Losing Touch...

[SmileyTkls]

To begin with, this is something that has been creeping up on me for awhile, and not just here but in my personal life, too. It just seems as time goes on, I lose contact with people I consider to be friends more and more. It came sharply into focus as my parents were subjecting me to some old home videos they'd uncovered. In one, I was in my college days, singing with a choral group, and my Mom asked me who some people were. I stared at the screen, and managed to come up with 2 names out of 10 they asked about. Even some of the faces were totally unknown to me, not a bit familiar. Got me thinking about other people and times, for which I drew blanks or just plain didn't know if they were single or married, kids or grandkids, alive or dead. And some were what I considered to be good, deep friendships.

I guess what struck me was how easily it seemed to happen, slowly, gradually fading from my consciousness, until they were faint or completely erased. I wonder if I'm a bad friend, if we both allowed it to happen, or if it's inevitable as a part of living. Of course, this is even more a problem online, since it's much easier to forget there's an actual person on the other end of the screen. I don't know how many times I've felt awkward, wanting to ask someone if we'd met before, afraid we hadn't and more afraid we had. I wonder how some people just get to be so close online when I fail to get that far.

Maybe I'm just in a malaise now, but it was something I wanted to vent. Thanks for your kind attention.

(Usually) Smiley

 

[Neutron]

First Of All

Don't confuse online people (who you've never met), with good people from your real life, whose faces you may have forgotten. It's disrespectful to those in your real life.

My advice, start getting in touch with those people. Spend some time figuring out who they are, ask your parents, family, friends. It may start you on a very rewarding journey.

You'll never get that from anyone on the other side of a monitor. Fuck this place and live man.

Tron

 

[TKpervert]

Smiley, we all lose touch over time, it's nothing to brood about.
New locales, new responsibilities, new jobs, new families, it happens to all of us.

Newt, I was with you til you said
"Fuck this place and live man."

so what are we doing here

 

[Neutron]

Note...

I can fully differentiate between my real life, people I know from my real life, and those who I know only from a monitor.

My guess is well over 90% of the people who frequent this forum can't.

Tron

 

[mgctouch]

I received an email last year which I saved. I think that it might be an appropriate time and place to share it now. I hope that you find it helpful and/or enlightening. If you like it, feel free to copy/paste it and send it as an email to your friends and family.

ARE YOU A REASON, A SEASON, OR A LIFETIME?

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

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For those interested, the rest of the email went like this...
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Thank you for being a part of my life.

Stop here and just SMILE if you don't want to do this last part:

This is to show people you love them and to see how many people love you!!!!! Don't feel embarrassed, because only you will get the results. Send it to every friend that you have online, including the person who sent it to you.

0 Replies = you need to work on your "people skills"

2 Replies = you're nice, but need to be more outgoing

4 Replies = you have picked your friends well

6 Replies = you are downright popular

8 or More = you are totally awesome!!!!
(Probably why you're on MY list!)


Work like you don't need the money.

Love like you've never been hurt.

And dance like no one is watching.

 

[Neutron]

Re: Re: Note...

My guess is that you're wrong.

My guess is that it's not really that difficult to maintain a healthy balance between the two.

Words have meaning.

Randomly read virtually any thread on this forum. They'll prove my point. Hell, look at mabus new thread called The Stones.

Touche'

Tron