n_o_1
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Hello everyone,
Since i was young i spent a lot of time watching tickling previews, hunting down mainstream tickling from movies and fantasy stories,
feeding my fetish addiction more and more, so from a young age Tickle Torture was the norm.
What i was actually doing, is building up a unrealistic expectations for any future partners.
I dated a few girls and was quite low key about the whole fetish.
Any time i would try introduce it i felt like i was scaring them off or making them uncomfortable.
I decided to keep it to my self in hope one day i might find a tickling friend whom shares my fetish.
After years of frustration i would meet my current girl friend.
Although she is not a tickle fan AT ALL, she is extremely ticklish and very sexy i love her to bits,
I would often pin her down and tickle her she didn't love it but she let me get any with it, jackpot.
Over time she became a lot more defensive about being tickled and would ask me to stop, as in "can you please stop randomly tickling me, i dont like it, im not a little kid"
Heart break, i was extremely embarrassed, was this a stupid fetish was there something wrong with me.
NO, not at all.
I had treated the situation completely wrong, i had to take a step back and re-look at what was happening.
1).
When i first saw a cartoon with a girl tied down and tickled, it turned me on and the unknown feelings scared me, i was uncomfortable. Damn you, olive oyl.
I had spent years building up my fetish, how can i expect someone to respect the fetish as much as i do, when they are still new to it, the answer is you cant.
2). i loved tickling because of how it made me feel, i like feeling horny, ask your self how much you like being tickled after you cum, after the excitement is gone it is pure torture.
Now if your partner never gets the excited good feelings, all your doing is torturing them.
how can you help them enjoy it.
3).Put your self in her shoes, out of your comfort zone,
Example:
Tell your partner that your going to dance for her,
Watch magic mike or something like that with her and let her know you'll dance for her the following night,
unless your a great dancer your going to be nervous as shit and feel uncomfortable.
I am a very out going guy i make a idiot out of my self all the time, i do stupid voices and faces even sing out loud with my girl friend with no pressure at all but trust me dim the lights put on some music.
Once see your girlfriend face light up full of expectations, feel your confidence fade, just like if you tell your girl friend you have a tickle fetish she will probably research it and assume you have expectations of cali logan clips,
My Solution ( THIS IS NOT A TRICK I AM VERY OPEN WITH MY PARTNER AND I HAVE INFORMED HER MY INTENTIONS)
How i overcome this, after being told "im not a little kid dont tickle me", i was definitely in damage control, i loved this women and wanted to make it work,
I made it about her, i showed her how it makes me feel, not how it should make her feel.
Example:
Imagine if your girlfriend, tells you she likes licking your hand, you might think to yourself, if that's what you like what ever.
Then one night, while watching a movie and she starts licking your hand, your not overly bothered shes having fun,
"ill let her lick, she must enjoy it", until your hand is wet and you'v had enough.
Now she got excited and had fun you did't you just accepted that's what she likes.
Now lets re-look at the situation,
imagine your girlfriend tells you she would like to lick your hands, the thought of licking your hand makes her very excited just looking at your hands makes her horny,
she tells you no one has hands like you and that she often masturbates to the idea of licking your hands, every now and then she give your hand a little lick and you see how happy it makes her,
now the next time your watching a movie and she starts licking your hand your going to have a lot more then a wet hand, you'll probably get just as excited.
NOW THE BIG KICKER,
I asked myself if a women loved me and let me tickle her and she tickled me back how would i feel about this women.
well she would be A GODDESS, so i started to treat her like one,
I have always been very nice and respectful to my girlfriend but i took it a step further and told the world,
I started a blog, where i would write how my partner made me feel, how sexy i found her feet and tickling her, telling stories from our real life and how happy she makes me.
(not a original idea i lot of femdom make similar blogs to empower their partners)
I was able to restore some confidence with my girlfriend, she read's it every day.
The secret is to tell her about the blog once and to agree never to talk about it in person.
In the first two weeks her attitude towards tickling changed completely,
she started putting her feet in my face asking if i want to tickle them,
one night letting me pin her arms above her head by sitting on them and rubbing/tickling her entire upper-body with baby-oil.
i only started a few weeks ago and we broke the not talking about it rule once when she told me
"i love this blog, now i know how i make you feel and i understand why you like tickling me,
i have a surprise for you, Im going to give you something to write about"
I look forward to what ever that is....
