Is She One Of US?

[Chuck D]

I would pick up the feather and twirl it a bit.. then look at her and say, "So you must like to tickle people"

 

[Redmage]

Bugman, several folks have suggested that you just express some honest curiosity about why she likes feathers so much. That seems like the most straightforward way to me, even though she's not likely to say "Because I like tickling." You'll have to keep your ears and eyes tuned for non-verbal cues. But I gather you aren't keen on this idea. Mind if I ask why?

 

[Bugman]

Bugman, several folks have suggested that you just express some honest curiosity about why she likes feathers so much. That seems like the most straightforward way to me, even though she's not likely to say "Because I like tickling." You'll have to keep your ears and eyes tuned for non-verbal cues. But I gather you aren't keen on this idea. Mind if I ask why?

I'm a bit leary about the whole thing i guess in part because of the age difference,and the fact that she is one of my managers.You just have to be so careful in the workplace anymore.And,she is still rather new at the job.Perhaps when we get to know each other better i will find it easier to take the approach suggested.

 

[Redmage]

I'm a bit leary about the whole thing i guess in part because of the age difference,and the fact that she is one of my managers.You just have to be so careful in the workplace anymore.

I can understand that. But I'm thinking that of all the possible approaches that one is the most discreet and the least likely to be taken the wrong way. It's just a reasonable expression of curiosity about an unusual affectation of hers. How much she reveals is completely up to her.

 

[Pokey]

B'man, for what its worth, I think it totally depends on the work relationship you and she have. sometimes we have a respectful but standoffish relationship and it would forever be a don't ask; sometimes we have a work relationship that is verbally playful while still being respectful, especially if she is appreciative of your work, as I am sure she is. I always liked the verbal sparring with someone I got along, eventually working it to the point of saying, you know, you are lucky Ms. whatever, if I were your uncle and you are ticklish you would be in big trouble, hahaha. Actually, I've learned some fun information doing this in times past. But I trust you wouldn't do anything to jeopardize your work or I wouldn't even comment. Bring a photo to NEST and we'll do some voo-doo spell casting 😱

 

[Bugman]

Thanks redmage and Pokey,i think you guys are right.I might have a chance for her to give me a ride somewhere next week.I think i would feel more comfortable being away from the office if that makes any sense.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I think she really might be one of us. You could ask her nicely if she is one of us & it should be no big deal. Hopefully for your sake, hope she is and maybe you'll get to tickle her!

 

[StephanieLocke]

I Tend To Recommend

Erring on the side of caution. She IS your manager, she might be very offended if you ask her an inappropriate question or stare at her white socked, vulnerable feet too long.

A variation on this theme came up just this weekend with a friend of mine: he's a prominent Fire Chief, and she runs an entire city's department. On her filing cabinet is a sticker of the LEATHER FLAG, for those of you who don't know it's a flag that has black, blue and white stripes with a big red heart in the in the left corner. It's supposed to mean a person is into b&d.

In this case, my friend noticed it, almost made a comment like, "Nice to know you're part of the Community", but upon due reflection on her higher ranking, held his tongue.

Good thing he did. The next time he was in that particular town on business, he spoke to one of her Battalion Chiefs and said "What's with SO & SO and the Leather Flag?" His friend broke into laughter and said, she bought it somewhere a year and a half ago because she thought it was "pretty". She has NO idea what it means and no one dares tell her.

Your boss might be the same way. She might think feathers are pretty and soft, not a vehicle for tickling, talking to her about it could cost you your job.

On the other hand, if you take a date to a company event and "manage" to tickle her, just a little in front of your manager and she gets a glow in her eye or even lingers to watch, now you've get her attention, you've proven you're into it and she might even make the overture.

Mistress Stephanie Locke

p.s. I love the movie "Freaks" and often do the "One of us" speech. Horrifying moment in the movie though it is.

 

[TicklesFemales]

Bugman

Here again if you approach her in a non-working atmosphere there is no problem with sexual harrassment or anything. If you are off work and you are riding in her car that is the time to approach the subject about the feathers and her liking of them. Tell her you were wondering if she likes feathers because you noticed them in her car and on her desk at work. Tell her you like feathers too because you once had a girlfriend that liked being tickled by feathers, then if she responds in a positive way to that you in man. That is the best way to approach this whole thing. If she says nothing after you tell her about your ex-girlfriend liked being tickled with feathers then you know she is not one of us. But do this in a non-work environment when its just the two of you. She may respond after you tell her about your ex-girlfriend that she too enjoys being tickled by feathers, if so you in man!!!!!
Let me know how it turns out.

