Life and Tickling

[pitticklinger1]

I really don't know what to do anymore... I told my girlfriend about the fetish and for a while she would let me tickle her (not to much, but enough where i was satisfied) and it was all good. Now when i ask her she says how weird it is, and how uncomfortable it is asking her, and i know how much she REALLY hates it. Also, if I even so much as think about tickling another girl she gets mad and hits me, what should I do? Tickling is like running my life, how do you all balance it out, do you? I find it so hard. Is there anyway I can think about it less? Because I know I can't get rid of it, but I am tired of the awkwardness of asking my girlfriend to let me tickle her and yeah.

Any suggestions would be very helpful! Thanks in advance!

 

[Camel26]

Are you able to do things sexually with her that do not involve tickling?

I find taking extra time, and going out of my way to do whatever my lady likes in bed, at random times, lets her know that a) I'm attracted to her as a woman, and b) it isn't just tickling her/her tickling me that turns me on...trust me, it helps!!!

Or just talk to her...talking is good...listening is even better...find out why the sudden change...listening is sexy...

Best of luck!

 

[pitticklinger1]

we are not sexually active. We masturbate each other and that is as far as that goes. When ever I ask her, she never give me a direct answer. She always says she doesn't know, its just weird, or its is just unnatural or something like that.

 

[luv2tikl]

Sounds to me like she's not accepting you for who you are... I mean, she doesn't and shouldn't necessarily have to do it if she doesn't want, but she also doesn't have to make you feel bad about it, either. Everyone is different. My girl doesn't like me to tickle her feet, and, it's hard to deal with but, if she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it no matter how much you do.

Pretty much, you have to decide if you can sacrifice the tickling for her or not. From you post, it looks like that's what your willing to do, but, If not, you might just have to find someone who can give you what you want (I'm not saying to cheat, but, to consider seeing different people). Really, that's what it comes down to...

As for not thinking about it as much... I really don't know, I haven't tried. My best answer is limit how much you come here or view tickling related media. Sounds harsh, but, the less of it you put in your head, the less you'll dwell on it. Kinda like GIGO (Garbage in, garbage out) except without the garbage.

 

[pitticklinger1]

yeah, i guess you're right... I really love her and tickling but i dont think tickling is worth losing her. I might just have to take your advice and take fewer trips to this site... Hurts me to say lol.


thanks again

 

[duck171]

Sounds like the relationship you are in (not being sexually active) might be too conservative to include tickling. She may see it as deviant and thus may not enjoy it.

 

[3xPIN]

This seems like something you should write into Savage Love. Dan Savage would have better advise for you than I would; but, I have this to say:

1. You have to know if this is a fetish, a kink, a passing fancy or a fixation. It's obviously more than a passing fancy and at least a kink. But a true "fetish" (psychologically speaking) means you need it to become aroused. But if it is beginning to "run your life" it seems like a fixation. And that could be unhealthy. Get to know yourself and the seveirity of you tickle fetish.

2. I had a simaliar relationship that lasted a long while. I came out about my kink, which I enjoy both 'lee and 'ler. She placated my 'lee activities, which I eventually found she wasn't into on my own. But she was into me being a 'lee till the end of our relationship. Is she into tickling you? If that also weirds her out, you don't really have much with this girl in terms of your kinky lifestyle.

3. Try doing other things with her sexually and try to integrate tickling in with her consent.

4. As for the other girls thing: she has every right to be a little jealous. But likewise if she won't let you satisfy your urges, it serves her right. You kind of need to get your fix.

5. The "tickling thing" is weird by the social norm. Most woman who do not have a tickle fetish or something similiar to it, will not want to do this with you. However, your girlfriend should be game to make you happy, even if it makes her feel weird.

6. Get to know her. find out if the relationship is worth staying in for the long haul. if not, this little tickle scuffle may just be one of many things that is telling you to end the relationship.

 

[sole seeker1]

Dude - you are who you are.

IMHO, the best advice is to find someone who enjoys who you are. You probably won't be happy long-term in any relationship that doesn't respect your wants and fulfill your needs.

On the other hand, if you truly love her, your only option is to accept that she won't be a part of your tickling requirement. Good luck repressing it - you'll probably have to seek fulfillment for that elsewhere, like so many of us on this forum do.

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

I really don't know what to do anymore... I told my girlfriend about the fetish and for a while she would let me tickle her (not to much, but enough where i was satisfied) and it was all good. Now when i ask her she says how weird it is, and how uncomfortable it is asking her, and i know how much she REALLY hates it. Also, if I even so much as think about tickling another girl she gets mad and hits me, what should I do? Tickling is like running my life, how do you all balance it out, do you? I find it so hard. Is there anyway I can think about it less? Because I know I can't get rid of it, but I am tired of the awkwardness of asking my girlfriend to let me tickle her and yeah.

Any suggestions would be very helpful! Thanks in advance!

Maybe you can get her to let you have a tickle friend by telling her it is just a friend to help you indulge your fetish and that it will be nothing more then a friend