It's easier for a ticklee to find a tickler than the opposite.

[boywannatickled]

I'm a male ticklee new to U.S. as a college student. Back in my country, I've played tickling game for like three times. In here, I also have played twice. All with Chinese girls. That is strange. Based on my understanding, western girls should be more open than eastern girls. But it's seems like not true.

 

[ticklemeplaese7]

You can say that again.

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

Tell us more about these tickling episodes you experienced with Chinese girls. I might wish to visit while my Visa is still good.

 

[chicag0]

In the vanilla world, it's always easier to ask someone to implement torture than endure it.

 

[tklvelvet]

I find Chinese and Japanese girls very attractive both to tickle and tie.

 

[Ticklish&InLove]

I guess I wouldn't agree. Trying to tell a partner that you want them to take an above average dominant role in the physical relationship can be embarrassing....after all Lee/Ler-ing is a version of the bondage kink. I had a very hard time even approaching my husband about the fact I wanted him to indulge this fetish as Id heard from other female Lers how their husbands and boyfriends had been so weirded out by anything non-vanilla that they'd been divorced or dumped after being informed. Thankfully, my hubby finds it "cute", do I'm lucky. But not being a natural Ler, he won't ever tickle me in the merciless way I crave, and I have to be okay with that. So when you say finding a Ler is easier than a Lee, I think we have to make a very big differentiation between finding someone wiling to tickle and finding someone who is a natural dominate.

 

[chicag0]

Thats why I always felt it best to bring up early in the relationship. Easier on both parties to make the decision to go further or not if there arent serious feelings involved yet. Tickling is important to me - not the end all, be all - but I could never just settle. Forced me to have many uncomfortable conversations but better a bit of awkwardness than years of dissatisfaction in my opinion. No risk, no reward.

 

[Ticklish&InLove]

Thats why I always felt it best to bring up early in the relationship. Easier on both parties to make the decision to go further or not if there arent serious feelings involved yet. Tickling is important to me - not the end all, be all - but I could never just settle. Forced me to have many uncomfortable conversations but better a bit of awkwardness than years of dissatisfaction in my opinion. No risk, no reward.

I don't see it as "settling" at all. I love my husband deeply. But when we got together I wouldn't even admit I had a kinky side to myself. He helped me to admit it....ironically, he tickled me till I told him what it was, and then got a good laugh at the irony of it!:lol

 

[sockticklingguy1]

Isn't it easier just to tickle someone? Asking to be tickled seems more difficult to me.