Since i was young i spent a lot of time watching tickling previews, hunting down mainstream tickling from movies and fantasy stories,
feeding my fetish addiction more and more, so from a young age Tickle Torture was the norm.
What i was actually doing, is building up a unrealistic expectations for any future partners.
I dated a few girls and was quite low key about the whole fetish.
Any time i would try introduce it i felt like i was scaring them off or making them uncomfortable.
I decided to keep it to my self in hope one day i might find a tickling friend whom shares my fetish.
After years of frustration i would meet my current girl friend.
Although she is not a tickle fan AT ALL, she is extremely ticklish and very sexy i love her to bits,
I would often pin her down and tickle her she didn't love it but she let me get any with it, jackpot.
Over time she became a lot more defensive about being tickled and would ask me to stop, as in "can you please stop randomly tickling me, i dont like it, im not a little kid"
Heart break, i was extremely embarrassed, was this a stupid fetish was there something wrong with me.
NO, not at all.
I had treated the situation completely wrong, i had to take a step back and re-look at what was happening.
1).
When i first saw a cartoon with a girl tied down and tickled, it turned me on and the unknown feelings scared me, i was uncomfortable. Damn you, olive oyl.
I had spent years building up my fetish, how can i expect someone to respect the fetish as much as i do, when they are still new to it, the answer is you cant.
2). i loved tickling because of how it made me feel, i like feeling horny, ask your self how much you like being tickled after you cum, after the excitement is gone it is pure torture.
Now if your partner never gets the excited good feelings, all your doing is torturing them.
how can you help them enjoy it.
3).Put your self in her shoes, out of your comfort zone,
Example:
Tell your partner that your going to dance for her,
Watch magic mike or something like that with her and let her know you'll dance for her the following night,
unless your a great dancer your going to be nervous as shit and feel uncomfortable.
I am a very out going guy i make a idiot out of my self all the time, i do stupid voices and faces even sing out loud with my girl friend with no pressure at all but trust me dim the lights put on some music.
Once see your girlfriend face light up full of expectations, feel your confidence fade, just like if you tell your girl friend you have a tickle fetish she will probably research it and assume you have expectations of cali logan clips,
My Solution ( THIS IS NOT A TRICK I AM VERY OPEN WITH MY PARTNER AND I HAVE INFORMED HER MY INTENTIONS)
How i overcome this, after being told "im not a little kid dont tickle me", i was definitely in damage control, i loved this women and wanted to make it work,
I made it about her, i showed her how it makes me feel, not how it should make her feel.
Example:
Imagine if your girlfriend, tells you she likes licking your hand, you might think to yourself, if that's what you like what ever.
Then one night, while watching a movie and she starts licking your hand, your not overly bothered shes having fun,
"ill let her lick, she must enjoy it", until your hand is wet and you'v had enough.
Now she got excited and had fun you did't you just accepted that's what she likes.
Now lets re-look at the situation,
imagine your girlfriend tells you she would like to lick your hands, the thought of licking your hand makes her very excited just looking at your hands makes her horny,
she tells you no one has hands like you and that she often masturbates to the idea of licking your hands, every now and then she give your hand a little lick and you see how happy it makes her,
now the next time your watching a movie and she starts licking your hand your going to have a lot more then a wet hand, you'll probably get just as excited.
NOW THE BIG KICKER,
I asked myself if a women loved me and let me tickle her and she tickled me back how would i feel about this women.
well she would be A GODDESS, so i started to treat her like one,
I have always been very nice and respectful to my girlfriend but i took it a step further and told the world,
I started a blog, where i would write how my partner made me feel, how sexy i found her feet and tickling her, telling stories from our real life and how happy she makes me.
(not a original idea i lot of femdom make similar blogs to empower their partners)
I was able to restore some confidence with my girlfriend, she read's it every day.
The secret is to tell her about the blog once and to agree never to talk about it in person.
In the first two weeks her attitude towards tickling changed completely,
she started putting her feet in my face asking if i want to tickle them,
one night letting me pin her arms above her head by sitting on them and rubbing/tickling her entire upper-body with baby-oil.
i only started a few weeks ago and we broke the not talking about it rule once when she told me
"i love this blog, now i know how i make you feel and i understand why you like tickling me,
i have a surprise for you, Im going to give you something to write about"
I look forward to what ever that is....
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