How can I be a better tickler?

[jfna]

Hey all,

I don't come here that often anymore cause of work (I finally got a job!). Dunno why cause its one of the best forums ever!

Anyways, I've had this problem for a long time and I really need help on it, I know you guys/gals are the experts here haha.

I've been into my tickle fetish for a long time now. Ever since I was a young teen, I would always have fights with my gfs and friends in general etc. And I've always been a ler.

I suck at tickling. I mean really suck at it. Every relationship I've had I always tickled them but they never feel anything. Then they just attack me to death. In fact, I'm actually the Lee. I'm very ticklish! Sobs*

But I wanna be the ler. Its what helps me in my sex life, in foreplay. And being a ler and not being able to tickle is a very sad story to be honest. Tickling is very important to me for both relationships and flirting. Its actually affected my sex life and relationships in general. I'm feeling incredibly depressed about it!

Phew, can any of you guys give me pointers or tips? I just can't go on being the lee anymore. Its fun for a little while but I'm a ler. Any help will be great!Please!

Thanks loads

 

[OnnaOtaku]

Hey all,

I don't come here that often anymore cause of work (I finally got a job!). Dunno why cause its one of the best forums ever!

Anyways, I've had this problem for a long time and I really need help on it, I know you guys/gals are the experts here haha.

I've been into my tickle fetish for a long time now. Ever since I was a young teen, I would always have fights with my gfs and friends in general etc. And I've always been a ler.

I suck at tickling. I mean really suck at it. Every relationship I've had I always tickled them but they never feel anything. Then they just attack me to death. In fact, I'm actually the Lee. I'm very ticklish! Sobs*

But I wanna be the ler. Its what helps me in my sex life, in foreplay. And being a ler and not being able to tickle is a very sad story to be honest. Tickling is very important to me for both relationships and flirting. Its actually affected my sex life and relationships in general. I'm feeling incredibly depressed about it!

Phew, can any of you guys give me pointers or tips? I just can't go on being the lee anymore. Its fun for a little while but I'm a ler. Any help will be great!Please!

Thanks loads

Not to toot my own horn, but I consider myself a natural when it comes to tickling. Before now, I never did it as a known fetish. All the others times it was me just poking and prodding for my own 5 second enjoyment. But now, I am able to do whatever it is I feel necessary to make them scream and laugh! Everything I've ever done has come straight from my cranium. So be creative.

Anywho, I find that NOT being consistent is good. The more consistent you are the more they expect it and the more they will become immune to it. Blindfolds can also be a good tool. Having no clue where the next touch is going to be can be quite a rush. Also, a move I do is have them tied down on their back on the bed with legs going to the corners and arms out... sit between their legs and use your feet to tickle their upper body while using your hands to tickle their lower body. This can drive them nuts for a while. But just don't over do things. There are only so many ways you can tickle people and if you over do them in the beginning then it will get boring. There is nothing wrong with doing the same thing more than once, just spread it out and change it up.

I could go on for a long time with tips, but really, I don't want to give all my secrets away. Just start out trying to find out where they are most ticklish and what kind of pressure is needed.

Also, if you say you tickle people and they're not responding, maybe they're just not ticklish at all.


Good luck to ya.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

well most of the time a light touch is usually the best way to go. Even some of the less ticklish can be tickled by a light touch.

Let your nails grow to a length that is just a bit past the fingers. Keep them filed as well. Nothing is worse then cutting the women with a hang-nail. Light glides across obvious spots like the belly and underarms may cause a jump. IF a person isn't ticklish in a certain spot. A technique that I has proven effective for me is a teasing glide with my nails around the area. Just making circles around it but not touching the area itself. It causes the nerve-endings to wake up as i call it. Then when you finally go for the spot...it will be more ticklish.

 

[kered]

How do you become a better tickler?

Practice, practice, practice!

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

this may work too

10 second surprise attacks also work. Sometimes if you stay on a spot too long the lee may defend the feeling. Just tickle different areas randomly.

 

[jfna]

Thanks for all the friendly advice! I knew there were some cool people on here!

Well some very helpful advice. I guess I do need some practice as well! Its just weird that no matter how hard I try, I just can't seem to tickle people. Really sux. Wish I could tickle this one mate of mine who keeps attacking me and attacking me well and wen I get her back she just sits still and looks at me funny... aw well.

Thanks very much guys!

Will chat soon!

 

[makemlaugh2003]

I'll make this easy for ya, JFNA...

...THE most important thing when it comes to being a good 'ler is BEING IN TUNE WITH THE NEEDS AND/OR PREFERENCES OF THE 'LEE. It's that simple. Always go with what makes the 'lee happy and have that in the forefront. You may prefer tickling underarms, but your 'lee loves being tickled on the belly...so what do you concentrate on first and foremost? The belly, of course. I mean, don't TOTALLY forget about what you like to do, put the 'lee first and the rest takes care of itself. One 'lee may love being lobster-clawed like mad on the ribs, another may greatly enjoy having the feet reeeeeeeeally slowly teased with feathery-soft strokes, and when you're in tune with the 'lees desires, it won't be long before the tickling experience becomes truly wonderful for both of you. Don't get discouraged and hang in there, and good luck.

 

[NavelTickler75]

Honestly I'm a cyber tickler. But gently probbing, and strokes every once in a while is a good start. Talk the the lee, find where they are ticklish, and probe it once in a while. Use different tools and see which makes her giggle the most. That kind of thing.

