I want more real life friends from here.

[kcantankerous]

Hello,

I have crossed the rubicon twice with people in this forum, both males. That being, I have become FB friends with them. In both cases, it has worked ou swimmingly. We don't banter about fetish stuff or anything, but it is nice to have likeminded friends whom you communicate with in whatever capacity.

I'd like more such friends. Hopefully add some women to balance out the sex ratio, as far as the fetish community is concerned.

The only area of concern is the idea that a new friend would basically lose it and get all creepy. In my two experiences - admittedly a tiny sampling at best - I haven't run into this issue.

Wanted to know if anyone else pondered the idea of adding more real life friends -aquantencies or people whom you can communicate with outside the forum - from this forum.

Thanks

K

 

[chicago]

I do, but not usually unless I've met in person, spoke on the phone, or at least known them for a number of years.

 

[Wolf]

I have a couple of people I consider real-life friends that I first connected with via this forum or another venue like it; but they're rare.
You have to be pretty selective, because anyone can turn weird/creepy on you without notice.

 

[Goatboy]

I do, but not usually unless I've met in person, spoke on the phone, or at least known them for a number of years.

I have been a part of this community since before it was on this forum, back when it was the alt.binaries.fetish.tickking message board, (so a long ass time) and you are the only person I know "outside" of here. Which speaks to either your awesomeness, or my lack of a social life, or both lol.

But to the OP, I am definitely not against the idea of having actual friendships with people on here. Just haven't really done so, for whatever reason.

 

[chicago]

I have been a part of this community since before it was on this forum, back when it was the alt.binaries.fetish.tickking message board, (so a long ass time) and you are the only person I know "outside" of here. Which speaks to either your awesomeness, or my lack of a social life, or both lol.

But to the OP, I am definitely not against the idea of having actual friendships with people on here. Just haven't really done so, for whatever reason.

Obviously my awesomeness. Lol

 

[Goatboy]

Obviously my awesomeness. Lol

I can get on board with that. It's been like 12 years since your 2am phone call to tell me about your "house of trampolinrs dream," and in all that time, it is STILL may favorite middle of the night call of all time.

 

[chicago]

Lol ah random college all nighters

 

[Rectangle]

I've met two, guess I could consider myself friends with one, and am currently trying to find time off work to meet another for coffee.
That and I'm more than likely going to a small gathering here soon nearby.

As far as the one friend that I've met, I never speak to them about this stuff, unless it's asking their advice on munches/gatherings and such.
It's usually just small talk and goofy messages..it's just comforting knowing that they're "like me".


I totally get wanting to add more friends that "get" this side of you.
I'd probably have more if I wasn't so damn worried about bumping into one of the creepier ones among you all.

 

[rdhd]

As far as someone turning creepy or whatever, it can happen with the friends you are in daily contact with. Doesn't have to be someone you connect with online.

 

[IrvingKrebb]

I'd also like to have some like minded friends I could hang out with, or talk on the phone with...correspond with however, but preferably in person. Male or female, doesn't matter, and conversation need not be limited to tickling. I met a few members at NEST , should have gotten contact info, oh well. Spoke to a couple members on the phone, that was cool, and recently had coffee with a member but it was apparently a one time thing, which is fine, I mean, you can't assume friendship just because you have this one thing in common. But yeah, I'd like to meet some like minded people and see if a friendship develops. Who knows?

 

[IrvingKrebb]

Sorry, forgot to mention that I email pretty regularly with two members, currently, and it's great. I won't mention their names, but if they read this...well, you fellas are great and your friendships are appreciated. And even though you're both very far from me, I feel like the friendship is as strong as any other.

 

[duderino84]

I've met a couple people with "the fetish" but not in any connection to this forum. Idk I'm thinking of pushing fetlife.

 

[Mrcool]

Meeting the lovley TMF community Is On my list of stuff I want to do, But just like anything money is a thing

 

[Ramcharger64]

I have made a few friends from here that I talk to on almost a daily basis, if u want another guy, my kik is ramcharger646, hope to hear from u.

 

[duderino84]

Meeting the lovley TMF community Is On my list of stuff I want to do, But just like anything money is a thing

And time. And distance. Lol I know what you mean dude. As much as I want open reign of things, I always have something going on.

 

[Wolf]

As far as someone turning creepy or whatever, it can happen with the friends you are in daily contact with. Doesn't have to be someone you connect with online.

True enough; but when you're basing the friendship (at first) on a shared sexual fetish, I'd say the chances are higher that boundaries get crossed.

 

[Rectangle]

..am currently trying to find time off work to meet another for coffee.

Adding that this just happened, and went awesome. Got a brand new TMF friend.

 

[tickletherapist]

Making friends here is awesome. I contemplate on the idea of having TMF friends from all over the world and start travelling and meeting them some time 🙂 Or welcome here at my place.

