how to get over the tickle jeliousy

[Tickle-Demon]

Indeed as cool and calm as i may seem i have tickle jeliousy. I cant stand the thought of other people tickling my little demoness, and at the same time i want it to happen. Quite the conundrum indeed. Im sure it stems from my otherwise horrible past with relationships, but its differnt now being married. I trust her uber amounts but i cant help but get jelious lol. Not the mean jelious, i dont get pissed, i get really cuddly and clingy to the point she has to beat me with a bat to make me go away. Anyone else have this problem that worked it out somehow? She has no problem with me tickling people and flirting, but i cant help but get alil nervious when it happens to her. and of course it happens alot people see her name and there like GIRL!!!!!

 

[RavenMoon]

I have always been poly in regards to my play, keeping multiple partners, and I used to not have any issues with it either. Since embarking on this intensity with my Love, I have discovered I am quite capable of being jealous. While I would go away to haves sessions with my submissives, he would reassure me he had no problems with it. And once the tables were turned, my stomach would be in knots and I would feel hurt...

I discovered the cause of it, for my situation anyway, and it came down to my own role in terms of my submission to him not being defined. Once we began working on that, I have felt much better with the thought of him playing with others. In fact, at the gathering we recently hosted, I had absolutely no problem watching him tickle another. However, in the past, I have also discovered that I enjoy watching him with another. So that also elleviates a bit of that jealousy and allows him to indulge in his poly needs as well.

It take a lot of communication and time to be able to handle multiple partners in a relationship, let alone a poly life. I think the key to working through the jealousies is identifying the triggers and addressing them. And keeping a very realistic outlook, including the fact that it may just not be a possibility for you that you can work through it.

But keep hope... and keep communicating. Good luck to you all!

 

[jj82277]

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[Lea28]

I have this issue too...

I have always been poly in regards to my play, keeping multiple partners, and I used to not have any issues with it either. Since embarking on this intensity with my Love, I have discovered I am quite capable of being jealous. While I would go away to haves sessions with my submissives, he would reassure me he had no problems with it. And once the tables were turned, my stomach would be in knots and I would feel hurt...

I discovered the cause of it, for my situation anyway, and it came down to my own role in terms of my submission to him not being defined. Once we began working on that, I have felt much better with the thought of him playing with others. In fact, at the gathering we recently hosted, I had absolutely no problem watching him tickle another. However, in the past, I have also discovered that I enjoy watching him with another. So that also elleviates a bit of that jealousy and allows him to indulge in his poly needs as well.

It take a lot of communication and time to be able to handle multiple partners in a relationship, let alone a poly life. I think the key to working through the jealousies is identifying the triggers and addressing them. And keeping a very realistic outlook, including the fact that it may just not be a possibility for you that you can work through it.

But keep hope... and keep communicating. Good luck to you all!

It is difficult to acccept / know that a person you like, love or miss, who shares or shared your "interests" is doing it with another person.... I know it's part of life but to know that my former bf is kissing, making love with, and tickling another woman kinda sucks... especially when you thought you both had special chemistry...

A guy that knows just when to kiss me, or tickle my feet and ankles as I am on top of him making love, leaves an impression... yes

And not to be selfish, but knowing just when to tickles his sides or stroke his feet to delight him to pieces is so intimate... very difficult to share with another girl...

Yes, I know alot of guys would love and appreciate me, and I am fun to be with, but it still sucks!

Lea

Lea

Next guy I love

 

[tcklft]

Just carry a machete with you. Anyone touches your SO, chop his hands off.

 

[LindyHopper]

Jealousy is really all about insecurity. Ask yourself: what are you really afraid of here? That she'll leave you for someone else? That she'll enjoy someone else's tickling better? That she won't give you the time and attention you need? That some other guy might enjoy touching her?

Don't just say you "can't stand the thought" and just leave it at that. Understanding why it bothers you is essential for figuring out whether your concerns have validity, and what you need to do to address them.

 

[Tickle_Demoness]

Hehe

My baby knows he's everything to me. He's the one who got me into tickling and I think what the issue was here is that he was getting ready to leave for Basic Training, and his baby was going to be by herself for 32 weeks. I wont lie...the 32 weeks thing is tearing me apart right now and he's only been gone a few hours...but he's got nothing to worry about and he knows it. I belong to one soldier and one soldier only. Regardless of who tickles the heck out of me!