I would appreciate sincere feedback on a situation I'm having.
Something's been happening, and it's really getting on my nerves.
I dont remember if I mentioned on here ever, how my friend Barney is extremely arrogant.
He brags, and boasts, about his situation, while being insensitive to others, and not wanting to hear if someone else has something else good happen.
After receiving tenure from his job..
He gets. free hotel rooms/meal money, etc etc on the road when he travels.
Yet, he's the epitome of a selfish individual, wanting to have advantages on everything from others, and giving little or nothing in return.
As most on here know, I've had a horrible time in the year and a half since I lost Aflac, with the job search, my father, hoping some things I'm working on, come through, etc.
Barney will see me, and be like.
"I get so many free things on the road. I get meal money every day, and eat very cheaply, so I can hold most of it, more money in my pocket".
Yet, if anything were to go well for me/does go well, he acts jealous.
Case in point.
When Maria was here, and she and I were exploring our feelings for each other, he kept making snide negative comments almost like he didnt want it to happen, because at that moment he didnt have a girlfriend or anyone interested in him.
Another case, a long time ago, but indicative of how he is.
After he bragged for a whole year about his upcoming world trip.
I then got word I would be moving to Lancaster, which at the time made me very happy, because I was unhappy in Fort Lee, NJ where I was living at the time.
Literally, the week before I moved to Lancaster, Barney got fired from a job.
The last time he came to see me when I lived in NJ.. he was very.. sassy. saying
"Oh, I dont want to hear how happy you are that you're moving to Lancaster. You're leaving me, and that isnt good for me".
It's like.. at the time.. I had to do it, to make changes in my life.
Instead of saying something like "I'll miss you, and I'm sad that you're leaving because we wont be close to each other, and cant see each other as much", all this POS talked about was his feelings
This. from someone, who has spent his whole friendship with me, over 20 years, bragging and rubbing everything in my face, at times when things might be the worst for me, such as in the last year and a half, since I lost Aflac, and have been having such difficulties with the job search.
Right now, I dont want to give up a 20 year friendship with him, especially since he lives in my complex.
However, when he did his latest bout of bragging the other day, at a time when I;m holding my breath, waiting to hear about jobs I've applied to, I called him on his behavior, and politely told him to stop.
He then cancelled on me that day, claiming he was sick.
He then, made plans with another friend for Saturday, and told me he was busy.
When I asked him about seeing me Sunday, he was very aloof, saying "We'll see".
As if this is a one person friendship, only his way, what he wants to do, and as if I shouldnt be fucking fed up with his bragging, and being jealous or sassy to me, if things go well for me, when he's having a problem.
For information sake, although it doesnt matter, because its a separate relationship.
My other friends, the ones I know from college who dont have to do with Barney, including with people I've recently resurrected with after a long time, cant stand Barney, neither can my friend Adam.
My parents cant/couldnt stand him.
My Dad has refused to get him a job, or help him, even when I first moved to NY, Barney was unemployed, and when things were fine with me, and my Dad.
My mom, sweet lady that she was, didnt like him.
He would come into our house, time after time, and never bring any token of appreciation, like a housewarming gift.,
It was after a while, my mom finally said to him, and she had tact. She was making him meals, paying for his dinners when he was there, etc. "Barney, how many times are you going to come in here, and never even bring a small token of showing you're civil, like a housewarming gift or a pie".
I'm going to my friend Tom's house for dinner on Friday, and I immediately asked him what does he like that I could bring. I'll be getting a pie, cake, etc. I wanted to show my appreciation for his having me over, treating me to dinner, etc, and not being.. a user or taker.
Sorry to go on. The more I write this, the more pissed off I get.
Any advice/insight would be appreciated,.
Thanks.
Something's been happening, and it's really getting on my nerves.
I dont remember if I mentioned on here ever, how my friend Barney is extremely arrogant.
He brags, and boasts, about his situation, while being insensitive to others, and not wanting to hear if someone else has something else good happen.
After receiving tenure from his job..
He gets. free hotel rooms/meal money, etc etc on the road when he travels.
Yet, he's the epitome of a selfish individual, wanting to have advantages on everything from others, and giving little or nothing in return.
As most on here know, I've had a horrible time in the year and a half since I lost Aflac, with the job search, my father, hoping some things I'm working on, come through, etc.
Barney will see me, and be like.
"I get so many free things on the road. I get meal money every day, and eat very cheaply, so I can hold most of it, more money in my pocket".
Yet, if anything were to go well for me/does go well, he acts jealous.
Case in point.
When Maria was here, and she and I were exploring our feelings for each other, he kept making snide negative comments almost like he didnt want it to happen, because at that moment he didnt have a girlfriend or anyone interested in him.
Another case, a long time ago, but indicative of how he is.
After he bragged for a whole year about his upcoming world trip.
I then got word I would be moving to Lancaster, which at the time made me very happy, because I was unhappy in Fort Lee, NJ where I was living at the time.
Literally, the week before I moved to Lancaster, Barney got fired from a job.
The last time he came to see me when I lived in NJ.. he was very.. sassy. saying
"Oh, I dont want to hear how happy you are that you're moving to Lancaster. You're leaving me, and that isnt good for me".
It's like.. at the time.. I had to do it, to make changes in my life.
Instead of saying something like "I'll miss you, and I'm sad that you're leaving because we wont be close to each other, and cant see each other as much", all this POS talked about was his feelings
This. from someone, who has spent his whole friendship with me, over 20 years, bragging and rubbing everything in my face, at times when things might be the worst for me, such as in the last year and a half, since I lost Aflac, and have been having such difficulties with the job search.
Right now, I dont want to give up a 20 year friendship with him, especially since he lives in my complex.
However, when he did his latest bout of bragging the other day, at a time when I;m holding my breath, waiting to hear about jobs I've applied to, I called him on his behavior, and politely told him to stop.
He then cancelled on me that day, claiming he was sick.
He then, made plans with another friend for Saturday, and told me he was busy.
When I asked him about seeing me Sunday, he was very aloof, saying "We'll see".
As if this is a one person friendship, only his way, what he wants to do, and as if I shouldnt be fucking fed up with his bragging, and being jealous or sassy to me, if things go well for me, when he's having a problem.
For information sake, although it doesnt matter, because its a separate relationship.
My other friends, the ones I know from college who dont have to do with Barney, including with people I've recently resurrected with after a long time, cant stand Barney, neither can my friend Adam.
My parents cant/couldnt stand him.
My Dad has refused to get him a job, or help him, even when I first moved to NY, Barney was unemployed, and when things were fine with me, and my Dad.
My mom, sweet lady that she was, didnt like him.
He would come into our house, time after time, and never bring any token of appreciation, like a housewarming gift.,
It was after a while, my mom finally said to him, and she had tact. She was making him meals, paying for his dinners when he was there, etc. "Barney, how many times are you going to come in here, and never even bring a small token of showing you're civil, like a housewarming gift or a pie".
I'm going to my friend Tom's house for dinner on Friday, and I immediately asked him what does he like that I could bring. I'll be getting a pie, cake, etc. I wanted to show my appreciation for his having me over, treating me to dinner, etc, and not being.. a user or taker.
Sorry to go on. The more I write this, the more pissed off I get.
Any advice/insight would be appreciated,.
Thanks.
