Is finding 'The One' possible with a foot and tickle fetish?

[ninjatickling]

I have never been lucky with finding women interested in me and right now is no exception. I love female peds and if I date a girl her feet NEED to be ticklish. I hope that isn't shallow but it's the only deal breaker I've got. Right now I feel like I live in a world with an even number of women and an odd number of men, leaving me the odd man out. Every woman I've ever liked is either out of my life for good whether I like it or not, engaged, married, in some form of relationship, or has a child. If that wasn't challenging enough, we all know how hard it is to come out to a spouse about this fetish and even harder to be accepted for it.

Is it really possible for someone like me to find the one?

Have you found yours?

If you did, how did it happen?

How long were you searching?

Does your partner like it too?

If yes, why? If not, why do they allow it?

Thank you for listening.

 

[ticklehound]

I feel like you're setting a pretty high bar for yourself. Is there "One" out there for you? Maybe, but you should be looking for other ways that a woman can fulfill your needs: physically, emotionally, etc. To box yourself in to only looking for someone who appeals to your fetish limits you, and objectifies her.

As for your question: YES, you can find "The One." I honestly feel like I have. We met at work, and just hung out one night... and we've been dating ever since. I'm deeply in Love with her. I started playfully tickling pretty early on in the relationship. I was happy to find out she's pretty ticklish! She doesn't like it to be tickled a lot, but she knows how much I enjoy it & indulges.

Now, she absolutely LOVES tickling me, and can be fairly merciless! She enjoys seeing me laugh and lose control, and she knows that I love being tickled, so that just makes her do it more!

But we're together because we understand, enjoy and love each other. I'm able to be myself, and she celebrates my strengths & doesn't detest me for my weaknesses. I can be vulnerable with her, yet feel incredibly powerful when I want to comfort & protect her. We both thrive to make each other happy.

The tickling aspect is just a fun little extra, lagniappe as we call it here. I never thought it would happen (that tickling wouldn't be an all-consuming lust with her), but it did. I don't even frequent this site as much anymore, since she satisfies so many more needs of mine that I didn't think were possible.

I'm gonna stop now; I could go on all night. Good luck. All the Best...

 

[ninjatickling]

I didn't realize I was setting a high bar, I've only been in three relationships in my whole life, and I didn't find out their feet were ticklish until after we had been dating for a while. I feel really lucky for those experiences too since if thery weren't I don't know how I would have reacted. I hate to say it but I think I have more of a fixation than a fetish. All the same I really appreciate your advice and your sharing. Thank you 🙂

 

[mabus]

Be careful not to objectify her, as TKHound correctly mentioned. Finding "the right" woman is complicated in today's world, and the mathematical
possibility of finding someone else with a tickle fetish is slim to none. It does happen, obviously, but is rare since there are so few
of us out there.

And even if you found another one, what is she's an insane evil hateful manipulative bitch who you'll probably never even get to tickle or be tickled by
because she's so manipulative and hateful? (Ironically and sadly, the only other person in my life who I thought MAY have had a tickle fetish, was an ex-cousin-in-law
who fit the description above.)

Your best bet is to be the absolute best person you can be...not just to find a girl, because that'll just be aggravating and end up being temporary - you can't live a lie
forever. Just research it, there's plenty of books and webpages on relationships out there, think about it logically, and be the BEST guy you can be!

Get in shape, get your financial life in order, cultivate a lot of friends so you won't be the creepy guy with no friends (having no friends does NOT automatically make
someone "creepy," but it is a major red flag - people will obviously wonder why you have no friends!) ....and having a lot of friends will make the possibility of meeting
a girl easier, since your universe will open up. Go do things. If people on Facebook invite you to events, actually go to them. Go to church, the bookstore, parties, movies,
etc. Be a nice guy to waiters and waitresses, janitors, delivery guys, everyone. People notice things. Even if these people can never do anything for you, those sayings
about "How you treat people who can do nothing for you" TRULY defines who you are as a human being. I have known plenty of people who treated servers and people who had less
power than them like shit, and in every case, these people SUCKED. They were shit people who were going to Hell, and I have no pity on them whatsoever. Fucking Assholes. Anyway, I
actually don't digress......

Do things that make a person good in relationships, and don't do things that suck - don't be jealous, tell her have friends, stand up for what's right, take care of her when she's sick,
do the dishes, don't be an asshole.....

The point of all this is, unless you find someone who sucks and ends up just using you, if you find someone with a good heart, TICKLING HER WILL BE EASIER.

(These lessons aren't just for you, they're for everyone reading, by the way.) If you're just fucking awesome, people will accept more from you than if you're a piece
of hateful shit. If you help everyone out in life and lift up everyone else, when its' revealed you have an interest in tickling, few will judge because you're such a nice
person, and the ones who do judge will be looked on as trolls.

