How do you tell your partner you love to tickle

[john1828]

Hi I love tickling duh, but most girls sometimes dislike it. question is should i be upfront which i usually am or should i wait till later to tell them?

 

[scorpionldr]

Hi I love tickling duh, but most girls sometimes dislike it. question is should i be upfront which i usually am or should i wait till later to tell them?

be upfront, maybe give a prod or two on first meeting and then quit tickling altogether for that particular occasion. Over time work it in more.

Now, some may say it all seems like a rush. I've played the secret game, and basically the one time i tickled the girl i was dating who i did that with, when I asked if she wanted to go out again she was like "provided you never tickle me again". Well, it was done-zo from there.

 

[Bothersome]

I've never been of the opinion to tell somebody anything if it's going to make them feel guilty.

For instance, let's say you have a girlfriend, and you two really connect. You know with absolute certainty that she will never be into tickling the way you are. What's the point of telling her?

To make her feel guilty? To add pressure into your sex-life? To strain your relationship? You gain nothing from telling her.

Overall, I'd say to just find out if she's into it or not. If she is.. well by all means, let loose. If not, then I don't see the point of making her feel guilty about not being able to be all that you would like her to be. The one thing that you should always remember is that sex... is just sex. It's great, sure... but it's just sex. It's not something worth breaking a relationship over. We're not pubescent children anymore; we can control our hormones.

 

[scorpionldr]

I've never been of the opinion to tell somebody anything if it's going to make them feel guilty.

For instance, let's say you have a girlfriend, and you two really connect. You know with absolute certainty that she will never be into tickling the way you are. What's the point of telling her?

To make her feel guilty? To add pressure into your sex-life? To strain your relationship? You gain nothing from telling her.

Overall, I'd say to just find out if she's into it or not. If she is.. well by all means, let loose. If not, then I don't see the point of making her feel guilty about not being able to be all that you would like her to be. The one thing that you should always remember is that sex... is just sex. It's great, sure... but it's just sex. It's not something worth breaking a relationship over. We're not pubescent children anymore; we can control our hormones.

um so you recommend waiting til the two of you are in bed to tickle.....yea, thats gonna go reallll well. "What are you doing? Stop that! NO, I don't CARE if it makes your dick harder, thats fucking annoying!"

 

[Bothersome]

um so you recommend waiting til the two of you are in bed to tickle.....yea, thats gonna go reallll well. "What are you doing? Stop that! NO, I don't CARE if it makes your dick harder, thats fucking annoying!"

Where in my entire post did I even imply that's what I wanted him to do?

By all means, point it out for me.

 

[Filthyweasel]

If you trust each other and know each other, then just tell her. I mean you need a good time to do so of course, so wait till the conversation comes to sex. The girl will want to please you as much as you want to please her, so she will ask you, "What turns you on?" Everyone has a little quirk that gets them going. Telling the girl "I like to tickle" isn't the end of the world. Every SINGLE vanilla girl I've ever been with has had the same reaction...she thinks it's cute. It's intimate, it involves touching and results in laughter. It's not as if you like golden showers here.

maybe give a prod or two on first meeting

No.

If you truly want to see what happens when someone does this, go to a gathering and watch for the inappropriate touch guy...there's always at least one. If he's seen as creepy among other ticklers...a vanilla girl will run for the hills.

After telling her friends about you.

Get to know her first just like a regular relationship. And just like a regular relationship, when the moment comes to it, come clean. Be honest. DO NOT incorporate a sexual interest of any kind, or even a hint of one into a first impression. You will be looked on as a pervert. There is plenty of time for perversions when you BOTH are in the mood and are trusting of one another...cause you can bet she has some of her own, she's human. But she's part of a society that knows when to let that part out.

 

[scorpionldr]

Where in my entire post did I even imply that's what I wanted him to do?

By all means, point it out for me.

Right here, bucko:

I'd say to just find out if she's into it or not. If she is.. well by all means, let loose. If not, then I don't see the point of making her feel guilty about not being able to be all that you would like her to be. The one thing that you should always remember is that sex... is just sex. It's great, sure... but it's just sex. It's not something worth breaking a relationship over. We're not pubescent children anymore; we can control our hormones.

