The trick is often to find a fellow tickling fetishist in real life.
When I was in college, there was a girl in my group of friends who I had a crush on. Once she figured it out, she put me in the friend zone, but still flirted with me on occasion. She and I seemed very compatible, but for whatever reason, she refused to go out with me. Eventually she found a boyfriend. Whenever they were together, she seemed to find an excuse to tickle him. Based on the way he reacted, it seemed like this tickling went on in private between the two of them even more frequently than it did in public. This girl would also make subtle tickling references, like telling guys that she was going to have to "string them up" if they didn't comply with whatever her wishes were at the time. One time she even told someone that she was going to tie them up and tickle them. This girl was clearly a tickle fetishist, but since she was 20 years old and this was the late '90s, I doubt she was a member of any online community. The point is, she was someone who I met in real life, who I got along with, and who I could have dated if things had worked out a bit differently, and who also had the same interest in tickling that I did. I think that's the way to do it --- meet someone who you'd actually want to go out with, and then gauge their interest in tickling. That way, you end up with someone you actually like, and are compatible with, who also shares your love of tickling.
