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Ladies: has this happened to you here?

Lickle Me Lacie

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I joined the TMF at the suggestion of a photographer who raved about it. So far, 99% of the replies and welcome messages have been very polite. It made me feel that I found the right place to make friends and exchange ideas.

I got a proposal that was obviously a Ler just trying to hook-up. I may be young, but I'm not naive. I'm not going to allow myself to be bound or restrained by a stranger who just might become a real producer in the future. Being a model does not mean that I'm a (to use his word) "*****". Take note that my signature is a humorous jab at bad grammar.

I will not out him by posting his name. I am posting two of his replies to me followed by my replies.

Since I'm new here, I'm not quite sure how to handle this. I'd like your opinions.

Thanks.
("*" added by me. He used the actual profanity)

f*** you c*** eat sh** i dont need this to hook up check my pics its *****s like you that make it hard for nice guys like us to have fun with fetish and i didnt call you cute you are ok looking at best f*** off shove the english lesson up your a**

Real producers, like the pros who were quick to offer assignments to me, were nothing less than polite, well spoken, and truly professional.

Your response shows me that I made the right decision by deciding NOT to accept your questionable proposal.

yours showed nothing but rude and arrogant behavior im more than glad you chose not to i wouldnt waste a dime on a peice of garbage like you

My psychologist b/f analysed your replies.

Your nonsensical attacks are typical of misogynistic behavior.

Your superior dominant personality can't handle it when a woman stands up to you. Did your mom yell at you and embarrass you as a child? Did your female classmates disrespect you? You seem to have an inner hatred for women that makes you desire to be in control and torture them for reasons other than play.

Your username screams of a person who needs to advertise that he is "built" -- needing to gain kudos up front.

You should see a psychologist, psychiatrist, or another mental health professional before you actually hurt someone, or even if you've already caused someone harm.

I'll say a prayer for you.

~Lonvi
 
I'm sorry about that message! But sometimes I just get so damned frustrated!

😉
 
My opinion is that he's just an ass. Just ignore him and know that you're right, most of the people on here are wonderful!

He's probably mad because he didn't get laid last night or something :jester:
 
WTF!?!? Getting stuff like that would've scared me off of here as a new member. Thankfully the small handful of weirdos waited until I had gotten to know that the majority of people on here are wonderful before posting strange stuff to me. That sh** is entirely uncalled for. If it was me, I'd thinking about letting a Mod know, but trash like that isn't worth the effort. Just know that somewhere in the real world having a mouth and attitude like that is hopefully getting him smacked around by some guy tougher than him, since he obviously thinks he can talk sh** to women with no repercussions.
 
He's probably mad because he didn't get laid last night or something :jester:

Something tells me it's been longer than just last night 😀

Lonvi, it seems like you handled this well enough with your replies, although just ignoring them usually works too. If he keeps harassing you, take it to the mods. Seems like he's a good candidate for the PM Hall of Shame.
 
OH brother :facepalm: How low can you go? :disgust: I agree Poopies... Hall of Shamer there for sure!
 
You can report him or just ignore him.You handled the situation beautifully.Welcome to the TMF
 
I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through this.

Unfortunately, in every realm of fetishism, there will always be jerk-offs (similar to the person you've corresponded with) that will give each fetish a bad name from time-to-time.

Don't let it alter your perception of the TMF...

This really is a wonderful place...but be prepared...since you're a woman, you'll probably get hit on quite frequently.

If someone is being inappropriate, just report them; the mods won't put up with that shit.

Have a great week...

:toast:
 
Wow! That was harsh!

Don't think he should have quite gone that far. Maybe he was having a bad night.
 
Obvious guy says, "That's sure no way to win a young lady over." Sorry about the negative experience. Seems like you have a good head on your shoulders, though.
 
First let me say welcome to the forum. Stick around and you'll come to realize this place has way more great people in it then jerks.

You handled that situation very well. As the others have said the mods won't put up with that kinda crap and there is always the option of putting people on your ignore list.
 
As an answer to your OP, yes it has happened to me and many other women in this forum. Know that not every man doesn't act like a drooling dog in heat; there are many gentlemen who know how to approach a lady around here.

Looks like you can handle yourself well; I had to grow a spine so I can handle the knuckleheads. Welcome to the TMF and you'll have a great time here. Take off your shoes and stay awhile........... :feets:
 
My opinion is that he's just an ass. Just ignore him and know that you're right, most of the people on here are wonderful!

He's probably mad because he didn't get laid last night or something :jester:

You are friends with him...

But yeah...

How do you report people? I went to his page and I can't find a link to report...
I am new, so I haven't done much...

Thank you all for your support. I just hate feeling like I am dealing with a few five year olds... *sigh*

I used to baby-sit when I was younger, and I feel like I have to do it again.

He was the only obscene one I have run across, but he won't quit messaging me!! :Grrr:
 
Hi Lonvi,

I've never actually had to report anyone on the forum myself, so I'm not sure if there is any type of report button, as it were. You could always forward the offending e-mails to one or more of our moderators, just so they're aware of the problem. They're good people who will be happy to help you out. 🙂
 
The exclamation point on the upper right corner of a post.
Just click on that, and that's how you report someone.
 
Thank you!! (^_^)

Lonvi, I've checked your sig and you are a woman after my heart! I don't do well with netspeak......if that's what you want to call it!

You go girl! You're going to be just fine around here. PM me anytime you need to.:lion:
 
Lonvi, welcome to the forum.

I'm very sorry to hear about the guy who sent you that message. My advice would be to forward his message to Myriads, who is the head moderator. I'm sure he will help you. There is also the ignore button to deal with people who send you messages like that.

You mentioned 99% of your welcome messages being nice. That doesn't surprise me. The majority of the people on this forum are very kind and welcoming.

In a forum of over 90,000 people, there are bound to be a few jerks. Just ignore the jerks, use the ignore button, and focus in on the majority of the good people on this site.

I hope you enjoy the forum.

Mitch
 
As so many have pointed out... You handled that with grace and style. Definitely report him to the Mods.

It's guys like that who drive off the women from this forum. Long ago I had a guy who got absolutely rude with me for the same reason - I wouldn't meet with him. Fortunately most of the men here are GENTLEMEN but us ladies will always run into a creep like that every so often. Sorry you had to deal with it though.

Jan
 
Put annoying people on your Ignore List.

Forward obscene and threatening private messages to Myriads or one of the Moderators.

And enjoy the TMF, 99% of the people here are wonderful. 😀
 
Look RIGHT of the Post Number.

The exclamation point on the upper right corner of a post.
Just click on that, and that's how you report someone.

^Like BrightEyes says: Click on it to report people who send you inappropriate messages.^

Enjoy your stay here.:bow2:
 
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