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First of all, let me offer my deepest sympathy for your loss. I haven't ever been in a situation quite like your's, so I hope others who may have dealt with a similar loss in the past will be able to offer more specific advice. Take comfort in the fact that your friend is no longer suffering. Don't go through this alone. Now is the time to lean on other friends and family for support. Those who care deeply about you know you better may be better able to provide the support you need at this time. As I stated earlier, I also hope others from this forum will respond with advice. If you have other friends who are experiencing the same loss, depend on each other for support. I wish you the best.
I can only echo what Sushi just said. This is never an easy thing to deal with. If you'd like to, you can email me at [email protected] and I will be glad to offer any support that I can...
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I'm so sorry you lost your friend. Grief is so hard; but I've found it heals better if you don't avoid it. Care for yourself gently while you let yourself feel it, so it can take its course naturally.
Hospices and hospitals have grief & loss groups led by counselors who can help you with this. Please call them; you will find them very helpful & comforting - they have lots of experience with this.
Sending you comfort,
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Hospices and hospitals have grief & loss groups led by counselors who can help you with this. Please call them; you will find them very helpful & comforting - they have lots of experience with this.
Sending you comfort,
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Iam truly sorry for your loss. I lost my paternal grandfather to cancer. It's true I was only 12 at the time, but I remember that it was my first experience with death of a close family member, and the impact that it had on my entire family, as well as myself.
I have always found that the best course for such a circumstance is counseling, especially group therapy or support group. Try to network with people who are in a similar situation as you. Sometimes just getting together with people who are in a similar circumstance, and discussing feelings of loss, or the good memories of the dearly departed, can aid in the process of learning to cope with the loss, and void felt by those who are left behind. I hope this advice will prove helpful to you. Good Luck.
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I have always found that the best course for such a circumstance is counseling, especially group therapy or support group. Try to network with people who are in a similar situation as you. Sometimes just getting together with people who are in a similar circumstance, and discussing feelings of loss, or the good memories of the dearly departed, can aid in the process of learning to cope with the loss, and void felt by those who are left behind. I hope this advice will prove helpful to you. Good Luck.
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Sorry to hear about your friend. Others have given good advice. Losing someone we care about is never easy. One of the most important things you can do is to let yourself feel the loss. Don't bottle things up or busy yourself so that you don't have time to think about it. Allowing yourself to feel the loss is an important step towards healing. If you have other friends in common, share memories and let yourself laugh about the good times. Celebrate your friend's life. It takes time. But, remember, the point isn't to forget. It's to hold them close in memory and be okay with it.
You'll be in thought/prayer.
Ann
You'll be in thought/prayer.
Ann
Like everyone else, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. One of the best things is to try and keep in good spirits. They are in a better place and no longer have to fight the disease. So keep smiling knowing they are no longer suffering. Remember, your friend will always remain in your heart, so they are not truly gone 🙂.
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i'm sorry to hear that, i just lost my grandfather to cancer in August we were very close if you would like to talk my email is [email protected]
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my mom to breast cancer nine years ago and it still feels as if it were yesterday. Take all the time you need to scream, cry, and grieve. Then, live off the memories of the good times. It makes it feel like your grandfather never left.
I am so sorry to hear about your friend passing on. It is never easy to deal with especially when it's someone so young.
Keep your friend alive in your heart and your memories. You might want to do something to remember them. Plant a garden with the flowers they would enjoy and name it after your friend. Go volunteer in support of raising money to find cures for cancer. Those are just a couple of ideas that will enable you to not only do something for yourself but also to celebrate your friend's life.
I haven't lost her yet but my mom has a terminal form of cancer. We are doing lots of things with her that will have lasting effects long after she's gone. Her garden has never looked more beautiful. Mom has picked out trees that we are each going to plant at our own homes in her honor that will continue to flourish when she's gone. One brother has been doing some runs to raise money for cancer research. The rest of us have been doing volunteer work to support the runners and help raise money. Hopefully some of the money we help raise now will find a cure for someone down the road.
Getting involved is helping us to deal with what is to come.
But as Ann said... it's ok to feel the loss and grieve for the loss of your friend. It's sad when you know you can't hug them anymore. Let the tears flow. I like to call them LIQUID LOVE. And do talk to people about your loss. Whether it's a friend, family, support group or heck... just us... talk about it.
I will add you to my prayers. One more thing ... You now have a special guardian angel watching over you. They will be with you to help you through this as well.
Jan
Keep your friend alive in your heart and your memories. You might want to do something to remember them. Plant a garden with the flowers they would enjoy and name it after your friend. Go volunteer in support of raising money to find cures for cancer. Those are just a couple of ideas that will enable you to not only do something for yourself but also to celebrate your friend's life.
I haven't lost her yet but my mom has a terminal form of cancer. We are doing lots of things with her that will have lasting effects long after she's gone. Her garden has never looked more beautiful. Mom has picked out trees that we are each going to plant at our own homes in her honor that will continue to flourish when she's gone. One brother has been doing some runs to raise money for cancer research. The rest of us have been doing volunteer work to support the runners and help raise money. Hopefully some of the money we help raise now will find a cure for someone down the road.
Getting involved is helping us to deal with what is to come.
But as Ann said... it's ok to feel the loss and grieve for the loss of your friend. It's sad when you know you can't hug them anymore. Let the tears flow. I like to call them LIQUID LOVE. And do talk to people about your loss. Whether it's a friend, family, support group or heck... just us... talk about it.
I will add you to my prayers. One more thing ... You now have a special guardian angel watching over you. They will be with you to help you through this as well.
Jan
I re-read your initial post and realized it was a friend and not a grandparent that passed away. I apologize for the confusion. That's what happens to a person who lives in textbooks!
The advice is still the same. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process. If you fight it, it will come back to bite you in the worst way at the absolute worst time. Then, you can go back to the memories and good times that make that person special to you.
I wish you well through the process. Write anytime because many people on this board have lost loved ones and have good advice and support to help you through.
The advice is still the same. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process. If you fight it, it will come back to bite you in the worst way at the absolute worst time. Then, you can go back to the memories and good times that make that person special to you.
I wish you well through the process. Write anytime because many people on this board have lost loved ones and have good advice and support to help you through.