TicklesFemales

 

[Bugman]

An update on an old thread.After breaking an ankle while chasing her cat,who had swallowed a needle no less,she has left the company.This mystery will remain unsolved,at least in my case.

 

[ovation]

Now's your chance . . . go visit her and instead of the usual bunch of grapes, give her a large peacock feather! Now with a leg in plaster and the said limb raised off the ground, you could accidently trail the peacock feather accross her toes as you give it to her to see what sort of reaction you get? If you get that knowing smile - you'll know you can broach the subject . . . but then again . . . she may think it weird a work colleague just turned up at her house with a large feather in his hands, lol!

 

[Tickler Bart]

Just My Own Personal Opinion & Suggestion.

Usually when I see something of a tickling nature like a feather I WILL say this, 'Wow, nice feather."
After I delicately stroke the feather I say, "I can USE this."
At first they give me this quizical (sp) look.
Sometimes they ask, 'What do you mean 'USE' ?"
I tell them in not-so-many words.
Most of the time they just laugh & say that I am silly.
Ok, ALL of the time they say that. Hahaha.
If they ask that, then you can ask, "Well, what do YOU use it for?"
See what she says.

 

[AffectionateDan]

Seriously, Bug...

...you need to follow up on this, for your own peace of mind. You'll always wonder what might've been if you don't. And her being laid up, at least to me, gives you a perfect reason to visit her. She ought to be touched by your concern; more so for the fact that she doesn't work there anymore. This is an opportunity, bro. Don't let yourself regret letting it slip by ya!

 

[Bugman]

I have no idea where she lives,and there is not a phone # under her name.She might be living with a guy for all i know.And the company would not give out information on her address for obvious reasons.It's just one of those things...

 

[ElephantEye]

I have no idea where she lives,and there is not a phone # under her name.She might be living with a guy for all i know.And the company would not give out information on her address for obvious reasons.It's just one of those things...

Bug, after reading the whole thread, I think you made the right call being cautious. That's a pretty significant age gap for starters, and with her being your manager....

On top of the job risk issues, it's been my experience & observation that younger female managers don't tend to be attracted to far older male employees they supervise (often quite the opposite and not just in a physical sense), although I'm sure there are plenty of exceptions out there, and of course this is a completely different topic, fraught with stereotyping, political correctness, and non-tickling relativity.

Had you been her age or younger, I think you would've been safe dipping a cautious toe in the pool, although the most probable answer is that just really liked feathers. Of course, a lot of people don't know what they like until they find out more about it...

When I was 16-17 I had an errand running job to various offices around town. One office I went to daily had a very slender, attractive woman in her mid-twenties working there. She often wore a necklace with a feather on it, usually (but not always!) over a turtleneck top.

I had no money, confidence or experience with girls at the time & wasn't exactly much to look at, but I still am pretty sure(this was 25 years ago) I once said something like "nice necklace" to her, she said "thanks" and that was it, although she might have become even more businesslike to me than she already was.

Or maybe one of the old battle-axes in that office told her I was staring at her ass while she was getting something out of the file cabinet, and that's what made her more distant!

I used to imagine her wearing nothing but that necklace & coming towards me while I was tied to her bed....or her tied to her bed wearing nothing but the necklace! Maybe her boyfriend was a ler who 'ordered' her to wear it to work on tickle-nights so she could anticipate it throughout the day. Or maybe she just bought in vacation because she liked feathers.

Stephanie's story is hilarious. While I was reading it I was pretty sure she either didn't know it was even there, or didn't know what it was. Good call by him staying quiet, although i don't know if I could've.

That would be an interesting prank, placing stickers like that in people's offices.... We need someone to design tickling stickers, pronto!

 

[ovation]

I have no idea where she lives,and there is not a phone # under her name.She might be living with a guy for all i know.And the company would not give out information on her address for obvious reasons.It's just one of those things...

Maybe you'll bump into her one day mate . . . if you do you can always bring up the subject of the feathers and say you were always curious as to why she had so many around her in the work place - see what she says? Could lead onto the subject of her being one of us . . . ? Ya never know!

 

[drew70]

I would probably ask other people that knew her, but only at a casual moment, such as a lull in an existing conversation. "Say, you remember 'Ann,' don't you? Any idea what was up with all those feathers? I really used to wonder about that."

 

[chrisheaven]

hmm great feathers--- you say and then see how she responds

 

[brian42]

i think that its most likely coincidental