Is it ok to get people to tickle you?

[-Hari-]

rhiannon inspired, see Getting people to tickle you

What are your opinions on this:

Is it ok to get people to tickle you unawares of what your fetish is?

Is tickling always sexual to you or is it innocently playful between friends?

Does it matter more how you view it or how they might if they knew?

"Ignorance is bliss", does it matter if its not hurting anyone?

Discuss,

papers in by monday morning and if your all good we`ll just go ahead and watch a DVD instead of lessons. 😛

Anyone seen my pen?

 

[rhiannon]

LOL....I like to be your inspiration! 😀

Is it ok to get people to tickle you unawares of what your fetish is?

I don't think it is okay, just like I don't think it is okay to tickle people if it turns you on and they aren't aware of it.

Is tickling always sexual to you or is it innocently playful between friends?

It is always sexual to me. I do not like to be tickled by people I wouldn't consider a sex partner.

Does it matter more how you view it or how they might if they knew?

It matters more how they view it if they knew; if they would still go for it if they knew - fine. If they wouldn't, then I feel like it is plain wrong, because you are tricking them into doing something that they wouldn't do if they knew the whole background.

"Ignorance is bliss", does it matter if its not hurting anyone?

Just because they don't know and nobody gets harmed doesn't mean it's right! Just look at it from this point of view: the person who tickles you or who you tickle is minor! The person doesn't know it turns you on, the person enjoys it, the person isn't harmed. Does that make it right?


And here's your pen, I found it. 🙂

 

[-Hari-]

And here's your pen, I found it. 🙂

ah ha!! thankyou! (little did she know, ive got a lost pen fetish)

 

[-Hari-]

One last question while we`re at it.

My fetish effects me across the board but not always sexually,

ticklign isnt sexual to me unless it *is* sexual, the playful tickling just becomes my favorite game.

So there are people that simply enjoy play tickling more as its a greater part of theyre life.

Now, is it ok in your opinion for someone with my outlook to engage in tickling with people who arnt aware?

 

[rhiannon]

As long as it doesn't cause sexual arousal, it is okay. But if something that usually is innocent causes sexual arousal and you use other people's unsuspicion to gratify your own sexual needs, it is not okay!

 

[-Hari-]

Good, I agree there.

So I guess the real issue is how honest are people with themselves?

 

[rhiannon]

I think people can tell very well when something is arousing to them; some might just be afraid to lose a way of getting what they need by being honest to others!

 

[-Hari-]

Oh I dont question that for a second, but do they always accept it?

 

[rhiannon]

Good question! I often get the feeling that a lot of people here don't. 🙂

 

[-Hari-]

interesting, and I got my pen back, this is a good day 🙂

 

[Lucid Insanity]

*Puts on mask of seriousness*

My best friend does not know that i have a tickling fetish, & i tickle her/she tickles me fairly often. I'd like to think of it as just playful, as i have no sexual desire towards her, and i always find it more playful than sexual. I admit, however, i sometimes find myself wondering whether i am in the right with that.

What i don't agree with is getting someone who isn't aware to tickle you with the intention of sexual arousal.

*takes off mask of seriousness*

Now, where was i?

 

[rhiannon]

It's easy if you're a guy.....if you get a hard-on while tickling or get tickled by someone, it's WRONG! 🙂

 

[Mephistopheles]

Sure, it's fine if they do, but they won't survive it when I retaliate.

 

[Lucid Insanity]

It's easy if you're a guy.....if you get a hard-on while tickling or get tickled by someone, it's WRONG! 🙂

You have a fair point there.

But what if, the intention is not there, but said hard-on is beyond your control?

 

[-Hari-]

You have a fair point there.

But what if, the intention is not there, but said hard-on is beyond your control?

then your clearly turned on by whats happening, the principle remains the same.

 

[rhiannon]

But what if, the intention is not there, but said hard-on is beyond your control?

Usually you know what turns you on, don't you?

It's like going to a strip club saying "Oh, I didn't go there to see naked boobs!"

 

[Lucid Insanity]

Yes...but the being turned on is a product of animalistic instinct. If it's not our intention to be so does that make it wrong?

I confess to being turned on occasionally, but then i find myself feeling rather ill.

