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male age stereotyping on the forum

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Ticklerguy4u

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I believe there is a certain belief that guys the age (35 and up) on the forum are automatically assumed to be old decrepite men that live in a small apartment with their cat just dying for a female to talk to them. I am not talking about guys that do paid sessions but guys that are just regular posters. It seem to me that most guys over a certain age have a hard time chatting and i am guessing its because the older you are the more you are seen as a "creepy old man." It is mainly one of the reason I don't chat or PM with anyone younger then me (not in real life just on here) Only do it on very rare occasions. Not really in the mood to prove myself on PMing when I could just hold a conversation without being stereotyped.

I don't mention the ladies of this age because I have seen numerous times that they younger generation is more accepting and some actually are turned on by it. So the question is:

Do you believe there is a age stereotyping of older men on here and why?
 
I don't know.....younger people contact me all the time and I been threatened by younger people if I say I can't make it to nearby gatherings. So I guess it all depends on how we approach each other and our personalities in general.
 
As one of the older men here on the TMF, I can only say that attending gatherings is the best way to show that I am not creepy.

PS: I don't have a cat. :cat:
 
I spend more of my time at the drawing board then in the chat room, so I don't have any idea if any of the young ones here consider me a creepy old man. I do feel that being a dude is a strike against you here, going from the past.

I think the TMF, like most of life, is a situation of you get from it what you put into it.
 
There is a stigma against men of all ages. 18-25 young and dumb and horny. 25-34 dumb and horny. 35 and up, old and horny. I think having a pic up helps to quell those assumptions. Without face to face interaction people are forced to fill in the blanks with their imagination. Usually with the error on the side of caution. Usually comical. Pics say a thousand words that no amount of posts could say. Think about the number of responses a girl can get on here with a personal ad with 1 pic and 2 forum post vs a regular for years with no pics.
 
GQguy said:
There is a stigma against men of all ages. 18-25 young and dumb and horny. 25-34 dumb and horny. 35 and up, old and horny. I think having a pic up helps to quell those assumptions. Without face to face interaction people are forced to fill in the blanks with their imagination. Usually with the error on the side of caution. Usually comical. Pics say a thousand words that no amount of posts could say. Think about the number of responses a girl can get on here with a personal ad with 1 pic and 2 forum post vs a regular for years with no pics.
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very well said..and true
 
kered said:
I don't know.....younger people contact me all the time and I been threatened by younger people if I say I can't make it to nearby gatherings. So I guess it all depends on how we approach each other and our personalities in general.
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This, for the most part. Almost all my TMF friends are younger than I am, in many far cases far younger. We've always gotten along fine. As to this idea that people over a certain age have trouble "chatting", I disagree most strongly. My generation grew up without personal computers, cell phones and video games etc. We had to talk to and deal with people in person for the most part, and that's one way social skills are developed.
 
Unfortunately I have to agree that being a guy is strike one. However, you can very quickly overcome the assumption that you're a creeper (regardless of age) by just... not being a creeper 🙂 If you find yourself talking to a girl who is giving you a bunch of bullshit, move on. As few and far between as the normal, cool guys are around here, the same can be said for the girls. There are some nutjobs out there, for fucking sure. I don't think your age makes you any more or less likely to be a weirdo. Personally, I have a strong preference for guys in their early 30s to early 40s. It's just how I roll. I tend to assume guys in their 20s are immature and lack basic social grace. An unfair assumption to make, but I'm right A LOT. I'm also wrong quite a bit, which is why I don't judge someone solely based on their age. If I did that, I'd be a derp. And derps only attract other derps (usually. There is the occasional sad story of an unsuspecting non-derp being derped by a derp... but that's another thread entirely.) So don't be a derp, regardless of your age, and you should be a-okay.
 
It's unfortunate that some women believe that they are so desirable that every guy attempting to talk to them is a creeper. That said, the dislike for the "let me tickle u let me c ur feet" morons is correct.
 
Leo tickles said:
It's unfortunate that some women believe that they are so desirable that every guy attempting to talk to them is a creeper. That said, the dislike for the "let me tickle u let me c ur feet" morons is correct.
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You don't have be desired to be creeped on. Half the guys around here, regardless of sexual orientation, will creep on other guys if given the chance. Guys pretend to be girls and unknowingly creep on other guys pretending to be girls. Creeps are just creeps. It's not an ego-boost to be creeped on. Creepers have no standards.
 
milagros317 said:
As one of the older men here on the TMF, I can only say that attending gatherings is the best way to show that I am not creepy.

