Importance of looks...

[Skipadeedoodah]

I think this topic may have been addressed before but I couldn't find it so I figured i'd repost 🙂 How important is looks and body type in a tickler/ticklee?? What are your specific preferences?

 

[tommytikl]

Actually for me, I prefer a woman to have a bit of meat on her.
I feel I will hurt a thin girl, I don't know why.
Take for example, I could never imagine tickling Calista Flockhart or the run way model type, but I could tickle Sandra Bullock, Catherine Zeta Jones, Lucy Lawless type all day.
The one exception to this rule would be Nicole Kidman but I might be influenced because she admitted to loving to be tickled.

Just my 2 cents...

 

[chrisheaven]

Calista would be good!

 

[qjakal]

Looks ...

I'm always surprised by how attractive I find most women. I hear a lot of crap at the gym from many guys who are so into looks that they don't SEE the person, if that makes sense...lol. Attitude is attractive to me, always has been, always will be, and I fail to understand how you can categorize people by height/weight/hair color so quickly. It just doesn't work. Having lived around NYC a lot, I can testify to the fact that there are angels and assholes of all sizes, shapes and colors easily found. *Shrug*...can't pin down what makes a person attractive, but I know it when I see it...any help? Q 😕

 

[4Pawz]

I don't think looks really come into play that much, especially not for me. I have played with people of all shapes, sizes, ages, etc. Physical features don't really come into play that much, it's more of the personality and style the lers have that make me want to play with them.

Pawz

 

[tommytikl]

However like 4Pawz mentioned...if I am just playing, well it really doesn't matter, I am just there for the fun of the tickling!
Sorry I meant as someone "special" to me...but at a NEST or other gathering or just a playful meet, then yeah, it really doesn't matter because I am there to tickle.

 

[milagros317]

As a lee, the attitude and skill of the tickler are much more important than her looks. 😀

 

[mykal]

As a ler, I would say that the attitude/personality, level of ticklishness, and overal reaction of the lee would be most important.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

If we're talking about preferences concerning a tickler or ticklee... I certainly wouldn't be picking these people out with the same criteria I would use to find a date or the love of my life.

The people I play with are obviously considered friends. So, the same qualities I value in friendship would be the same qualities I expect in someone I am tickling (or being tickled by).

Honest, respectful, attentive, humorous, caring.... Those attributes have nothing to do with looks.

I mean, of course I want to hang out with people who have good personal hygiene, etc. But a person's body weight, shape, skin tone, social economic background, hair or eye color, feet size... none of those silly things are going to determine whether or not I will let someone tickle me, or whether or not I want to be tickled by someone.

I don't care how sexy or "ugly" you are. If you don't have the personality, or if you don't have what it takes to be a true friend, it just isn't going to happen.

Just my opinion,
Sunrise

 

[ticklehound]

For me, it's gotta be in the smile! If she has a knee-buckling, spine-melting smile. There are other things I look for (deep, piercing eyes; soft, sensuous skin; etc), but if I'm gonna tickle her, a great smile makes the experience from great to insanely great!

Anything else matters on a more general plane not exclusive to tickling, qualities heralded in the fair sex in the search for someone to connect with - even if for a moment, because that's all life is, a series of moments.

I'm so lonely 🙁

Hound
"I'm gonna pick up some chicks!"

 

[pghtickleguy]

For me looks don't matter I love to tickle women who are truely ticklish. Someone who loves to laugh and really enjoys it. So if they are short,fat,tall,skinny,blond,brunette,redhead,etc it matters not to me



pghtickleguy

 

[freddyy]

Preference

I would rather tickle a 7 who is very ticklish than a 10 who is just moderately ticklish at best

 

[Phineas]

I'm going to throw my hat in with the "looks don't really matter", camp. I won't *not* tickle someone because I don't find them attractive.

on the other hand, I do appreciate attractive women, so I do find that it adds to the experience. Most of you are aware that two weeks ago I had the pleasure of tickling a woman who was not only stunning to behold, but was also very charming, playful, smart, and a lot of fun to interact with even on a non-tickling level. Talk about something I'll never forget; if she had been a total b!tch then it wouldn't have mattered *how* hot she was... It wouldn't have been remotely as much fun.