Edit: And i don't go to strip clubs to see naked boobs, so if i see any it always surprises me 😛

 

[Ghris]

It's easy if you're a guy.....if you get a hard-on while tickling or get tickled by someone, it's WRONG! 🙂

Except it's not always that simple - it isn't necessarily the tickling causing it. Hypothetically speaking, say a couple of fairly attractive girls pinned a guy down with intent to tickle him for whatever reason, he might be turned on by the girls pinning him down as opposed to the tickling. In this eventuality, how can you blame the guy - noting it may not be totally consensual?

Anyway. In response to the original thread questions.

Is it ok to get people to tickle you unawares of what your fetish is?

Depends on the situation. "Is it OK to get people to tickle you in such a way you're getting off on it" is totally different to "is it OK to get into a playful tickle fight or something with someone."

Is tickling always sexual to you or is it innocently playful between friends?

Not always sexual - I can easily differentiate between the two forms. While yes, in some situations it IS sexual, in others it's a simple bonding activity.

Does it matter more how you view it or how they might if they knew?

Assuming the person in question is finding it sexual: it matters, to be honest, more of the fetishist views it.

"Ignorance is bliss", does it matter if its not hurting anyone?

To some extent, yes. To some, no. Again, in the case of spontaneous tickling between friends, it's hard to say - I mean, saying "stop" won't necessarily accomplish anything, while saying "stop, seriously, this is a huge turnon" could get just as bad as the person finding out in another way. Depends how long it's likely to last, I suppose.



Really, it depends on the people involved. Assuming someone can differentiate between sexual and non-sexual tickling, and doesn't class something as sexual, then it's OK. Sure, it might still be a lot of fun, but in a different way - just because you have a kink, doesn't mean that that action will always turn you on or whatever.

However, if someone is deliberately using someone who doesn't know for their own sexual aggrandisement, then it's wrong. End of. The tricky bit is determining what is "deliberate..."

 

[goddess_nemesis]

Is it ok to get people to tickle you unawares of what your fetish is?

Is tickling always sexual to you or is it innocently playful between friends?

Does it matter more how you view it or how they might if they knew?

"Ignorance is bliss", does it matter if its not hurting anyone?

Depends on why you're doing it. If it's for a sexual high or if you're just being playful. If you're doing it because it turns you on, then it's wrong. If you're doing it just to be playful, then there's a little more leeway, I think.

For me I can separate the sexual from the playful. I've never deliberately gotten my friends to tickle me while we were growing up, even after I realized that I liked tickling. Telling them to stop just encouraged them, but I never got turned on by them. They were my friends; they were as close to me as sisters.

 

[rhiannon]

Except it's not always that simple - it isn't necessarily the tickling causing it. Hypothetically speaking, say a couple of fairly attractive girls pinned a guy down with intent to tickle him for whatever reason, he might be turned on by the girls pinning him down as opposed to the tickling. In this eventuality, how can you blame the guy - noting it may not be totally consensual?

That would be different since the guy didn't provoke it to happen. It would be different if he knew it would turn him on and provoked the girls into doing that!

Right now it looks like we all have the same opinion about the situation I think.

 

[*giggles*]

Is it ok to get people to tickle you unawares of what your fetish is?

i'd agree with everyone who's said it depends on what you're intentions are. if you are provoking tickling for sexual arousal of some sort, and the other party isn't aware of it, i'd consider it wrong. if you're just in a playful mood and have no intentions beyond a playful tickle fight, i don't see harm in it.

Is tickling always sexual to you or is it innocently playful between friends?

tickling isn't always sexual to me, but it can turn me on whether i want it to or not. for this reason, i wouldn't want anyone other than my boyfriend to tickle me with any sort of length or intensity, and he prefers to be the only one to tickle me at all, so that's where that stands.

Does it matter more how you view it or how they might if they knew?

i'm not really sure about this one. if people knew needlessly, it could cause friction between friends or even cause the end of friendships. i don't see a reason to advertise your kink, unless you plan to incorporate it into that particular relationship. i know many people can fully separate sexual tickling from innocent tickling, and for that, i think (in a perfect world, where everyone were honest with themselves and others) that it matters more to the person provoking the tickling.

"Ignorance is bliss", does it matter if its not hurting anyone?

if you knowingly get someone to do something to you that invokes sexual arousal without their consent or knowledge? no, i don't agree with this.