PS: I don't have a cat. :cat:
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With my two cats seated by the keyboard and sternly watching me reply, this older guy can assure you that living alone with fur pals is not of itself a sign of weirdness, derpness, or sociopathy. Actually, what it's mostly a sign of is that there's probably tuna in the house.

More to Tguy's initial point, I'm not sure that younger people are necessarily uncomfortable interacting online with much older folks so much as they're wary of folks who pose as someone they're not. I can understand someone being skeptical chatting with someone with a scanty, photoless profile after encountering, say, an older guy disguised as a female college student. (Of course, profiles and photos CAN serve as a disguise, too.)

In the general society, there is, of course, a fair bit of interaction between young and old. But, I think many of us would be surprised by the 20-year-old, say, who chooses to routinely hang-out with 50-year-olds. So, it shouldn't surprise us that the younger folks on the TMF have less patience with much older folk (and, perhaps less often, vice versa). A common interest in tickling is usually not enough to overcome the generation gap, especially with the rapid, continual change digital communication wreaks on each age group in turn.

Or maybe it's just that young folk think that older folk with a taste for tickling and an active libido are just, well, weird! 😉
 
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Skipadeedoodah said:
You don't have be desired to be creeped on. Half the guys around here, regardless of sexual orientation, will creep on other guys if given the chance. Guys pretend to be girls and unknowingly creep on other guys pretending to be girls. Creeps are just creeps. It's not an ego-boost to be creeped on. Creepers have no standards.
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Touche.
 
I don't know much about the inner workings on this place, but I've always been under the impression that, while I might make fun of them, the old, 35 and up men chunk of the board still effectively "runs" the place (socially, not administratively).

It's not terribly uncommon for a lot of women here to outright admit they prefer the old guys, as well.
 
I just made it into the "35 and up" category. Nobody has really shunned me yet... Maybe I should just give it a little time. I have a large house rather than a tiny apartment, but I DO own a cat! 😀
 
asutickler said:
I just made it into the "35 and up" category. Nobody has really shunned me yet... Maybe I should just give it a little time. I have a large house rather than a tiny apartment, but I DO own a cat! 😀
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That cat owns you, yo.
 
Cure: Age means nothing. Go to a gathering, and don't be creepy.

How not to be creepy at a gathering: Socialize, shoot the shit, try not to sit and gaze at women's feet the whole fucking time, and talk about ordinary things, like any other party. When you try to interject into a regular conversation with "you know I like that spot under the big toe heh-heh-heh" you will notice people - fellow TMFers all of them - staring at you as though you came out from under a rock. Seriously, it's the same effect as walking into a bar where you aren't welcome, the music stops, and everyone turns to look at you. You will also notice every female in the group switching places in the little circle, discreetly putting a guy they are comfortable with in-between you and them. You have now been locked in the creeper box. And it will take years of perseverance to climb back out, if you ever manage to. True creepers completely fail to understand why this is the case, usually with the argument "why not? we are all there because of a common interest." Well yeah we are, but it's an interest we still share with those with whom we are comfortable. And that comfort has to be earned.

Age really does not matter. As long as you can hang out and bullshit effectively with people who like to hang out and bullshit too. Some of the older gents at gatherings, and I'm meaning 60+, have a bit of a hard time, simply due to it being hard to relate to the age group of a different generation, and vice versa. They're not considered creepy. 30-somethings shouldn't worry about a damn thing. I started going to gatherings at age 30. I'm gonna be 34 in a couple months. So far they're the best years of my life and I've found the best friends I've ever had. And next week is Bella Bash. Seriously, when one rolls around, get out from behind the computer, scrape some cash together and jump in. It's either that, take your chances on Fetlife, or buy that cat and jerk off to the images forum forever more.
 
Filthyweasel said:
How not to be creepy at a gathering:
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I just have to add : Don't stare at people.

Just don't.

As far as stereotyping goes, I really think that age has nothing to do with it. I'll give any guy of any age a chance, but its usually attitude and personality that determine whether or not you're creepy. If you're capable of discussing things beyond the fetish, that's bonus points. I can't even begin to imagine how many conversations on the TMF I've had that are all chalked up to:

"r u ticklish?"
"wheres ur ticklish spots?"
"will u tie me up?"
"r u a ler or lee?"

Thousands, upon thousands. And you know what? Most of these come from younger guys, lacking in social skills.


old decrepite men that live in a small apartment with their cat just dying for a female to talk to them.
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I really wish that I could say people like this didn't exist, but they do. They do...
 
what the, you're 35+ ASU?

Anyway, it really comes down to the individual, not age or gender. Remember some women can be equally as creepy as the 'older men' you described.

At nest the 'older' guys didn't seem so old when you realized they were awesome people.
 
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