If you're an asshole, people will savor the opportunity to rip you to shreds.

I just quit a job with a bunch of truly shitty, evil fucking asshole who can all go to hell, and who fucked with many really good people. That's where the venom in this post comes from!
But really, if you suck, people will be harsh. If you're kind, patient and awesome, people will be kind back. Not always, but the percentages will be in your favor.

If you find a woman and you treat her with respect, take care of her when she's sick, visit her relatives in the hospital, all the things that good people do, when the time comes
for some fun and sex, she may be more willing to indulge you, and may even enjoy it because she loves you so much, as opposed to if you treat her like crap and make no effort
in the relationship, when you want to tickle her...yeah, she'll probably turn you away....

 

[ninjatickling]

I should have re-worded my thread title.

When I said find 'the one' with a foot and tickle fetish I wasn't referring to her I was actually talking about me. I have both of those and was hypothetically asking if it was possible for someone like me, with those two fetishes, to find 'the one.'

As for having no friends, I don't understand what you mean. I have plenty of friends, I just don't share this side of me with them.

Thanks.

 

[FeatherEndeavor]

I'd like to answer your question and help you out but I'm a little confused as to what you're asking. Well if you did reword the title what would it be?

And the guy that talked about having no friends, I think he was just saying you'll be more attractive to women if you do have friends. 'Cause if you don't have friends they'll wonder if that means there's something wrong with you and might be less likely to date you. No implication as to whether you do or don't have any friends. He was giving general non-fetish related advice that could help you find that woman to satisfy your fetish.

 

[TicklingTips]

Mabus' post is the best thing I've read on here in a long time. I firmly believe that attracting quality people depends a lot on being a quality man, in everything from fitness to intellect to courage. They're good tips for life, not just finding a partner.

 

[mabus]

I agree with FeatherEndeavor, you may have to reword your last pots again, I don't understand the "one" thing now.

Most people here, when asking if they'll find the one, means "will they ever find anyone WITH a tickle fetish."

I had to use a long essay example to encompass a large universe, because there are many kinds of people out there, so it wasn't aimed at you or anyone else
in particular, I was taking the discussion to include every member of the forum, AND give some good dating advice.

One advice many articles give, which I agree with, is that if someone doesn't have a lot of friends, or none at all, people get suspicious.

That was aimed at everyone here, ...because I have associates/friends who don't have many friends, and they have a hard time finding women, some because they stay
inside all day, some are just weird or insane, and some are assholes and drive everyone away.

Because of this,their universe of women is obviously small to non-existent, so they have a hard time meeting women because their only options are the none they encounter and have
conversations with.

I was also trying to give hope to you and everyone else because, even though the universe of tickle fetishists is small...what if you could increase that number by your actions?

What if you had a girl who was ticklish, but "hated" to be tickled, but you were so awesome a boyfriend/husband and she loved you so much, she LET you tickle her,
and what if you did it in such a way that she became converted to liking it?

I used to not think that was possible, I figured you were born with it or not, but as I live my life, I see it's possible to turn people on to stuff as it is to turn people off.

(Again, I'm addressing everyone reading here, take what advice you need, disregard the advice you have no need for.)

Some people may never have interest in something...I'll probably never have a hint of interest in leather, for example, some men will never have interest in pantyhose or nylons
(those poor bastards!!) but what if someone had an awesome wife who dressed up in a really sexy black dress and wore stockings, and her man was turned on, and she started to give him
a foot job in his turned on state...it's possible he could enjoy it and want it more and more.

Same goes with tickling or anything else.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

Is it really possible for someone like me to find the one?

Have you found yours?

If you did, how did it happen?

How long were you searching?

Does your partner like it too?

If yes, why? If not, why do they allow it?

Thank you for listening.

1) Yes it is possible and don't give up. I believe there is someone out there for everyone.

2) Yes I have.

3) it was through FetLife and a local play party/movie night in Hampton Roads VA. one of the parties was a 21 and up. He had a little too much to drink. He was talking about sounding and decided to demonstrate on himself. He said females Could be sounded as well. I wrote him on FetLife saying I wanted to try it. We did at the next party and he tickled me naked in a hogtie later on in the party. Then we started dating and the rest was history. Him being one hundred percent okay with having an open relationship helped seal the deal. I knew I could never do a closed tight relationship. He felt the same way.

3. 4 years(I'm 26 now). 5 years is how long I've been playing. Been with him for about a year and a half now. Will be two years this fall.

4. He didn't necessarily have a foot or tickle fetish, but was very much in sensation play and he is a bit of a service top.

