Ed
 
Agreed..

In general I do the same....live a moral life that has a ticklish bent to it at times. My wife isn't into it, but i have a few friends that are, and she tolerates it because I always come home happy and ready to be a better husband and person. We have separate computers but she isn't stupid and i don't try to hide things, I merely don't flaunt them. 19 is a tough age to begin with, and this fetish doesn't help. I personally would set up a folder, label it "My Weird Stuff" and see if it opens a dialogue. You might be surprised at the results of a frank discussion regarding your choices. You ARE 19 and an adult in most ways. I discovered after 40 years that my father has a few quirks of his own (too much info Dad!)....lol. Still, not knowing your exact circumstances it's tough to advise you intelligently. Q
 
Hmmm...

Hi,

I have been thinking about this one. My family and friends know about my obsession with feet and tickling; however, I am sure they do not see it as a fetish or do not know there is a forum, a community, gatherings, pictures, and videos all over the world.

This has been the result of many years of doing it. I did not come up one day and said "Hey, I like feet and tickling". I have been doing it since I was 2 years old. Lately, it has been easier for me to gather the courage to just go ahead and try it on new people. They usually like it, but if they say they don't, then I just stop it.

Some new people I meet are surprised about my "sudden interest" in their feet and feel uncomfortable (something like "what does he want with me?"). However, when they bring it up, my friends always say, "Oh, do not worry. He likes massaging feet and stuff. Do not take it personally.". And then, it is OK.

Notice that they do not see it as a fetish, or anything bad or evil. They, in fact, enjoy their foot massages and the few tickles that I get in. They feel comfortable all around and do not think I have any hidden agenda. The fact of the matter, is that it is the truth. I just want the feet and the tickling, and make sure they have a good time with it. Nothing else. I have my g/f to satisfy the other things.

All the material I have gathered is safely stored and away from curious eyes. The funny thing is that I barely go back to that material, so I wonder sometimes why I have it in the first place. I do not really have the liberty to sit hours in front of the TV watching clips, or perusing through hundres of pictures of feet or tickling.

For me, it is more about the chance of seeing, touching or realizing other people's struggles and victories. I also use this community/forum to make sure that what I am doing, although innocent to me, is not violating anybody's personal space or comfort level. I like to keep it clean. I am not into bondage or extreme tickling. So, I need to make sure that any new step I take is not into an area that would be considered risquè.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you have to be yourself. Just do it as part of your everyday life and let people know that you do not feel ashamed of it. If someone says, "Oh, but he has a foot fetish.", you say, "Yeah, but that's better than being a murderer, and you and your feet feel a lot better when I am through with them". 🙂

Over time, people will associate you with the tickling and will not see it as something weird or bad. It is just you!

I hope this helps.

Bye,

Knight Tickler
 
Wow!

That was a long answer. 🙂

In a nutshell, what I want to say is:

Allow people to realize by themselves about your interest into tickling. I have done it through my everyday actions and interactions with friends and family (since I was 2 years old). With time, it becomes easier to do it and people do not see it something strange (it is basically you).

If somebody becomes really interested, then you can slowly introduce them into the community, the forum and everything else. I did it with one person and it felt great. However, I am not a tickling head hunter. It just happened once.

Announcing it to the world, sort of like "I have a tickling fetish", seems to me more complicated to handle. Maybe, Jeff from MTP can tell you better about his experiences when he "came out".

Take care,

Knight Tickler
 
yup, the history gets cleared, everything gets zipped, renamed, and hidden until I can get the zip disk out to move them.
 
i know. i have to go to Yahoo, search for it, and then come here so it doesnt appear in the address book. I also go to the cookies and the temporary internet files and delete it from there too because i also still live at home.
 
I have a gf who pokes around on my computer every now and then. She knows I'm into it, but doesn't know I check on the web and have pics and clips.
Like others, I have most of my stuff on the same folder or under a different name, like "system files".
But also, we both have our different windows settings on this computer. So when she's on, she uses hers and we don't share passwords. That helps. Besides, who knows what SHE'S looking at! 🙂
 
Once, way back when, I used to avoid mentionin' it, but I'm long past that now. It's part of my social life these days, now that I host events on the West Coast.

