How do you introduce tickling?

[TKL_Rebel]

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How i introduce tickling!
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(did this for you lazy readers 😛)

Ok, im 100% sure that people on the TMF have been in a relationship where their gf has not been ticklish or hates being tickled... once you love them and you THEN decide to tell them about your fetish or find out about their ticklish and have a negative outcome... You then have a slight situation on your hands...

So for those clever people who try and find out if you are going to be compatible early on in the relationship... how do you find out if a potential future GF, has any kinds of issues in the "tickling article" of their lives?

The one that works best for me:

You've got a girls number and your just starting to find out about each other, what one does in their spare time, work, etc... what music they like and so on...
Ask them about their day (in the hope they ask you) and when they do ask you, tell them that something REALLY cringey happened (again in the hope they ask you what)

I then say that all my male friends ganged up and tickled me....

more often than not, they will pas their comment on tickling 😀

I have recently just split up with my ex of 4 months (saturday to be exact) and i felt like going town and having a good time with my friends, you know to try and take my mind off things. My night was coming to an end and before we headed home, my friends wanted food, so we headed to Zorbas where i noticed a girl from my college who would ALWAYS catch my eye and who I would see around a lot!
I stood in her vision trying to catch her attention and when she noticed me, she was overly excited about seeing me there (was really surprised)
She told me exactly the same as i told you about me...
so i got her number and did what i said above about the cringe comment, turns out she thinks tickling is amazing and i said the same when its with girls 😉

so how do you guys introduce it to your relationships?

 

[Em Es]

By tickling her

TKL_Rebel, I introduce tickling to a relationship with a girl by tickling her. Please remember that when a girl you tickle responds with, "I hate being tickled," all she means is she hates YOU tickling her. Five minutes later a guy she really likes could tickle her and she'll put up with it - and even learn to like it, because pleasing him matters to her.

Relationships require give & take and lots of good judgment. The most important and only non-negotiable thing about a girl you date is she must be dying to please you. I'll take the plain Jane who is crazy about me over the knockout who makes every step of the way a negotation, any day. The plain Jane may not want me to tickle her but knowing I like it, she will no only put up with it, she will never complain.

Just tickle her! All will be revealed.

 

[TKL_Rebel]

TKL_Rebel, I introduce tickling to a relationship with a girl by tickling her. Please remember that when a girl you tickle responds with, "I hate being tickled," all she means is she hates YOU tickling her. Five minutes later a guy she really likes could tickle her and she'll put up with it - and even learn to like it, because pleasing him matters to her.

Relationships require give & take and lots of good judgment. The most important and only non-negotiable thing about a girl you date is she must be dying to please you. I'll take the plain Jane who is crazy about me over the knockout who makes every step of the way a negotation, any day. The plain Jane may not want me to tickle her but knowing I like it, she will no only put up with it, she will never complain.

Just tickle her! All will be revealed.

All of which is very true and i totally agree with, and ive been there before...

but at my age and the "scene" im into, it is very hard to find true love and that one girl who will try to plese you.... not to say i havent been looking for that girl because i have for over 2 years now...

but surely by finding out sooner rather than later is better right?

 

[Em Es]

An older man's observation

TKL_Rebel, were I young and single again, here's what I would do differently when it comes to women:

I'd worry less about meeting girls and more about making myself more attractive to them. I would read more, exercise more, volunteer more, and work harder at my job/in school.

I would spend less time hanging around at parties and in clubs, taverns, etc., hoping to hit it off with a woman. I'd concentrate and working as much as I could to save money, doing something part-time on top of my full-time work. I would have worked harder in college, too.

Doing all that, I would have been a guy with something going on, and women notice that. I'm not saying I would have been the total opposite of the loser I was as a young man, but by not being just another guy chasing skirts I would have drawn the attention of at least some girls who never paid attention to me. I'm not saying I would have gone from Total Reject to Big Man In Town, but I would have dated more than I did and commanded more respect from the girls who went out with me. I would have had self-respect, which matters just as much as good looks, income, and smarts.

Last but not least, TKL_Rebel, all that matters is the girls who like you. If a girl catches your eye but does not at least meet you halfway, let her pass. That way, you won't miss out on the girls who are noticing you. So my advice is to increase your odds of getting noticed by having something going on, as opposed to being just another guy hanging out at the party.

 

[TKL_Rebel]

I dont think your trying to say this but it comes across that you think im just another "town rat" trying to just get my dick wet, yet i do have things going on for me...

my ex i mentioned i met in college, which i have just finished also...
I've always been an active person, up until last year i used to race karts now i spend a lot of time training for my mixed martial arts...
I go on bike rides across my country for about 30 miles at a time
currently have a part time job working at a chippy (deffinately not the best job in the world but money is money right)?
have just started hunting for jobs to start my career
And i socialise with great groups of friends...

Despite splitting up with my ex recently, i love my life and feel that i have a big amount going for me...

 

[Em Es]

Right

TKL_Rebel, you are correct, I was not making any assumptions about you.

 

[rhiannon]

Keep in mind: even if a girl tolerates tickling to please you, it will not last very long! Once she has you hooked, tolerance is over very very quickly!

 

[myth77]

Keep in mind: even if a girl tolerates tickling to please you, it will not last very long! Once she has you hooked, tolerance is over very very quickly!

This.
Many a man and woman have complained about the changes in stuff their significant other used to do for them before they got serious or got married. You might end up hearing the words "I only did it because you liked it" at some point down the line (most likely in the middle of an argument )

 

[lisa22]

So for those clever people who try and find out if you are going to be compatible early on in the relationship... how do you find out if a potential future GF, has any kinds of issues in the "tickling article" of their lives?

The one that works best for me:

You've got a girls number and your just starting to find out about each other, what one does in their spare time, work, etc... what music they like and so on...
Ask them about their day (in the hope they ask you) and when they do ask you, tell them that something REALLY cringey happened (again in the hope they ask you what)

I then say that all my male friends ganged up and tickled me....

more often than not, they will pas their comment on tickling 😀

usually i don't bring it up early in the relationship - once it starts getting physical, though, i initiate tickle fights pretty quickly. good idea to bring it up in conversation first to see what they say about it. though if it's too early in the get-to-know-you stage they may not be completely open and it would be hard to gauge their response. i'm all for saving time though, so the earlier you can find out the better 🙂.

 

[TKL_Rebel]

usually i don't bring it up early in the relationship - once it starts getting physical, though, i initiate tickle fights pretty quickly. good idea to bring it up in conversation first to see what they say about it. though if it's too early in the get-to-know-you stage they may not be completely open and it would be hard to gauge their response. i'm all for saving time though, so the earlier you can find out the better 🙂.

very true... this i never thought of!

 

[Em Es]

Don't ignore the warning signs

Those who way girls may only put with the getting tickled for so long are not necessarily incorrect. However, if TKL_Rebel and other single male ticklers remain a challenge to the women they date, that should separate those who want to please their men from those who put up with it for now but plan to change things later. A couple of easy examples: Girlfriends who argue with you or criticize you. When things like that happen, respond by walking out the door.

Ask any man who divorced his wife or wishes he could afford to leave and I'll bet he will say, "I chose to ignore the nagging/fighting when we were dating and wish I hadn't."