5. He considered tickling another form of sensation play and worships my feet because me being happy makes him happy.

 

[amandahaze]

What if you had a girl who was ticklish, but "hated" to be tickled, but you were so awesome a boyfriend/husband and she loved you so much, she LET you tickle her,
and what if you did it in such a way that she became converted to liking it?

I used to not think that was possible, I figured you were born with it or not, but as I live my life, I see it's possible to turn people on to stuff as it is to turn people off.

This is ME. First, OP, hang in there and do the part about becoming a quality person first--I can tell you that we ladies will tolerate a whole lot more crap from a good guy than from a jerk or loser.

And I hate being tickled, but I see the effect it has on my husband and I just have to let him do it. He does a lot of things for me in and out of the bedroom, and it's all part of a relationship. But the relationship has to come first.

 

[okdremur]

This is ME. First, OP, hang in there and do the part about becoming a quality person first--I can tell you that we ladies will tolerate a whole lot more crap from a good guy than from a jerk or loser.




And I hate being tickled, but I see the effect it has on my husband and I just have to let him do it. He does a lot of things for me in and out of the bedroom, and it's all part of a relationship. But the relationship has to come first.

Good call, you just described my relationship. My wife gets nothing from me lusting after her feet, or the tickling I do, other than she knows what it does for me. In turn, she is treated like my princess, and what we have works.

 

[maniactickler]

No.

 

[chicago]

I dont believe in fate, destiny, or the idea of soul mates. There are almost 7 billion people in the world, but finding someone you truly click with, on more than just a superficial level, takes work. The perfect woman is not going to fall into your lap out of the sky. A healthy relationship does not develop overnight. Rejection is an inevitable part of life, but you can't be afraid to take risks or get hurt because you probably won't get what you want out of life if you are.

I never had a problem finding guys to date, but inexperience and low self esteem lead me to believe that I was lucky that any asshole would pay me attention, so I settled for a lot of guys that treated me less than what I deserved. When I was younger, I was afraid of losing boyfriends over the dumbest things, thinking I'd never find someone as wonderful (totally blind to the fact that most were possessive, controlling, and emotionally manipulative) so I was not very open about the tickling thing, let alone my involvement here. Over time, I stopped worrying about how being into tickling sounded. I became more open about it. I would tell guys after a few dates, so that if they weren't into it, I could stop wasting either of our time and move on before feelings were involved. The more I was open about it, the easier it was to bring up, and the less ashamed I became. Being ashamed of who you are leads to repression which leads to obsession and then more shame and it's a vicious cycle that can end up making a person explode, or at the very least be really unsatisfied with their life.

After working on myself, both mentally and physically - figuring out what I wanted in life, building my confidence, etc - I realized that the whole point of living is to be happy, but that too takes work. It's completely worth it, though, versus just going through the motions every day. There's nothing that says you cant have it all, love and tickling and happiness. In my case, vanilla dudes were not doing it for me, so I became more active in the community, going to gatherings, chatting more. Long story short, I found someone I really love and !BONUS! I didnt have to explain, or worry about the reaction to, this tickling interest of ours, because he's a member too, so he totally gets it. Yeah, we had to do the long distance thing for a year, flying back and forth every month to see each other, and eventually I had to move 2000 miles to be with him, but you know what?

I'm happier than I've ever been (not just because I found someone into tickling, but because I fought and worked to make happiness a part of my life overall)

And it was totally worth it. Because nothing worth having comes easy. 🙂

 

[ISUmark]

I found someone I really love and !BONUS! I didnt have to explain, or worry about the reaction to, this tickling interest of ours, because he's a member too, so he totally gets it. Yeah, we had to do the long distance thing for a year, flying back and forth every month to see each other, and eventually I had to move 2000 miles to be with him, but you know what?

I'm happier than I've ever been (not just because I found someone into tickling, but because I fought and worked to make happiness a part of my life overall)

And it was totally worth it. Because nothing worth having comes easy. 🙂

In this exact same situation right now and couldn't be happier. Met a wonderful woman on here when I wasn't looking and we are doing the long distance/visiting each other thing right now until she moves here. It always seem to happen when you least expect it, and I couldn't be happier. Ive had plenty of success converting "vanilla" women but its much more fun and satisfying being with someone who actually "gets it" and isn't just going through the motions simply to please you. I feel like simply talking to people and getting to know them on here and the community is the key to success, because if you spend your time obessing over the personal section and wondering why you cant find someone then well, youre going to have a bad time.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

you may not find the one, but you can find an enabaler. that is someone that will help you live out your desires, because she loves you, and learns to enjoy the attention. my wife falls into this group. plus several other women i dallied with prior to meeting her. the key is how you approach it.

steve

 

[helplessandhappy]

I never had a problem finding guys to date, but inexperience and low self esteem lead me to believe that I was lucky that any asshole would pay me attention, so I settled for a lot of guys that treated me less than what I deserved. When I was younger, I was afraid of losing boyfriends over the dumbest things, thinking I'd never find someone as wonderful (totally blind to the fact that most were possessive, controlling, and emotionally manipulative) so I was not very open about the tickling thing, let alone my involvement here.