Sounds a lot like your saying "its just sex, and you don't need tickling in it, but hey, since you like it so much, while your having sex, find out if she likes that."

No.

If you truly want to see what happens when someone does this, go to a gathering and watch for the inappropriate touch guy...there's always at least one. If he's seen as creepy among other ticklers...a vanilla girl will run for the hills.

After telling her friends about you.

Get to know her first just like a regular relationship. And just like a regular relationship, when the moment comes to it, come clean. Be honest. DO NOT incorporate a sexual interest of any kind, or even a hint of one into a first impression. You will be looked on as a pervert. There is plenty of time for perversions when you BOTH are in the mood and are trusting of one another...cause you can bet she has some of her own, she's human. But she's part of a society that knows when to let that part out.

And tell me....where in any of my posting history throughout the forum on this subject have I not suggested getting acquainted with the girl? I'm not talking about right when you meet her. I also suggested bringing it up casually before meeting, like "hey, I have a habit of tickling on occasion. is it a problem?" which usually leads into a yay/nay acceptance and "why do you like it?"

If I hid all along I would have never found out that one girl I took out actually did turn out to have a massive tickling fetish. Now, she turned out to be crazy, but thats another issue....

Btw, men are perverts. Get over it. I'm certainly not one to pretend I'm some rainbow clean guy who tries to play everything out as innocent "good clean fun". But girls recognize I'm a good guy anyways.

 

[Bothersome]

Right here, bucko:
Sounds a lot like your saying "its just sex, and you don't need tickling in it, but hey, since you like it so much, while your having sex, find out if she likes that."

No. You're making one hell of an assumption in this.

When I said, "I'd say to just find out if she's into it or not." you assumed (for some inconceivable reason) that I meant while you were having sex, or in the bedroom. That is not at all what I meant, and I didn't even imply anything of the sort. I meant that you find out. Not that you find out in the middle of having sex. You just find out.

You know how most people find out information about another person?

They ask them.

 

[Ishaanshah]

be upfront, maybe give a prod or two on first meeting and then quit tickling altogether for that particular occasion. Over time work it in more.

Now, some may say it all seems like a rush. I've played the secret game, and basically the one time i tickled the girl i was dating who i did that with, when I asked if she wanted to go out again she was like "provided you never tickle me again". Well, it was done-zo from there.

Great piece of advice.

 

[scorpionldr]

No. You're making one hell of an assumption in this.

When I said, "I'd say to just find out if she's into it or not." you assumed (for some inconceivable reason) that I meant while you were having sex, or in the bedroom. That is not at all what I meant, and I didn't even imply anything of the sort. I meant that you find out. Not that you find out in the middle of having sex. You just find out.

You know how most people find out information about another person?

They ask them.

Who's the one that brought up sex?

I'll give you a hint.

It wasn't me.

But really, why not just try it out? I mean for me its gone well with making out. Its gone well by itself. So I don't see the major offense of tickling. If you were to get comfortable with a girl, and bring your arm around her, and say as your hand fell it grazed her side and tickled, don't you think that would be taken as a mistake? Dude, its not hard to just get a guage for how ticklish someone is.

 

[RUNOFFSTAGE]

If you trust each other and know each other, then just tell her. I mean you need a good time to do so of course, so wait till the conversation comes to sex. The girl will want to please you as much as you want to please her, so she will ask you, "What turns you on?"

Get to know her first just like a regular relationship. And just like a regular relationship, when the moment comes to it, come clean. Be honest. DO NOT incorporate a sexual interest of any kind, or even a hint of one into a first impression. You will be looked on as a pervert. There is plenty of time for perversions when you BOTH are in the mood and are trusting of one another...cause you can bet she has some of her own, she's human. But she's part of a society that knows when to let that part out.

This. I don't see why it has to be about sneakily finding out if she likes it by "accidentally on purpose" tickling her, having some thought-out plan because you can't just tell her upfront. If you don't trust your partner enough for it yet, that's fair enough, but just wait with telling her until you do have that level of trust.
Listen to weasel, those are some words of wisdom.

 

[Bothersome]

Who's the one that brought up sex?

I'll give you a hint.

It wasn't me.

