Slow your roll...
At 23 years old, you still have a lot of life left within you. Take your time, enjoy your young life... I'm about ten years older than you and I cannot begin to tell you how invaluable the advice I'm about to give you will be. Take it or leave it. If it has worked for me, I'm sure it can work for you.
You just completed college, that's terrific. That's one thing down. Going to college sucks but if you've invested in your education to the point where you've picked a major that you are really interested in, it can make a difference. If you haven't already, find yourself the best job you can and try to stay there as long as you can. My recommendation is some place where those skills can be put to use and a job. Then stay there as long as you can and work your a** off and save, save, save.... you will need it. Get yourself into a career, not a job, just for the money. A career where you can grow. (Notice I haven't mentioned anything about love yet)
Now that you've got a stable income and place you can grow into, find yourself a home, a house preferably. If you're still living at home and you just got to get the hell out of there than go to an apartment. But if you can afford to own a home, buy one, 30 year/fix, and the lowest mortgage rate the company can stand to give you. Quicken Loans is pretty good. It's great to have your own and as long as you own property you can never be broke because if need be you can always sell it later on. Try to find some property that has a little equity and potential in it (notice I haven't mentioned anything about love yet)
Now here's the tricky part. Here's where you need to pay attention. You've got the job, you've got the house and you've got a pretty decent car. Now here is where you need to be careful. Come here for a second, I want to show you something... see, look out there (pulls back the curtain for you to see). There's a mob of women now that are going to come running after you. They see a car, a house and a man with a stable job, that's a rarity these days so they're going to want to find out a little more about you. Don't be so quick to call them materialistic or gold diggers, no, they just see a man that's making moves for himself and they want to know if you're the real deal. Sure, it's alright, go ahead and date a few of them. Get to know them but be careful because not everybody out there has your best interest. And as much as you may not want to, you will have to turn most of it away because there are some women that are gold diggers and all they want in life is to get married and have a baby. AVOID desperate, lonely women as much as possible. They will distract you from your future endeavors (Notice I haven't mentioned love yet).
So this ought to take you into about your late twenties or close to thirty. That's good. Now you're a home owner, you've had a stable job for a few years and you've lived by yourself for sometime. So you've raised the stakes. You've dated a bit, you've had some fun... and because of some of your experiences you can safely and effectively (God willing) pick out the right woman worth your time and energy. So here's how you do that. I had a bad habit of going after the perfect 10/10 in the face kind of women. All wrong. Why? They are usually the most screwed up because all of their lives people have catered to them and placed them on a pedestal. She knows she always has options. Find a woman who is good 7.5 or an 8 in the face but has a 10 in personality and she will love you and appreciate you and be there for you when you get sick and fall ill. It can happen. And when you're laying in the hospital and can't move, you want your woman to be there for you and be able to take care of the bills at home so you'll have a place to come home to when you get out. I'm not saying that there isn't a 10/10 face roaming around here somewhere that can hold things down, but it's a rarity. Don't settle for less, but don't have such high standards on the looks. A woman who is good 7.5/8 is still a very attractive woman and that is damn good. Once you've found her, treat her good and treat her the same way you as you did when you first met her and you will have less stress in your life. Open doors, pull out chairs, don't stop doing those things. If she's a good woman she will appreciate how much you've stayed the same over the years and will fuss at you a lot less (God willing).
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As far as the fetish is concerned and whether or not it's a deal breaker, its not. I've been into feet for years and every woman I've dated or was ever interested in knows that about me. As long as you aren't creepy about it, it's not a problem. First of all, women don't spend so much of their time and money to get dressed up for nothing. They want to be noticed, complimented and validated at some point. They want to feel special and feel appreciated, so taking the time to politely comment on certain things, they appreciate. If you've been out on a few dates with a woman and you happen to notice she wears sandals a lot and her feet are very pretty, there's nothing wrong with slipping a compliment or offering her massage one day. Just be smooth about it, don't be a creep.
My dating days are over and I'm soon to be married. But when I was on the scene I rubbed, massaged, kissed, caressed and tickled all kinds of feet. I had fun, I had a good damn time. The ladies knew I was into feet and they let me indulge into my fetish because I wasn't a creep about it. We're human beings, we're not robots. Everybody has something that they like and it just so happens that I was into feet. I'm not ashamed of that, but at the same time I don't make it a roundtable discussion. I made conversations like that exclusively for one and one. It's not bar talk by any means, in my opinion.
Now I must go... I usually lurk the forums but I don't post very much. But I hope some of this advice will be helpful to you.