This is one of those grey areas for me with regards to tickling. I love the IDEA of being tickled way passed my boundaries, maybe even to the point of tears (definitely NOT to the point of wetting my pants). It makes for an extremely hot fantasy
I love to imagine those kidnapping/torture scenarios or even playful instances among friends or lovers where tickling is pushed passed the boundaries of playfulness and into something a bit more torturous.
But when it is actually put into play in real life, I get VERY uncomfortable unless the 'lee expresses a desire to be tortured to the point of tears. Here's an example: I recently watched a tickling clip - actually, it was a lot more than a clip - I think it was about 45mins in length. At first, I liked what I was watching. It was a girl (maybe around 20 years old) who was there to be tickled (for an hour) even though she hated being tickled - probably needed the money. Semi-unwilling 'lees are sometimes fun to watch because they often give the 'ler a lot of verbal sass or put up a fight - which is something I can definitely relate to as a 'lee because I'm the same way.
In the first part of the clip, this 'lee only had her feet in stocks, but her arms were free to try and defend herself. But as the clip progressed, she was cuffed, first in a seated position with her hands cuffed to the stocks, and then laying flat with her arms strapped down above her head. When she was tied down flat, she got very uncomfortable because her underarms were exposed, which is something she normally never allowed - that spot was off the charts ticklish for her. Because of her extreme sensitivity in that spot, it was in her contract that the 'ler was NOT allowed to tickle her underarms because she hated it, so much so that just the idea of it made her panic. So naturally, the 'ler got VERY close to her underarms and verbally teased her about being tickled there. But he stuck to his agreement..... until he found a spot almost as ticklish (just a few inches away from her underarm) and started bargaining with her.
He said that instead of being tickle tortured for another half hour (the time left in their contract), he would only tickle her for another five minutes IF she let him tickle her underarms. She fought the idea for a long time because of how much she hated being tickled there. But as the torture got more intense for her (because he basically kept tickling that one spot near her underarms and threatened to stay there for the remainder of the time), she finally caved in and allowed it. This was when the whole mood of the clip shifted. She stopped verbally sparring with him or even begging, and instead got very quiet. She also started crying right before he started to tickle her underarms. I could clearly see that this had gone WAY passed playful tickle torture and into ACTUAL torture.
I had to turn it off at that point. Seeing her cry and so obviously distressed about the idea of having a spot tickled that she found unbearable made me VERY uncomfortable. And honestly, it made me hate the 'ler. Up until that point, I thought he made a great 'ler because he did the kind of verbal teasing I love. But once he took advantage of her (even though she "technically" gave consent), he blew it for me. He even started to say stuff like, "Do you know how much the people out there are going to love seeing you cry?"
Well, not me buddy. I thought it was fucked up that he would crap all over their agreement and purposefully do something that he knew the 'lee HATED. When the 'lee consents to do a video, she's putting a lot of trust in the 'ler that he will follow through with whatever promises he made and boundaries they set up together. When that trust is broken, it's over for me - both as a watcher and a 'lee. MAJOR turn off
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