How you started with Tickling

[vanesiu88]

Hi my name is Vanessa and I am doing a research project on BDSM and fetishes,
a friend recommended this site and I was wondering if you could tell me your fetishes, how you got into them, why you started and what you get out of if.
I would appreciate your help a lot.

Thank you!!!

 

[leafstk]

Hello Vanessa, you wouldn't happen to be a MuchMusic VJ would you? 😀

 

[vanesiu88]

Other questions Im rather interested in is


Why do you think that for heterosexuals, the penis vaginal intercourse is regarded as the definite sex act?

In what ways do you think we can try to understand other bodily plays (oral sex, bdsm) as subversive sexual practices that can challenge the hegemony of the penis vaginal sex act?


Thanks 🙂

 

[Black Hat]

Other questions Im rather interested in is


Why do you think that for heterosexuals, the penis vaginal intercourse is regarded as the definite sex act?

In what ways do you think we can try to understand other bodily plays (oral sex, bdsm) as subversive sexual practices that can challenge the hegemony of the penis vaginal sex act?


Thanks 🙂

Do you want me to just write your essay for you or something??

I have time...

 

[vanesiu88]

lol... i dont need you to write me an essay... i want different opinions. I am doing a presentation about this and I would appreciate different point of views.

 

[milagros317]

I can't tell you how I got into my interests (fetishes), which are tickling and women's bare feet, because I have had them ever since I can remember, back to age four.

 

[Gadilici]

I'm pretty much in the same boat as Milagros. Goes back at least to my earliest memories, probably about 2. I'm pretty sure my family hadn't moved to Ohio yet, and we did that when I was nearly 3. But I remember digging it then. In elementary school would want to tie up and tickle the girls in my class (bondage was just a means to hold them still mind you, wasn't dreaming of shibari or anything). But as far back as my memories go, so goes my love of tickling.

You may want to ask the sex question on a more BDSM oriented site. And many heterosexuals don't consider it the definitive act. Many think that oral and even handjobs are sex.

There is a Biblical view, "They shall become one flesh". It's an act of returning back to the original creation, one body. The two becoming one. Also, it is the only natural act that can create life. So, even from a non-Biblical point of view, there is still an argument to be made.

But anal sex is still sex, and I've known more than one straight chick who was into the backdoor.

Now for my opinion. And I'm probably the only one here with this particular opinion. So if you disagree, that's fine. I ain't telling you you're wrong.

Vaginal sex is the original design spec. So, it's automatically definitely sex. Penetration is required in my mind for something to be designated sex, so anal qualifies as well. Oral doesn't because even tho it's penetrative in a way, it's designed to have a broad range of stuff going in. If you consider a willie going in as sex, then you would your carrots, your steak, your silverware, etc. I know it's for a different purpose, but the mouth is a multi-purpose entry door. This is different from the vagina which is designed more or less to have one type of thing go in, and the butt which is designed as an exhaust port.

Not looking to debate anything, just giving an opinion, which is what she asked for. I think. Whatever you believe is sex...then for you, it is sex. The above is just my personal definition. That's what it is for me.

Now making love doesn't even require being in the same time zone, but that's a different question entirely....

Christopher

 

[c7_assassin]

I wouldn't call what we do 'subversive sexual practices'...I think you may have it, forgive the pun, ass backwards.

Heterosexuals see vanilla sex as the 'definite' sex act because that's what heterosexuals do in bed. It's what they fantasize about. Same as gay men liking cock. It's not consciously 'subversive' or 'conformist', it's how we're wired.

So to say that we're 'challenging the hegemony of vaginal sex' is assigning a political motive to our sex lives that I don't think makes any sense. I don't think anyone comes here to stick it to the man.

 

[myth77]

If you consider a willie going in as sex, then you would your carrots, your steak, your silverware, etc. I know it's for a different purpose, but the mouth is a multi-purpose entry door.

LMAO! Very true!

Now making love doesn't even require being in the same time zone, but that's a different question entirely....

very interesting...😀

 

[Gadilici]

You know, C7 I missed the sort of loaded political possibility. Musta been tired...lol

I, as a heterosexual, dislike the idea of vaginal sex being referred to as vanilla. One can be extremely un-vanilla with vaginal sex. Tantra is hardly vanilla, and there is a lot of vaginal sex in that.

I believe we are beginning to run the risk of this being booted off to another forum.

very interesting...😀

And absolutely the truth.

Christopher

 

[myth77]

And absolutely the truth.

Christopher

;D.

 

[WheresThe Clip?]

Hi my name is Vanessa and I am doing a research project on BDSM and fetishes,
a friend recommended this site and I was wondering if you could tell me your fetishes, how you got into them, why you started and what you get out of if.
I would appreciate your help a lot.

Thank you!!!

Ha the old 'I'm doing a research project' gag

 

[Ticklish9's]

Always been this way. I can't remember any time when it was even a little different. I suppose it was less arousing before puberty but it was still generally appealing.

As for the second half, I think the best way to "challenge the penis-vagina hegemony" is to ignore it. It's not really a hegemony (consider the size of sites like this), it's just got a better PR department.