Here we go-hopefully this does some good for everyone
Aight first off, I'd like to say, that, Flatfoot, I have thought of you as a friend ever since you backed me up in that "Y'all know wrasslin's fake" thread to help drew70 see the light as to why profesional wrestling is the greatest form of entertainment on earth. So, I really especially feel for you man-I would say, try to have a conversation with her. Tell her this is sumthing that really means a lot to you, even though it is disgusting to her. Here's a great way to explain all of our's love's of tickling:
Explain how it is the touch of flesh and flesh. Point out how it feels sexy to know that you have the power over somebody to, at the poke of a finger, make them lose control. And definitely explain the vice versa-how at the poke of a finger she could make you lose control, and you could be almost like her slave in a way (i dunno how to phrase that better). Explain also how it is the deep touching, and the almost cuddly like feeling from it. And at the very end, be sure to talk about how she has been lately to-DO NOT DO IT IN A OFFENSIVE WAY WHATSOEVER!!!! If you have to, even say "I don't mean to offend you, or make you become defensive, but I feel that there is a real lack of respect when you call me fucking sick and call me rude names like fetish boy. I already feel uncomfortable about this fetish with you, but it is sumthing that EXTREMELY turns me on." Also, IN A !!VERY!! NON_OFFENSIVE way, explain the thing that turns her on the most-then explain how it would feel to be ridiculed and teased for that turn on (or many tunr-ons of hers) and try to get her to feel the way you do.
If she just continues to be a stubborn bitch, just explain that her close-mindedness about everything, especially the tcikling fetish, is sending you over the deep end. If you have to, resort to even talking about divorce. Hopefully she will be really shocked that you would even talk about that. If she gets pissed cuz of this, just let her throw her temper-tantrum, and a few days later confront her about the subjects again, IN A REALLY NON-OFFENSIVE, DIPLOMATIC WAY!!
AND the biggest thing is not about the tickling. The biggest is to point out her lack of respect, and point out situations where you could easily disrespect her, but chose not to, and try to get her to feel sympathy.
If she will not even listen to you explain this stuff, and listen to sumthing that you call important, and will not conversate with you (not even about the tickling, but the respect issue is #1 priority) and she continues to disrespect after all the conversation, and knowing that you do not want to be disrespected annymore, then really take a good, hard, long look at your situation, and if divorce or just married separation for a few weeks/months seem like the cure, then do it. If you can find another way, consider it-but no matter what, do what in the end, IN THE BIGGER PICTURE, will make you happy.
If it seems like a long life with a lot of hell, disrespect, and close-minded bitchiness from her, and it seems like it will never stop, just grow worse and worse until you die at 73.2 (or whatever it is) then just go ahead and divorce her, instead of a whole lifetime of misery and suffering. If it doesn't seem that bad, just a few years of rocky road, then that is your call. If it seems like she is just going through a phase, and might snap out of it soon, and finally be open-minded and respoectful, then stay together. Either way, make sure you are happy cuz the only person that can look out for yourself the best is yourself. Good luck in your predicament, my wrestling-watching buddy, and make sure you do what is right for you.
Now, onto my lecturing of the rest:
First off, I want to say that there are both pros and cons of telling friends, family, basically all loved ones of your sexual fetish:
Pros of telling family:
Well, when telling family, they are your family, and unless you have a millionare, anal rich father/mother that cares more about image than they do about their own child, then your parents will most likely still love you, no matter how nuts you seem to them. Same with brothers and sisters.
Cons of telling family:
The only bad thing is that you cannot do harmless, playing around tickling with family members, cuz it will be awkward and really uncomfortable of both parties. That is the reason I haven't told my family yet, because in my high school days, around the same time I was finding out this fetish (and remember everyone, my true tickling tales post is coming out soon-big news for all tickling lovers), I used to playfully tickle my lil cousins. Now that I haven't playfully tickled anybody for the past few years (just sexually tickled) it might be time to tell, or maybe I could just ride it out a couple more years (that is my call, and your call if you who is reading this has the same problem as me).
Now, when it comes to friends, don't just out and out tell them this. They are not like family-you cannot choose your family, but you can choose your friends. So you really cannot do the same approach as with family. My suggestion is that if it comes up, just be honest. It is really awkward, but it won't matter after a while. I have only told two friends whom are extremely close to me. IT IS YOUR CALL AS TO WHETHER TO BRING THE SUBJECT UP YOURSELF OR NOT. Like I said, if it just happens to come up, be honest.
Pros of telling friends:
In my case, I had a friend (Pete) that I could just conversate about it with. His fetish was big boobs, and nice ass. I talked about caressing a girls sides to make her laugh, and he talked about caressing her ass cuz it turned him on so much. So, you could get a partner to talk about this with. But, you already have that here with the TMF (I know I am open to conversating about it, so if you need to, just private message me or whatever it is called, and I am pretty sure you could ALWAYS conversate with a moderator-they are the police/firefighters/soldiers of the forums-that is kinda their job I guess). So, other pros are of course getting it off your chest, and becoming closer with friends that accept it and really want to be your friend. And who knows? you might be lucky, and a friend of the opposite sex might be either nice enough, or open-minded enough, or might care about you so much that they might want to act out some fantasies with you. But always be aware of the friends with benefits stuff.
Cons of telling friends:
As a male, you might get constantly ridiculed, or just fucked with by friends. Remember that they are friends-they are just poking fun at you. Don't take it too personal.
But, we must also be aware of the worst result: losing that friend.
Here's how I judge telling people: (you can do it too, but you can do your way or mine, or whatever. I am not trying to offend people by giving them a guiding self-help post.)
Acquaintance: Not really close to them, just kinda see them at work, school, etc., but wouldn't be considered someone to have an extremely deep conversation about. Obviously, I wouldn't tell them, and prolly woudln't tickle them either.
Close Acquaintance: This is the coolest one to me. You are close enough to have somewhat deep conversations at work, school, etc., but don't really hang out outside of those place with them in your own free time like you would a friend. But, you are still close enough to hug, or sumthing like that, so "playfully" tickling them wouldn't be off-limits like Acquaintance (which I think is more like stranger, but I know them a lil bit). So, you can still have fun tickling them, and finding out where they are ticklish at, and play around, but don't have to tell them about the fetish. It is free, but not uncomfortable either, so it feels nice. This area is where I got most of my true tickles (which comes out in my 51st post everybody-be sure to check out the stories section-I will also post a thread in the discussion section so people who only visit that section will know about it too).
Friend: Like I said earlier, your call whether to bring the subject up or not, but if they bring the subject up and ask you "do you like tickling" or sumthing like that, just be honest-and point out that you are being a good person by being honest. If they are a true friend, they will stick with you-if they aren't, fuck them and tell them to not let the door hit them on the ass as they make their way out of your apartment/room/house disgusted.
Family: see above section about family. (I don't want to have to write all that crap again).
So, anyways, good luck flatfoot, musician, and all the ones out there who are struggling with these and many more issues.
And lastly, please be sure to remember that when you are checking out my true tickling experiences post, that you give me some replies. If you want more detail, go ahead and ask!! I will try to be as detailed as I can get for all my fellow tickle lovers. Be sure to check it out!!
C YA