 

[daddy]

I have had some friends before the TMF that I met through other sources, such as the old AMT or through my old website. Those friendships in some cases turned out to be real good long lasting ones and some just turned out to be acquaintances. I learned a lot about the people in these circles and it was eye opening. Some are very quiet and shy and the some are very selfish and self serving. Guess that is everywhere in the world though. i think there is this big wish that we all could get along since we all seem to like the same thing...but we know that is not the real world. Sure, I would love to make more friends here I could actually hang out with, but unless we are within a decent amount of distance from each other it probably won't happen. Phone calls can be fun though at times...who knows!

peace out,
daddy

 

[The Internet]

Kcanketerous, it doesn't work that way "I want to have more friends". Friendships organically evolve over time. Participate on the board in a fun way and have something to start a friendship about other than "I have problems". We all have problems. You've got the walking wounded all over this board.

I've met people from the TMF. You know what? They're just like everyone else. And this bond that we share? It means less and less when you get into actual real life socializing. You PM and chat with them for a while....then you move to the phone. When you move to the phone? It's like starting from scratch. You build that up for a while, then you meet face to face? It's like starting from scratch again. If you think you're going to have an instant rapport with someone just because you share this thing.....think again.

If you're too emotionally needy, that's a red flag, for anybody. So my advice would be stop making threads like this, and just participate on the Forum in a "lighter" way. Be happy with having "online" friends, even if they're just people you see around on the board. Have fun. Fun attracts.

 

[kcantankerous]

Making friends here is awesome. I contemplate on the idea of having TMF friends from all over the world and start travelling and meating them some time 🙂 Or welcome here at my place.

Hello,

I would love to be your FB friend. I like your videos very much. Also, I think it would be fun to get to know your non fetish side.

K

 

[kcantankerous]

Kcanketerous, it doesn't work that way "I want to have more friends". Friendships organically evolve over time. Participate on the board in a fun way and have something to start a friendship about other than "I have problems". We all have problems. You've got the walking wounded all over this board.

I've met people from the TMF. You know what? They're just like everyone else. And this bond that we share? It means less and less when you get into actual real life socializing. You PM and chat with them for a while....then you move to the phone. When you move to the phone? It's like starting from scratch. You build that up for a while, then you meet face to face? It's like starting from scratch again. If you think you're going to have an instant rapport with someone just because you share this thing.....think again.

If you're too emotionally needy, that's a red flag, for anybody. So my advice would be stop making threads like this, and just participate on the Forum in a "lighter" way. Be happy with having "online" friends, even if they're just people you see around on the board. Have fun. Fun attracts.

First of all, I appreciate your bluntness. I know you are trying to help. One of the few abilities I possess is forming meaningful relationships - meaningful to me anyway - with relative ease. Some of my closet friends - i.e. folks you can call at 2 am, or who would offer you a place to stay of you lost yours - is high regardless of time known. I want more such connections. Starting a thread like this makes my point very clear. Obviously the fetish realm is covered through the forum. I noticed that many active users here have many layers to them. That is what I find fascinating. I believe one cannot have enough decent contacts in their life. Hope that makes sense.

Thanks,

K

 

[chicago]

I think your threads are pretty cool. Usually gets people talking and a lot of times some good advice gets handed out, but I would not say you sound emotionally needy. I don't see anything wrong with what you post. Keep doing you. Trying to make friends being anyone else just sounds crazy lol

Fun attracts, but "real" makes friendships

 

[tickletherapist]

Hello,

I would love to be your FB friend. I like your videos very much. Also, I think it would be fun to get to know your non fetish side.

K

Tickling is not fetish to me actually. Just wrong word for it. Tickling is many things and it's great.
But I understand what you mean.

Would be cool, if only you had at least some information about yourself in your profile. No info there so it's hard to guess what you like and who you are and where you are from.

 

[The Internet]

First of all, I appreciate your bluntness. I know you are trying to help.

I figured you would.

One of the few abilities I possess is forming meaningful relationships - meaningful to me anyway - with relative ease. Some of my closet friends - i.e. folks you can call at 2 am, or who would offer you a place to stay of you lost yours - is high regardless of time known.

Yeah, me too. And so then you know quite well that such friendships are organic, not self conscious. Sometimes you pick friends, but mostly they evolve over time.

I never suggested you not "be real", lol. Or to stop posting your threads. Like the one about the escorts which pretty quickly ended up with people making stereotype dick jokes, I mean....you really want to be friends with these people, anyways? lol

I meant accentuate your lighter side. Another one of your threads you're talking about how your suicide is imminent, I mean.....that makes one nervous, geez, what if I say the wrong thing.........

I know I wrote you once in friendship! i'll do it again now! I'll bet I end up your closest friend here, watch......lol