Is tickling equivalent to sex for you?

[rambophat31]

Did you know that you're Asexual when you got married?

No, I didn't even know the term existed then. I know I didn't like sex but didn't know a term was associated with it.

 

[nondato]

I consider it different from a complete sexual intercurse but in many cases its just what I am looking for. I can play tickling with people that I barely know but I would have a sexual intercurse only with a trusted person. So I would not say that is like sex for me but for sure is in my sexual sphere also like other kinks.

 

[Femaleleee]

ace lee here and agree with this!

 

[MakeMeLaugh92]

I guess so. I usually get aroused pretty quickly from just thinking about it. I get off quicker when jerkin it to tickling vs conventional porn, and when looking at conventional porn it almost always turns into a tickling fantasy.

I imagine if I were tickled I would probably climax without actual sex. Which, actually is something I'd rather not happen. I just want to enjoy being tickled for tickling's sake, and not think about having an orgasm.

 

[D-Tickler]

ace lee here and agree with this!

I'm glad to meet you here!
You're the 5th Asexual who has emerged in this thread😊
And may I ask about your romantic orientation?
I'm a bit curious about it, especially since I found that you seem to be a female lee who want to find a female ler (accoring to your profile).

 

[Femaleleee]

I'm glad to meet you here!
You're the 5th Asexual who has emerged in this thread😊
And may I ask about your romantic orientation?
I'm a bit curious about it, especially since I found that you seem to be a female lee who want to find a female ler (accoring to your profile).

Yeah, would be nice to have a female lee but also open to ace male ler. Looking for ace male lers too around my age preferably.

 

[D-Tickler]

Yeah, would be nice to have a female lee but also open to ace male ler. Looking for ace male lers too around my age preferably.

Sounds good!
I'm an ace male ler who's in his 30s.
However, we seem to be geographically distant.
I'm in Europe.
You seem to be in the area around New York of US, right?

 

[Femaleleee]

Sounds good!
I'm an ace male ler who's in his 30s.
However, we seem to be geographically distant.
I'm in Europe.
You seem to be in the area around New York of US, right?

yes we are distant sadly. I'm in NJ.

 

[duderino84]

yes we are distant sadly. I'm in NJ.

A fellow Jerseyan! Are you a north or south state-er (after all, they say there's no "central" part of the state!)?

 

[Aceswitch90]

As an asexual switch my answer is not sure haha let me explain

So being the ler or lee I wouldn’t say it’s the equivalent of sex to me. I don’t get arousal from switching. I get a mind “ arousal” cause I’m laughing so hard or I’m making someone laugh so hard. If that makes sense. Lol.

I hate being asked if tickling turns me on cause I don’t like/ do this for arousal purposes.

 

[nayfeliciano.]

You’re not nuts at all. I feel the exact same way.

Tickling is very sexual for me, but it doesn’t feel like “intercourse” in the normal sense. It’s its own thing — intense, vulnerable, playful, and deeply arousing in a way regular sex sometimes isn’t. I’ve had great sex with people who weren’t into tickling, but it always felt like something was missing.

I also don’t want to force a full romantic commitment just because I want someone who can tie me up and tickle me silly for hours, or let me do the same to them. I just want a partner (or play partner) who gets it, smiles about it, and is happy to take turns wrecking each other.

So no, you’re not alone. A lot of us in the scene are looking for that specific connection where tickling is a big part of the intimacy, not just an add-on.

Have you had any luck finding people who are on the same page?

 

[NikeFeets]

it is TOTALLY sexual for me, I love being slowly stripped either just barefoot or totally naked and getting tickled, as soon as someone goes for my shoelaces I am instantly erect! love the feeling of the shoes and socks coming off, anticipating that first touch! love getting soft ,sensual, gentle, erotic tickles on my feet and toes all the way up my legs. love long tickle sessions with kinky play and happy endings!! (male for male tickling only)

 

[D-Tickler]

As an asexual switch my answer is not sure haha let me explain

So being the ler or lee I wouldn’t say it’s the equivalent of sex to me. I don’t get arousal from switching. I get a mind “ arousal” cause I’m laughing so hard or I’m making someone laugh so hard. If that makes sense. Lol.

I hate being asked if tickling turns me on cause I don’t like/ do this for arousal purposes.

Welcome on this site (I found that you just joined here several days ago)!
You're the 10th confirmed Asexual person on this site.
And you may find more Asexual ppl's self-reflections in the following thread:

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Thread 'So I believe I am a gay asexual with a tickle fetish'

Apr 29, 2026

Greetings everyone I am new to the forums and I would like to introduce myself I am a 25 year old single gay man from Sweden on the autism spectrum and I also have ADHD and I was diagnosed as a child with what used to be called aspergers syndrome.

I really like feet and tickle fetish content especially furry/anthropomorphic tickle fetish content as I always have tons of tabs open on my phones browser with furaffinity links that I can masturbate to such as this one
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/64766240

I am not turned on by watching videos of gay sex and I tried to do it...

• Swedish_gay_aspie
• Replies: 12
• Forum: Tickling Discussion

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Moreover, I've found that different Asexual individuals can have quite diverse levels of reactions & receptions about the physical & fetish related intimacy (Such a diversity is often shown in the Asexual communities as well).
Some Asexuals here, including me, just simply see our tickle fetishes as the replacement for sex activities.
But your condition is obliviously more complex.