My experience in admitting a foot-fetish and succeeding.
Given my line of work discretion is important to me. I know people out there that don't care who knows about their fetishes. But if you are like me it does matter sometimes.
Admitting you have a foot-fetish is not ALWAYS as hard as it seems. You need timing, delivery, and to know your audience(material). One thing I have noticed about girls who are typically "creeped out" by fetishy stuff is that many times they don't understand it or some dude awkwardly tried to rub her feet then made a desperate attempt to pop a toe or two in his mouth. My ex typically wasn't about ANY fetish "shit" as she put it. But when i asked her why she let me indulge in the foot fetish stuff with her she replied "Cuz you don't all crazy and obsessive about it." Every girl i have brought over to the fetishy side has admitted I changed their mind by just the way I talk about it. Casually, as if I was admitting I liked football.
In my experience I have admitted my foot-fetish to dozens of girls (many letting me indulge) while still retaining my "cool I'm not gonna rape your feet while you sleep" status. Similar to comedy you have to have timing, material and delivery.
Pulling her into a corner at a party then mumbling something about her toes look delicious tonight when the moonlight hits them just right typically doesn't work. Letting her know that you are interested in her as a person is the best way to start (for me at least). Main reason why girls don't like fetishes is because it objectifies them. Some women mind that and others don't. Make it known that there is a human attached to those feet.
Delivery: Sometimes its all about how you say it. Be it jokingly, in passing (my fav), or with confidence. This may fall under timing but for example. I went on a date recently and we ended up getting drinks. Just a couple beers. I saw that she had a pedicure. So during the conversation I complimented her on her legs noticing that she seemed very confident about them. I said "wow you are just beautiful from head to toes". Which she then raised her foot to my chair and was like "Just got a pedicure too! They look like cherries right!" and I responded with "Um yeah actually. I dated a girl once who liked when I nibbled on her toes actually." To which she replied "Really!? I'd actually let someone try that!" Here's an interesting point. This girl did not like the foot fetish stuff when I first met her years ago. In fact she said it was really "Fuckin weird. What is there to like about feet they're gross!?" There are other factors as well as to why she has changed her tune. Her confidence and self-image, the drinks, and our rapport really probably helped. Either way I ended up giving her a foot massage later that night and tickling her sexy feet as well. Playing the "how long can you hold out" tickle game.
In the end I think rapport is the most important thing. If you appear to a girl that you are a guy who just happens to have a foot fetish as opposed to a foot fetish obsessed person you may have more positive reception AND maintain your "I'm not gonna sneak into your closet and sniff your shoes" status. Repore also is important if you want to maintain discreet. Make it known that the foot-fetish thing isn't public knowledge and that you trust her. Be prepared to be teased a little but in my experience they won't typically say anything.
So what are your experiences? What works for you?
Given my line of work discretion is important to me. I know people out there that don't care who knows about their fetishes. But if you are like me it does matter sometimes.
Admitting you have a foot-fetish is not ALWAYS as hard as it seems. You need timing, delivery, and to know your audience(material). One thing I have noticed about girls who are typically "creeped out" by fetishy stuff is that many times they don't understand it or some dude awkwardly tried to rub her feet then made a desperate attempt to pop a toe or two in his mouth. My ex typically wasn't about ANY fetish "shit" as she put it. But when i asked her why she let me indulge in the foot fetish stuff with her she replied "Cuz you don't all crazy and obsessive about it." Every girl i have brought over to the fetishy side has admitted I changed their mind by just the way I talk about it. Casually, as if I was admitting I liked football.
In my experience I have admitted my foot-fetish to dozens of girls (many letting me indulge) while still retaining my "cool I'm not gonna rape your feet while you sleep" status. Similar to comedy you have to have timing, material and delivery.
Pulling her into a corner at a party then mumbling something about her toes look delicious tonight when the moonlight hits them just right typically doesn't work. Letting her know that you are interested in her as a person is the best way to start (for me at least). Main reason why girls don't like fetishes is because it objectifies them. Some women mind that and others don't. Make it known that there is a human attached to those feet.
Delivery: Sometimes its all about how you say it. Be it jokingly, in passing (my fav), or with confidence. This may fall under timing but for example. I went on a date recently and we ended up getting drinks. Just a couple beers. I saw that she had a pedicure. So during the conversation I complimented her on her legs noticing that she seemed very confident about them. I said "wow you are just beautiful from head to toes". Which she then raised her foot to my chair and was like "Just got a pedicure too! They look like cherries right!" and I responded with "Um yeah actually. I dated a girl once who liked when I nibbled on her toes actually." To which she replied "Really!? I'd actually let someone try that!" Here's an interesting point. This girl did not like the foot fetish stuff when I first met her years ago. In fact she said it was really "Fuckin weird. What is there to like about feet they're gross!?" There are other factors as well as to why she has changed her tune. Her confidence and self-image, the drinks, and our rapport really probably helped. Either way I ended up giving her a foot massage later that night and tickling her sexy feet as well. Playing the "how long can you hold out" tickle game.
In the end I think rapport is the most important thing. If you appear to a girl that you are a guy who just happens to have a foot fetish as opposed to a foot fetish obsessed person you may have more positive reception AND maintain your "I'm not gonna sneak into your closet and sniff your shoes" status. Repore also is important if you want to maintain discreet. Make it known that the foot-fetish thing isn't public knowledge and that you trust her. Be prepared to be teased a little but in my experience they won't typically say anything.
So what are your experiences? What works for you?