 

[benjitk1]

Have u tried blindfolding them, it can be thought of as a new experience and also it supposidly hightens the senses, cos they'll never know where ur coming from.

Also use many different things to tickle them, keep them on their toes and u'll be great!!!

Best of luck!

 

[Dancer]

Hey all,

I don't come here that often anymore cause of work (I finally got a job!). Dunno why cause its one of the best forums ever!

Anyways, I've had this problem for a long time and I really need help on it, I know you guys/gals are the experts here haha.

I've been into my tickle fetish for a long time now. Ever since I was a young teen, I would always have fights with my gfs and friends in general etc. And I've always been a ler.

I suck at tickling. I mean really suck at it. Every relationship I've had I always tickled them but they never feel anything. Then they just attack me to death. In fact, I'm actually the Lee. I'm very ticklish! Sobs*

But I wanna be the ler. Its what helps me in my sex life, in foreplay. And being a ler and not being able to tickle is a very sad story to be honest. Tickling is very important to me for both relationships and flirting. Its actually affected my sex life and relationships in general. I'm feeling incredibly depressed about it!

Phew, can any of you guys give me pointers or tips? I just can't go on being the lee anymore. Its fun for a little while but I'm a ler. Any help will be great!Please!

Thanks loads

I have some good tickling advice for you. I found a web-site called sexysexpert.com and on the left side, click under the word "tips". You'll read that one notable area of the stomach is the muscle in the lower part of the stomach that forms a "V", running from the hipbones to the pelvic bones and genitals. Many men and women find stimulation of their "V-Zone" to be arousing. Some women describe the V-zone as one of the most erotic areas of the body, and highly sensitive to the touch. In fact, the pubic hair found there can be so responsive that even a "light touch" can cause a sensual, electric-like shock sensation that travels right to the inside of woman's vagina!! Hope that helps with your tickling! It also helps to have a partner who enjoys having their belly tickled. I took up belly dancing for that reason, because I crave having my belly tickled!

 

[crydun]

Practice makes Perfect.

And, if you're attracted to your lee, that helps give you motivation.

If you're out there, Zachary, I hope you're reading this. I'll get you one of these days. 😀

 

[Tissueboy]

Have a look here

Have a look at www.ticklingtips.bravehost.com , especially the pages "What makes a good tickler?" and "Tickling Tips".

 

[chickles_:)]

Have a look at www.ticklingtips.bravehost.com , especially the pages "What makes a good tickler?" and "Tickling Tips".

Hiya all!
All of these are great - I remember my b/f when he started getting into it, he did some investigation into this question.

Anyway to your question:
I have to agree with the light tickles when you can't let it out.. In fact i think one of the times that really cemented my b/f in the joys of 'ler-ship was tickling me in the movie theatre.

And though i'm pretty ticklish to start with, I have to confess that the whole experience was really intensified by the fact that i couldn't laugh! Of course the fact that he did it in the most serious parts of the movie made it even worse. 😀

Good luck and try the website tips! believe me - they do work!😀

Many blessings,
Chickles

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I have several suggestions for you, I think that surprise tickles are very good because most people are more ticklish if they're not expecting it. Also maybe try to give your girlfriend some rasberries on her tummy which is a form of tickling. Also, I think its a good idea to start with light tickling and work you're way up to more intense tickling and go back and forth randomly. I think you should give that a try. Good luck!

 

[featherfingers]

You've received lots of great replies, jfna, so please allow me to add my own bit of advice.

I have to say that all of the ladies whom I've had the pleasure to tickle have literally drooled with delight over my technique. I don't even tell them I'm into tickling, since that word seems to elicit negative responses from the general public (The vanilla community needs some educating). Usually I tell my ladyfriends that I'm into sensual massage. For some reason, that intrigues them to no end. And what does sensual massage entail? Lots of light, feathery touches all over their bodies. The results can be quite rewarding for both she and I. Anyway, the point is, as the others have made clear, light gentle touches will satisfy the most discriminating person. But mix it up a little... massage the legs here, tickle the back, massage the arms, tickle the tummy, etc. etc. One thing I learned from a ladyfriend is that too much stimulation in one area is quite irritating. So don't focus on just one area. You've got a lot of places to choose from and you just might stumble upon one that makes the person shudder with delight.

If you choose to do heavy tickling, I advise you to be careful about that. I once did that to a lady while she was handcuffed to the bed and she laughed at first but soon she was cussing me out: "Stop doing that, you crazy Motherf***er! Let me go!" That happened over ten years ago and I have only given soft, gentle tickling ever since... unless a lady requests a deeper technique. Remember, the ticklee is always right.

I don't have to hear wails of laughter to gauge whether my tickling satisfied the lady or not. Some women have literally jumped my bones as a result of my touch, so sometimes actions speak louder than laughs.

That's all for now.

 

[jfna]

Wow! Thanks again for the advice. Some very useful stuff here. I'll have to try some of these techniques. I should probably find a tickle buddy or somethin to help practice on, and I think I know just the gal! 😛oke3:

Cheers again guys!

Have a good week!

 

[Redmage]

Above all, pay attention. Different 'lees like different things - in fact sometimes a given 'lee will suddenly respond to something totally different than he or she ever has before. So a good repertoire of different styles and methods is a great thing for a 'ler, but the most important thing is to stay focused on your 'lee and pay attention to what is working best on him or her in the moment.