Just venting

[some1somewhere]

For those who have tried the internet dating sites, you can relate to this. Often times this things start by simply emailing each other, sometimes for a long time, before you start talking to each other on the phone and really get to know each other. I really don't consider email to be an actuate way to get to know someone. Well, to make a random venting short, I was emailing a lady for a while. I enjoyed them a lot, they were often pages long. And then out of no where, the dreaded "I don't think we have chemistry" line. That is fine if we don't, but don't you just hate it when it happens, especially when you are only emailing at the time. You start looking over every little line, wondering if you said something wrong, offended them in this way or not. You wonder who one could make such an assessment without even the more lifelike conversation of a phone call. Oh well, such is life. I guess that I have learned that my value as a human being is static and not dependent upon my relationship, or lack of, to someone else. In other words no one can add to my value, nor for lack of, take away my intrinsic value. I guess it does bother me still, because we do tend need to feel wanted by someone else, and my total lack of any relationship of that kind makes me a little more sensitive to rejection. Luckily, it wasn't just after they saw my photo, but it leaves open the question, and not giving a specific reason which could allow for a solution. But alas, as I said such is life.

Enough with my venting, I'll fade away back into the shadows.

 

[Sultrybrunette]

I have been a member of some of those sites and yes it gets to be a pain in the ass. I am upfront with guys and tell them why I don't want to talk to them anymore and a specific reason. Yes, its usually something they type but its also usually at the beginning. I don't let it go on. If it has gotten to that point I usually stay with it. Unfortunately, I have had the same thing happen to me here. Guys will start exchanging messages, chat in the chat room then all of a sudden....nothing. I guess that is just part of being on the internet. Your not alone and its not gender specific.

 

[Moses25]

Dude,

You sound like an intelligent, insightful gentleman. I'm sure you'll find the "right" woman someday soon. If not, you can always have a go at some of the nasties on this board...

LOL!!

Cheers. 🙂

 

[isabeau]

dont let this get you down, if she didnt have the manners to tell you why you didnt connect, thats her problem. you seem nice to me and dont give up, you will find someone eventually im sure. and hey to the person up above me, what nasties are you referring to? lol anyway somewhere, keep trying i know this sounds trite but it could work.

isabeau

 

[unit5610]

Some1...I went through this with a couple of long-distance (but within a day's drive) relationships back in the stone age before the internet so I can relate. Its hard on line/long-distance because when you don't see someone in person its a little harder to tell what they're really thinking or if they truly mean what they say. Good luck...you have a good attitude and something will happen that's better for you down the road.

 

[MrMacphisto]

Good luck with the dating thing. This may sound old fashioned, but I still prefer meeting girls through my friends. Most of my girlfriends have been women that I initially met as a "friend of a friend." The benefits to meeting women this way is that the friends that serve as intermediaries between you and the woman in question can often determine beforehand if you're compatible with each other, and they can inform you of any psychological quirks that the girl has. This method has often saved me the pain of entering a relationship that would never work, but it has also allowed me to meet up with women whom things did work out with -- for a short while, at least....

By the way, thanks for finding all those Magic Touch clips in the requests section. They brought back some memories... 😀