 

[ViperGTS]

Ok, so I am shallow. If I see a woman I think is hot, the first thing that comes to mind it "How ticklish is she?" Well, ok, no matter what the woman looks like I ask the same thing to myself, but I wouldn't consider pursuing a BBW for that reason, nor somone whom I considered to be "ugly". I guess if the potential lee just is average or better, hey, if she's ticklish, I say get her! but if she is downright ugly or (pardon the political incorrectness here) fat, I wouldn't try for a one on one ,tickling meet, maybe just poke her every now and then. ;-) I also have found (I dunno about anybody else) but I prefer to tickle within my own race. Not to be discriminative, not like I think 'ew she isn't white', I just lack the desire to tickle her. *is very strongly anti-racism, to make things clear here*

Another no-no is looking, smelling, or being dirty. Ick. Can't stand that.

 

[MrPartickler]

MrPartickler

I like Phineas' and Sunrise's initial statements. They were pretty on point for me I think.

<i>Phineas wrote:</i>
"...I won't *not* tickle someone because I don't find them attractive."

LOL, I love that! You should be a politician. 😛 I couldn't have said it better myself actually.

Physical attraction sweetens the deal obviously. It's definitely one of several things that may make me persue one ticklee more than another, but it's not everything. Also as Sunrise pointed out, the criteria for (only) tickling/being tickled by someone may be different than for a more substantial relationship too.

But rest easy, Viper. I personally never believe folks when they say looks don't matter at all though, mostly because it's one of those things that's just nice to say...but also because everyone has some "preferences"--often left unstated--that they find perfectly reasonable to have and others that they do not. If someone voices different preferences, then they're considered shallow, if they have similar ones they're not. It's all so subjective. And, let's face it, <i>ticklishness</i> is a shallow criterion to (arguably) most people in the world. 🙄 lol

 

[lightninbug]

It ALL comes down to the INNER PERSON.

I shudder when I think back to ALL the people who've not met the "GQ" or "COSMO" image of Beauty, that I WOULD'VE MISSED KNOWING...'Tickle-Playing' or OTHERWISE.. I've long ago given up "the Party Line" for my own deep feeling of what beauty is TO ME! A beautifu woman is a woman who will be kind & understanding to me...and EVERYONE ELSE.
I've seen an awful lot of People who could win "MISS/MR. ANYTHING" w/ their Outer Beauty on any given day...while their inner beauty was non-existant. There are a whole lot of Beautiful Skinny, Fat, Short, Tall People out there waiting just to say Hi; don't be a chump & leave them sitting alone at the Dance. Say Hello & watch that FLOWER start blooming.😎
Bugsy

 

[kis123]

I guess this is the time for BBW'S to speak out and be counted!!! Someone made the "fat" comment in a post and I'd like to counter-comment (if there's such a word🙂. Large people are ticklish too and enjoy life just like their thinner counterparts. We didn't ask for our metabolism or genetics either (we're not going to get into the overeating part because I know people less than half my size that eat 2-3 times more than I do!). I come from a family of generations of BBW'S that have no problem getting attention from the opposite sex because although we are large, we are beautiful, intelligent, and (some of us) are outgoing and fun-loving folks. I'm the only one in my family that seems to love tickling. But I'm also one of the family members that the other ones think is strange and off the beaten path. I've dated men of different races, sizes, and education. All of them had no problem entertaining my fettish for tickling, and I definitely made it worth their while🙂. I think that is the one quality that exists in everyone in this forum. We are wired differently and are willing to express (and even explore) ourselves in this arena.

Honestly speaking, looks are just a fact of life, and everyone has their preferences. In a perfect world, size or looks should never matter between friends. Unfortunately, looks are almost exclusive in our culture. What happens when the looks (and botox) run out? I hope there's still fun and laughter in my life relationship! Don't be so serious about appearances and just have fun with people who enjoy what you like.

 

[Iggy pop]

Are looks important? I think I'm going to say the non-political correct thing and say yes they are, but they are not the only thing that are important. Personality, intelligence, attitude are also very important. But I have to admit that the first thing that gets my attention are a woman's looks. If I see a woman that I find attractive then I want to get to know her better. Where it goes from there who knows. Attitude can increase a woman's sex appeal like crazy, but it was looks that got my attention in my first place.

