I'll try to be brief. This fetish brings a bit of complication to relationships. 1) You have a fetish, and any normal person would want to indulge in their fetish, right? Especially this one. There's a lot more fetishes out there that would be considered unacceptable to a regular person (um... like, poop). I do not think bondage and tickling is unreasonable. 2) You get into a relationship but the other person just doesn't get it. They don't understand how important it is to you. You keep bringing it up, but the days turn to weeks, then the weeks turn to months. Soon enough, a year has gone by since the last time you got to do it. You didn't even get it for your birthday, or Christmas. You are starting to think the other person doesn't love you very much.
Well, this is how it has been for me. I've been in a relationship for a few years. Don't get me wrong. This woman claimed (emphasis on "claimed") to have the same fetish. It would be more understandable to me if they had no clue. In the beginning it was pretty good. Now it just sucks. If I never brought it up again, this woman would gladly let the years go by without it ever crossing her mind. It has made me increasingly bitter and resentful, and it's starting to show. Everything is overshadowed by this now. If she can't put forth the effort, why should I?
I'm thinking about leaving. But what is the point? The next person would probably be the same. Maybe it is just me. What do you think? What am I supposed to do? Learn to live without it? Hire a professional to give me what she won't? I'm at a loss... I feel like giving up completely.
Well, this is how it has been for me. I've been in a relationship for a few years. Don't get me wrong. This woman claimed (emphasis on "claimed") to have the same fetish. It would be more understandable to me if they had no clue. In the beginning it was pretty good. Now it just sucks. If I never brought it up again, this woman would gladly let the years go by without it ever crossing her mind. It has made me increasingly bitter and resentful, and it's starting to show. Everything is overshadowed by this now. If she can't put forth the effort, why should I?
I'm thinking about leaving. But what is the point? The next person would probably be the same. Maybe it is just me. What do you think? What am I supposed to do? Learn to live without it? Hire a professional to give me what she won't? I'm at a loss... I feel like giving up completely.