How to entice more tickles?

[ticklehound]

Soo, I was in a bar hanging out with a friend who came in from out-of-town. A lot of his friends were there, including this really gorgeous peach. I mean, smoking hot - tall, red-hair, beautiful smile - clearly out of my league, but I didn't care.

Anyway, so I was chatting it up with her, getting really drunk in the process, and I don't know what exactly I did or said - but she incidentally tickled me - right side, upper ribs. It really tickled, and I let her know this. I hunched over, nearly spilled my drink and chuckled a little. I said "Hey now, this is not the time or the place". She laughed and proceeded to poke me several more times in my ribs, belly, and once in my right armpit. When I said "Please! Don't! Stop! I'm really ticklish" - the look on her face was once of intrigue, and I swear she said "Really? Hmmm . . ."

Afterwards, I told her how my ex really liked to tickle me, and how much fun that was. But alas, I couldn't entice her to tickle me more or advance the conversation. Now, I was caught off-guard, and I'm sure I'm reading more into this than what was there, but at the time, it was the single most-awesome moment of the year.

I was wondering how anyone else here would have handled the situation. Would you have been coy or would you have openly said, I'm ticklish and I like to be tickled. I'm hoping I run into her real soon. Thanks...

 

[AmishTickler]

I hope you got her phone number?

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

I'd try begging and Benjamins, the dignity is the second thing to go. 😉 It sounds like you gave her the 411 on your ticklishness and she did show some interest. I wish you get to see her again soon and hopefully you will have more in common and to talk about than just tickling. Did you get to see if she was ticklish?

 

[Phineas]

Would you have been coy or would you have openly said, I'm ticklish and I like to be tickled. I'm hoping I run into her real soon. Thanks...

I would have done neither. Being "coy" is game-playing, and it's too risky given that, in my experience, it's very rare that two people are issued the same rulebook. On the other hand, being that honest that soon would probably have turned her off.

I'd say see her again, maybe a third time, before you try and steer things toward tickling. Otherwise, you'll come off too Johnny One-Note. When the time comes, give her a poke and see if it triggers a reciprocation. She may have just been amused and "in the moment" this time.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

I agree with Phineas. Show some interest. Ask her out. Bide your time and wait until the 3rd or 4th date before you go down the tickle road again.

 

[ticklehound]

Good posts - thanks. Yea, I think I might have been in-the-moment. I mean, I've said I'm ticklish when the conversation is appropriate, but never tickled like that, especially by someone that gorgeous. I hope to see her soon. I'll play it more towards the coy side, but tickling will enter the conversation, just gotta figure out how to broach it.

This begs a question: to the average non-tickling folk, what would make one wanna tickle you - saying you like being tickled or not-like being tickled?

 

[deadlywiffeathr]

Funnily enough, I think the more someone protests to being tickled the more others want to tickle them. It depends somewhat on the personality of the person who's tickling you, but in my experience non-tickling folk generally....

1. Tickle you more the more you react
2. Only tickle when they know how ticklish you are, and...
3. Only tickle when the opportunity presents itself

So, my advice would be to let her know that you're ticklish if she trys anything, but put up a bit of a fight so she thinks you don't want it. That covers 1 & 2, then, whenever she's around make sure you subtly put yourself in situations that could lead to a few tickles e.g. arm up when you're laying down, shoes off etc 🙂

This of course doesn't really apply to the bar scene xD But if she's ever around you in a more relaxed location, go for it!

 

[CuteJill143]

getting caught off guard never lasts =( But you tried. Maybe if this wasn't a public spot it might have turned out different. bummer =(

 

[Ticklish9's]

I would have done neither. Being "coy" is game-playing, and it's too risky given that, in my experience, it's very rare that two people are issued the same rulebook. On the other hand, being that honest that soon would probably have turned her off.

I'd say see her again, maybe a third time, before you try and steer things toward tickling. Otherwise, you'll come off too Johnny One-Note. When the time comes, give her a poke and see if it triggers a reciprocation. She may have just been amused and "in the moment" this time.

Generally good advice here, although I think we all fall prey to the "tickling is really important to me so it is to everyone else too" mentality.

Simple fact is, almost nobody really gives a shit if you like tickling. Which is great news! If people ask "wait, so you like tickling?" just respond with something like "well who doesn't!?" People will largely follow your cue unless they get the impression that it's overtly sexual (for example, if you follow this up with something creepy - creepy has nothing to do with tickling unless you let that association form by being creepy after talking about tickling) or if they have some other long standing reason for having an opinion on tickling, which most people don't.

Also, more often than you think, you'll find other people who agree.


I'll grant you, I was super shy about the whole thing for a long time so I see why people react like they have something to hide, but enjoying a simple, fun activity that almost everybody engages in at some time is hardly some horrible thing that we need to justify.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

I've noticed that girls do tend to get excited when they find a guy is ticklish. I've always assumed that girls like the power exchange that comes from tickling a guy (since girls feel like guys are the dominant sex in the real world).

 

[princess-tickle]

I agree with MaleTickleeDC. I love finding out that a guy is ticklish. It's so addictive!

From a girl's point of view, I find that just general flirting and play entices tickles in itself. If I want to be tickled, I make myself tickleable. I put my cheeky smile on and if encouragement is needed, I will toss in some smart arse comments to get the guy wound up. He's bound to want to try and get me back. It's not like he's going to take a swing at me for jokingly paying him out (and if he was that type I probably wouldn't be flirting with him in the first place!), and in my opinion tickling is a very common form of flirting/play between a male and female.

I've also found that if you initiate tickling first the other person is more likely to tickle you back! 🙂

 

[Some1Getme]

I've noticed that girls do tend to get excited when they find a guy is ticklish. I've always assumed that girls like the power exchange that comes from tickling a guy (since girls feel like guys are the dominant sex in the real world).

Yes I agree with you 100% yet it doesn't seem to work for me. Any suggestions?