But really, why not just try it out? I mean for me its gone well with making out. Its gone well by itself. So I don't see the major offense of tickling. If you were to get comfortable with a girl, and bring your arm around her, and say as your hand fell it grazed her side and tickled, don't you think that would be taken as a mistake? Dude, its not hard to just get a guage for how ticklish someone is.

Sometimes I feel like I'm talking to two different people.

um so you recommend waiting til the two of you are in bed to tickle.....yea, thats gonna go reallll well. "What are you doing? Stop that! NO, I don't CARE if it makes your dick harder, thats fucking annoying!"

 

[scorpionldr]

Sometimes I feel like I'm talking to two different people.

Then you apparently seem too dense to read what it is that your writing. Here, let me clarify it a bit for you. You posted up that its just sex. That implies that you think of tickling only as sexual. Therefore I drew to the conclusion you'd wait until having sex to tickle. You said no to that. I said thats what your text implied. Simple enough?

 

[scorpionldr]

This. I don't see why it has to be about sneakily finding out if she likes it by "accidentally on purpose" tickling her, having some thought-out plan because you can't just tell her upfront. If you don't trust your partner enough for it yet, that's fair enough, but just wait with telling her until you do have that level of trust.
Listen to weasel, those are some words of wisdom.

Does anyone on this forum not take single posts on an entire thread out context? This has to be the third time I've mentioned "GET TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER. SEE IF IT'S OK TO TICKLE. THEN DON'T FUCKING RUIN IT".

 

[Bothersome]

Then you apparently seem too dense to read what it is that your writing. Here, let me clarify it a bit for you. You posted up that its just sex. That implies that you think of tickling only as sexual. Therefore I drew to the conclusion you'd wait until having sex to tickle. You said no to that. I said thats what your text implied. Simple enough?

No. I said that's it's only sex. Meaning that's it's only sex. I was referring to sexual activity in general, as well as tickling. That is correct. However, you misinterpreted what I said by that, and perhaps I was too implicit. I will tell you exactly what I meant.

There is no need for tickling to be involved in your sex life. If you feel that telling a girl about your tickling fetish will make her feel guilty, then do not tell her if you do not think she would be interested.

That is what I meant. That is all I meant. I apologize if my word choice was confusing.

 

[scorpionldr]

No. I said that's it's only sex. Meaning that's it's only sex. I was referring to sexual activity in general, as well as tickling. That is correct. However, you misinterpreted what I said by that, and perhaps I was too implicit. I will tell you exactly what I meant.

There is no need for tickling to be involved in your sex life. If you feel that telling a girl about your tickling fetish will make her feel guilty, then do not tell her if you do not think she would be interested.

That is what I meant. That is all I meant. I apologize if my word choice was confusing.

typically if your upfront (like I've been trying to convey in my method) there shouldn't be room for guilt. Just my thinking.

 

[locker669]

I've never been of the opinion to tell somebody anything if it's going to make them feel guilty...



Overall, I'd say to just find out if she's into it or not. If she is.. well by all means, let loose. If not, then I don't see the point of making her feel guilty about not being able to be all that you would like her to be. The one thing that you should always remember is that sex... is just sex. It's great, sure... but it's just sex. It's not something worth breaking a relationship over. We're not pubescent children anymore; we can control our hormones.

If you like football and your partner doesn't that's one thing. If you get sexual satisfaction tickling your partner, and your partner tells you they don't like it or are not into it, that's a part of your life they do not want to share with you. Do you think that is something someone can say "it's not a big deal?"

 

[King of tickles]

From being on here and talking to other people and reading others posts about why girls say they don't like being tickled, it's two reasons mainly. One, she may actually hate being tickled however most girls don't mind it if it's with a guy they like/trust or if they started it. I like tickling for two reasons: It turns me on and the girl usually holds my hands and we start making out and stuff. However I have never told a girl outside of here besides a stripper that I'm into tickling. Plus, how can you tell without asking or telling her? Either you tell her and see what she says or be a closeted ticklephile(hate that term) for the rest of your life or marriage.

 

[MidnightOyl]

Sometimes this comes with getting to know the person. The more you are around a person the more you will know if she really like tickling or not (if it makes sense).

 

[Marquis De Sade]

I started a relationship, got her in bed, tickled her, said, "Well. That turns me on.", she smiled and we had amazing sex.

True story. The end.