Whould I reject someone as a partner if I didn't find them attractive? Yes. I once dated a nice girl that I did not find attractive, and it was not a good relationship. I liked her as a friend, but she didn't turn me on and we could not develop sexual chemistry. It finally occured to me that I was not only wasting my time, but hers as well. As far as weight goes I work hard through diet and execise to maintain a healthy body weight, and I do not think I would want to be partnered with someone who did not do the same. By the way when I say healthy I do not mean someone is anorexic eithier.

Now on the side, I see men that build up an image of perfect beauty in their head and they refuse to accept any woman that does not meet that standard of beauty. And I've met guys that have dumped women that were gorgeous because of one little physical flaw. There is such a thing as being too picky, and if you are waiting for that supermodel then you may be waiting awhile.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

looks matter

and i'm not going to be all appologetic for feeling that way!
tickling is sexual for me, so if i don't find a woman attractive, then i don't have the urge to tickle her/her tickle me.

as for what i find attractive, that would take too long. sufice to say that calista flockhart is not even in my ball park, neither is rose ann barr. i prefer a lady who is 10lbs over weight to a lady who is 10lbs under weight.
steve

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I'm rather easy here...no great, elaborate, or even flatulent explanations. If a woman is ticklish, to me, I really don't give two shits what she looks like. I do have my preferences for lees, though, as my criteria for a lee would be far, far less complicated than the criteria for a partner. I would prefer the lee to produce loud, rich, gusty laughter, laughter like a Beethoven symphony, laughter accoustically capable of peeling paint off the walls faster than zip strip, laughter that seeps into your own skin and massages your BONES. As such, I guess I'm less partial to the squirmers and the yippers and yelpers and the pinched-facers, and the screamers ("oh, God, stop screaming and start laughing, dammit!"). That's pretty much what I like. Your skin color, your weight, your skin complexion, your political persuasion, the football team you root for, all that carries little gravity here. I wanna hear you laugh when I reach out for those feet of yours

 

[chrisheaven]

I'm with Knox here!
The laugh etc is where it's at!

 

[tickleking]

Cast me in the camp of those who say looks matter. I am happily married, so it is not much of an issue as to who I tickle, as I only tickle my wife.

Looks fall into two broad categories in my book, however. I have seen some women with absolutely incredible bodies, but faces that could stop a clock. I have also seen large women with faces that could be painted and hung in a museum, and I will always take the latter in terms of who I think is more attractive.

I also agree with most of the posters here...for tickling, a loud uproarious laugh is mandatory

Give me the face any time, because other than the feet, a sweet, kind face is the part at which I look the most, and that includes _everything_ else 😀

Regards,

TK

 

[JPie1]

For me its not so much as the looks as in the grooming, give me a guy with a warm smile, well groomed, ticklish and I am a happy camper. I have met many adorable men of all shapes and sizes.

 

[Bride of Dracula]

This is a topic that I will never leave alone.

If somebody was to do a line-up of all of my ex boyfriends, spouses, casual affairs and the occasional boy-toy, you would never see any reocurring pattern as far as looks.

Warm caring heart, intelligence, wicked naughty sense of humor, a good healthy dose of perversity, willingness to mop my kitchen floor upon occasion and conscientious personal hygene have always been my criteria for what I find attractive.

When applying to the tickling arena, add on a light to medium touch, some creativity, sensitivity to my needs as a lee and the ability to tie a decent knot. 😛

As for size, race, weight, extra limbs, age etc...they are all secondary if at all noticed in the first place.

But for those lers who have been honest enough (no judgements here, to each his/her own) to admit that appearance does make a difference in who they tickle, remember that there are just as many lees who are checking out your package too before he/she will let you touch them.

May the Tickle Gods be praised.

 

[terorizer]

Sunrise pretty much said it. For me to ask how important looks and body types in the people may play (tickle) with is like asking how important they are with people I play pick up games with. It's not even a factor. As far as preferences, ticklishness makes almost any woman lovelier and I find far too many women of far to many different sizes, shapes and color to be able to define a template.