Tickling is an amazing thing, it can be a lot of joy and very excite for all of us, but can also bring HUGE regrets in some cases.
One of my ex gf didn't like to be tickled a lot. At first, she was quite happy to have playful tickle fight with me. She was very ticklish on her last few ribs (10th ~12th rib to be exact). She was the first girl i've ever tickled like that. Since i didn't have much experience, i over done it a bit. After a day of tickle fight with me, she found that her ribs hurted a bit after i left. It was still ok after that. Then was one time when i held her hands down with one hand and tickled her with the other, she almost cried. I carried on for about 10 more seconds and stopped. After that, even if she's still ok with playful tickle fight, but every time i tried just to have a little bit more control over her, she didn't like it (for example when she's lying on her stomach, i sit on her legs and tickle her back). From time to time, everytime we mentioned something about restrain, with no intension to do it ourselves at all, maybe just talking about what other people do, she said that she wouldn't like it and remind me that she didn't enjoy what i did. I was quite upset at that time of course. I don't know whether this cause any changes to our relationship actually.
Finally we broke up for some other reasons.
The things that i did was just so minor that many people here will just think it's silly for me to still remember it until now. I know that there're much worse thing has been done. I never realize that, really little things can cause damage to relationship, especially when we arn't considerate enough.
Anyway, i just want to share this experience and express my point.
My current gf, makes me love her so much ^_^ Every time when we have chances to stay along in either her flat or mine, I tickle her quite a lot. This time i started lightly, and move on as appropiate. I never tie her up, but I sat on her hands and tickle her. Obviously, she can tell I love to tickle her.
We talk quite a lot about sex, and to avoid the her feeling shy, instead of saying what she directly, she says she wants 18+ stuff with me. Then I said I'm just going to do "suitable for under 13" to her. She thought that i was lying. And finally realize that what i want to do 😉 I went on asking her whether she like it, and telling her that "suitable for under 13" is as important to me as 18+ to her. And I told her that i can wank with only these in my head. I didn't use the word fetish although I had exactly the meaning in my words. Although she said that she doesn't particularly enjoy being tickled, she's alright if i want to, and she likes to tickle me, which is not bad. After another hour of chat, i made her guess the question she asked yesterday "what can i do to make you happy". Her first guess was "to let you tickle me?". Then i told "Close, but not quite! Enjoy tickling, to tickle and to be tickled, as much as me!" FINALLY I TELL HER!!! hahahaha! Safe! And she is very willing to do so! I love her more no only because of tickling of course, but really because I can feel that she is being very good to me!
Have you ever done something your partner dislike and cause severe damage to your relationship with him/her?
Or on the other hand, enhanced your relationship?
One of my ex gf didn't like to be tickled a lot. At first, she was quite happy to have playful tickle fight with me. She was very ticklish on her last few ribs (10th ~12th rib to be exact). She was the first girl i've ever tickled like that. Since i didn't have much experience, i over done it a bit. After a day of tickle fight with me, she found that her ribs hurted a bit after i left. It was still ok after that. Then was one time when i held her hands down with one hand and tickled her with the other, she almost cried. I carried on for about 10 more seconds and stopped. After that, even if she's still ok with playful tickle fight, but every time i tried just to have a little bit more control over her, she didn't like it (for example when she's lying on her stomach, i sit on her legs and tickle her back). From time to time, everytime we mentioned something about restrain, with no intension to do it ourselves at all, maybe just talking about what other people do, she said that she wouldn't like it and remind me that she didn't enjoy what i did. I was quite upset at that time of course. I don't know whether this cause any changes to our relationship actually.
Finally we broke up for some other reasons.
The things that i did was just so minor that many people here will just think it's silly for me to still remember it until now. I know that there're much worse thing has been done. I never realize that, really little things can cause damage to relationship, especially when we arn't considerate enough.
Anyway, i just want to share this experience and express my point.
My current gf, makes me love her so much ^_^ Every time when we have chances to stay along in either her flat or mine, I tickle her quite a lot. This time i started lightly, and move on as appropiate. I never tie her up, but I sat on her hands and tickle her. Obviously, she can tell I love to tickle her.
We talk quite a lot about sex, and to avoid the her feeling shy, instead of saying what she directly, she says she wants 18+ stuff with me. Then I said I'm just going to do "suitable for under 13" to her. She thought that i was lying. And finally realize that what i want to do 😉 I went on asking her whether she like it, and telling her that "suitable for under 13" is as important to me as 18+ to her. And I told her that i can wank with only these in my head. I didn't use the word fetish although I had exactly the meaning in my words. Although she said that she doesn't particularly enjoy being tickled, she's alright if i want to, and she likes to tickle me, which is not bad. After another hour of chat, i made her guess the question she asked yesterday "what can i do to make you happy". Her first guess was "to let you tickle me?". Then i told "Close, but not quite! Enjoy tickling, to tickle and to be tickled, as much as me!" FINALLY I TELL HER!!! hahahaha! Safe! And she is very willing to do so! I love her more no only because of tickling of course, but really because I can feel that she is being very good to me!
Have you ever done something your partner dislike and cause severe damage to your relationship with him/her?
Or on the other hand, enhanced your relationship?