I have a very similar history. It took me a while to realize that life shouldn't actually be as hard as it was for me. I was dating people who were dragging me down into hell, making all their problems my problems and generally taking all of their misery out on me. When you're in that type of abusive situation, getting tickled or not is the last of your worries. I'm glad you were able to escape those types of relationships and work on yourself to find happiness. Believe me, I know just how hard that is. 🙂

In this exact same situation right now and couldn't be happier. Met a wonderful woman on here when I wasn't looking and we are doing the long distance/visiting each other thing right now until she moves here. It always seem to happen when you least expect it, and I couldn't be happier. Ive had plenty of success converting "vanilla" women but its much more fun and satisfying being with someone who actually "gets it" and isn't just going through the motions simply to please you. I feel like simply talking to people and getting to know them on here and the community is the key to success, because if you spend your time obessing over the personal section and wondering why you cant find someone then well, youre going to have a bad time.

To answer the op, I met ^^^^ this wonderful person on the site. 🙂 I wasn't searching. I was barely getting out of a serious relationship a few months before and this was the first time I'd been open to flirting with guys, so I figured, why not start with the kinky guys? It seemed a lot better than the "singles" scene. I didn't really think anything would happen. I mentioned I was single on a post on here, and a flood of messages occurred. I talked to a lot of different people, but he stood out. I wasn't really ready to meet anyone for a serious relationship, but he was so god damn awesome and sweet I decided I had to hold onto him. 🙂 🙂 🙂

 

[piyr]

I dont believe in fate, destiny, or the idea of soul mates. There are almost 7 billion people in the world, but finding someone you truly click with, on more than just a superficial level, takes work. The perfect woman is not going to fall into your lap out of the sky. A healthy relationship does not develop overnight. Rejection is an inevitable part of life, but you can't be afraid to take risks or get hurt because you probably won't get what you want out of life if you are.

...

I'm happier than I've ever been (... because I fought and worked to make happiness a part of my life overall)

And it was totally worth it. Because nothing worth having comes easy. 🙂

This, including what was in between that I deleted to save space.

I would only add that not every woman that you could love or who could love you will let you tickle them to your satisfaction regardless of your feelings for each other. As much as the need may be for you, she may have just as strong a reaction against it. Is is possible that you'll find someone who will give you everything you want out of love? Sure, but you are severely limiting yourself AND THAT'S OK. You may be an otherwise happy person but like many here, your lack of ability to change who you are is causing you distress in your personal life. For a long time I didn't give in to who I was in exchange for relationships. It doesn't work. We don't need to share who we are with the world but we need to accept who we are to be happy. Easier said than done I know.

 

[kingofkaboom]

I've asked myself the same questions and I've been searching hard to find the right one. I could not picture myself being with someone at least moderately into my fetishes. The relationship simply would not work if both partners aren't getting any satisfaction out of it. However, I have seen people willing to change for the sake of their significant other's fetishes. Learning to like your partner's fetishes is an act of true love (the way I see it). I'm hoping that TMF and FetLife are good places to start in my search of finding someone.

 

[Mane'o]

sure, OP, it is possible. I am in one of those relationships. The relationship came first, the attraction, the chemistry, the liking, the friendship, the common sharing. Then came the physical and the fetish. Didn't meet here or any other online site or any real life fetish meeting or place. Just regular meeting someone through the normal course of daily life. Didn't hide the interest in tickling and there were indications along the path of friendship, romance and love (like her mentioning her ticklishness, kicking off her shoes whenever she could and so forth) but that wasn't the main focus. Life is not 100% tickling or, rather, if it is for someone than that might be a problem. When you aren't getting any, be it tickling or plain old sex or anything else important to you, then it can seem to loom large and consuming in your life but don't let it control you. If the single focal point for a relationship is tickling or big boobs or whatever, it is likely there will come a point when she may logically ask, is it me you love or just my boobs or, in this case, is it me you love or just my ticklishness? If tickling is the be-all, end-all for you, then save time, don't look for a long term relationship, look for momentary, totally physical encounters with women who share your tickle fetish. A bunch of one night stands and nothing meaningful beyond the moment. Or invest the time in a full human relationship and you may end up one day in a relationship where she, like my wife, is literally tickled pink being in the relationship.