Sometimes I wish I lived in a small town because I live in a super crowded city where girls just "play the field" well into their late 20s or early 30s. Makes it harder to get a girlfriend when girls just wanna go out and get blasted on the weekends at bars instead of doing date type stuff like go to the movies.
Hmmm. You think so? Here's my take:
Big cities are just made up of a bunch of people from many small towns. People that have a desire for more(more opportunity, more jobs, more money ect) move to the big city in search of that. People that stay in their small towns are usually content with their lives there. Because they are content they can focus on getting married and having children sooner. