denver_tickler
TMF Novice
- Joined
- Feb 25, 2007
- Messages
- 61
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So, I've been a member here for a little over a year and a half. I've participated in the threads where I felt like I had something to contribute. I've tried the chat out a few times, but usually leave after I say "hi" and no one responds. I've sent PMs to people on occasion when it seems like we have similar interests or wanted to take a conversation outside of a thread... Yet, I still haven't made a single friend on this site.
I'm not very good at making new friends in real life either. Not that I'm unfriendly or unkind or anything like that... I'm just a fairly private person and I tend to put most of my energy into my current friendships rather than seek out new ones. Having a pretty unhealthy case of social anxiety doesn't seem to help with that either... I thought it would be easier to meet people on-line (specifically on the TMF), especially since I know that we all share at least ONE common interest on here, but my poor social skills seem to extend to here as well.
I've seen people join up and almost instantly hit it off with the community. Within months, they've made over a thousand posts and seem to be on a first name basis with everyone. I'm envious of them.
I think part of my problem is that I don't mix the TMF and my real life at all. Since I'm not open about my fetish with anyone outside of the TMF, I do my best to not reveal much about myself here in a public and google indexed forum to avoid being "found out".
So, with that in mind, can anyone on here offer up some advice that would help me make some friends on here? All responses will be appreciated. 🙂
-DT
I'm not very good at making new friends in real life either. Not that I'm unfriendly or unkind or anything like that... I'm just a fairly private person and I tend to put most of my energy into my current friendships rather than seek out new ones. Having a pretty unhealthy case of social anxiety doesn't seem to help with that either... I thought it would be easier to meet people on-line (specifically on the TMF), especially since I know that we all share at least ONE common interest on here, but my poor social skills seem to extend to here as well.
I've seen people join up and almost instantly hit it off with the community. Within months, they've made over a thousand posts and seem to be on a first name basis with everyone. I'm envious of them.
I think part of my problem is that I don't mix the TMF and my real life at all. Since I'm not open about my fetish with anyone outside of the TMF, I do my best to not reveal much about myself here in a public and google indexed forum to avoid being "found out".
So, with that in mind, can anyone on here offer up some advice that would help me make some friends on here? All responses will be appreciated. 🙂
-DT
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