Everyone, it seems, has had to go through hiding this side of themselves, and thus hidin' the related items. Some get quite clever about it. It's just so much easier to get casual about it, I've found. Then again, my family is easygoing.

I much prefer having it "out" now. Last woman I was serious about dating knew practically day one that it was a kink of mine. Didn't care, either. Wasn't like I was harmful, and she made the most hysterical followup comment.

"It's not like you play with pee or something."

'Course, now I feel bad for those watersports kids. Still ain't gonna humor any of 'em, though. To each his or her own, though.

dvnc
 
Anytime my Wife sees me looking at this site she asks, "Anything new and exciting?" Sometimes I'll say, "Yeah check out this post by Kujman. She'll read it and laugh and laugh! Kuj! We love ya Man!

MO😎
 
I live with my family, and although I have my own computer I still erase all my tracks just incase. There is a file-sharing program called "Aimster" which cannot be traced in any way. It's well worth it, as there are many files on there. But I do have a question perhaps someone can help with. I'm currently on dial-up, but am soon upgrading to cable. It will be a link from the modem that my parents will be using. Will they be able to check the sites I've visited from their computer? Is there anyway they can check through the service provider? In a way, I do rely on this site...
 
Software...

I assume you're routing through a hub, most likely 4 port. Doesn't really matter, but its a nice safe way to have a physical firewall and capacity all at once. The answer is ...no, unless they install the appropriate software to do so, or have installed it already. At least in my experience. There's a LOT of stuff out there, so hang on until the hackers weigh in with the expertise, ok>? Q
 
RE:

I too live at home with my parents. THey dont know about my "fetish" and i still hide it from them. But the truth is i dont think they would really care. But what i get freaked out about is when my friends come over. THen i clear the history and everything. It would be worse for me if my friends found out. Anyway just adding my two cents-
 
Wrong spot?

Now I would have thought you'd post that one to the "Religion/Guilt/Evil" thread, bud! And don't be using that big guy big finger excuse! I'm 6ft+ and 240 and mine fit...lol! Not well, but they need to make a better keyboard(mental note-develop "Bigguy" keyboard) Soletk, you are indeed a fortunate man, and have realized the dream! I agree completely about telling ones parents things they don't need to know. As for "penalties", I'd be trying to get some yardwork/weeding done if I had the proverbial upper hand! Sounds like an ideal arrangement, and I can tell you appreciate the uniqueness of it....lucky,lucky man! May you enjoy all your alloted time and a bit more. Q
 
Just some added props to your social declaration of us as a community, Soletk. I've always thought of us as a fine little deviant subculture, and haven't recently done the analysis of us as a community in ages. Sweet to see that we reach Mickey's hand now.

I do indeed remember Sandshoes, btw. Always good to know another "old school" member is around.

Peace,

dvnc
 
Every Day

Semprini I have this exact same problem at my house, I have told no one at all about my fetish, I am 19 and I too still live with my parents, Its hard for me to go on these sites while my dad or my little sister could just come down stairs from out of bed at any second to get something from the kitchen.

As i type this message they are all in bed now, who knows when that door next to me will open?!
As soon as it does I open another window on the pc to display somthing completly different and I always delete everything from the web browser and the hard drive so that no evidence could be found.
 
ROFLMAO! I just called him the "resurector" in a pm.....😀
 
Hee! Classic humor knows no boundaries of linear temporal constraint!

Joby-😉

Rayby-That's MR. Resurrector to YOU, palford! 😛
 
*cough, cough* Geez, dust everywhere!

Still a relevant topic. Was recently in an email exchange with someone dealin' wit' this currently. It's damned awkward, and worse when the few social vents aren't appropriate for an individual, or they aren't compatible with their local events.

It's why I recommend knowing many and socializin' often. Many really cool folks in this community to me. Some suckheads, too, but, hey, why would we be different from any other subculture? 😉

Yer a rascal, Danimal!

dvnc
 
Besides, it's OBVIOUSLY Ray's fault that it's so dusty in here....

He's clearly been slacking off in the Humor Forum instead of cleaning again! 😛
 
I am 19 as well and my folks know..i still live at home as well...i got caught accidently i forgot to earse the history and my dad questioned it and then i showed him some stuff and my mom as well and they said: "Well its better than pornography" then again my family is a lil odd
 
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