How to get your partner interested

[ticklemelots]

I finally confessed a few months ago to my hubby that I love being tickled. He seems a little put off at first, then he started getting into it when he saw how "excited" it got me. Then he said he LOVES tickling me and went crazy, which was AWESOME. But now I can't get him to tickle me for anymore than five or ten minutes. I want to be tickle tortured

Ever since I found this site and discovered I'm not as weird as I thought I was, I have been really wanted to be tickled more and more. The problem is, the more I get tickled, the more I want to be tickled. I could go for hours tied down and tickled mercilessly. How do I get him interested? He just doesn't seem to get it. I love being tickled SOOOOOO MUCH. I'm NOT a cheater ... never would ... but my desire to be tickled is making me want to find a tickle partner away from home

 

[Abel]

Won´t telling him do the job? As far as i got you you already told him that you like to be tickled. If he learned to like tickling you then shouldn´t telling him "Tickle the hell out of me for hours!" be a rather precise message?

 

[ticklemelots]

you'd think ... I've told him I want to be tickled for hours ... he has even said a few times that he doesn't like having to stop. I DON'T WANT HIM TO STOP! I can't figure out why he has changed.

 

[MrPartickler]

Ah, yes...the infamous "indulges but doesn't really get it" partner. Many of us know this situation well.

It's possible he may come around if you tell him what you want now, but what I've found is there's always something missing when you have to spell out every little thing to someone like that. It's not their fault of course, because it's not their fetish. Unfortunately, knowing that doesn't make it any less frustrating for you.

Some folks are fine with a "tickle-accommodating" s/o like that. Some require even less; others require more. Unfortunately you sound like you're in that latter category. (Am I too actually, but I'm not attached.) So unless it really "clicks" with him eventually, it's possible you may find yourself returning to this issue again and again.

That being said, I hope it works out for you. 🙂

 

[darvon96]

Nothing infuriates me more than reading about a guy who takes little interest in what excites his lady. But from your discussion in this thread, the first question that pops into my mind is; what does he get in return for his indulgence? Obviously any guy reading this would give his left nut to be in your husband’s shoes, but since he’s not a “tickle natural”, he might be looking for positive feedback from you to show how his life is going to significantly improve every time he brings you to the ticklish edge. My wife loves a full body massage for hours at a time, and while I derive great pleaser in doing this, she understands that my desire to tickle her increases with every minute of the massage. And though they may not always be in sync, eventually her pleasure and mine are satisfied even though they come from different ends of the spectrum. Since you’ve already began the discussion on the topic with him, perhaps you should continue with the parts that will make him a believer.

 

[marcusb]

Why not make a game of it? Tell him you wanna see if you can go x number of mintues then set a timer.

I don't know what your "ahem" relationship with him is but maybe give him some incentive. If he can make say "uncle" before the timer goes off maybe you'll... uh... do something for him or whatever. 😉

That way, the time period is set... and he has incentive to *try* and torture you.

 

[ticklemelots]

Thanks for the input! He does get taken care of too ... he likes bj's, and I am very accommodating. On the up side, he got home yesterday after work, found out there were no kids, and he gave me a pretty good tickling ... about 30 minutes. I loved every minute of it ... still want to know how far I could go 😱

It definately does take away from the whole excitement of being tickled when I have to ask him to tickle there or there ... or just exactly what to do. When I'm tickled, I don't want to see it coming at all. If you don't "expect" the tickle, it is much more intense. I like it intense🙂

I like the game idea alot. Set a timer and see if I can meet or beat?!$*&@# WOO HOO ...

 

[Paultickler]

I finally confessed a few months ago to my hubby that I love being tickled. He seems a little put off at first, then he started getting into it when he saw how "excited" it got me. Then he said he LOVES tickling me and went crazy, which was AWESOME. But now I can't get him to tickle me for anymore than five or ten minutes. I want to be tickle tortured

Ever since I found this site and discovered I'm not as weird as I thought I was, I have been really wanted to be tickled more and more. The problem is, the more I get tickled, the more I want to be tickled. I could go for hours tied down and tickled mercilessly. How do I get him interested? He just doesn't seem to get it. I love being tickled SOOOOOO MUCH. I'm NOT a cheater ... never would ... but my desire to be tickled is making me want to find a tickle partner away from home

Where are the girls like you here in South America?

 

[ticklemelots]

where are the guys like you in BC?

 

[tommytikl]

It definately does take away from the whole excitement of being tickled when I have to ask him to tickle there or there ... or just exactly what to do. When I'm tickled, I don't want to see it coming at all. If you don't "expect" the tickle, it is much more intense. I like it intense🙂

Well I understand about wanting the tickling to be unexpected but remember that he is learning your body in a whole new way. It is kind of like sex, eventually you know what your partner likes but at first you need to ask lots of questions to figure out what works AND what doesn't. And TELL him that you like it unexpected, he will is not going to figure it out on his own, he is male... 🙂

As you said in previous posts in this thread, he is starting to realize the effect tickling has on you. Make sure you reinforce that connection! Then he will start to associate tickling you with well foreplay.

Oh and welcome to TMF. 🙂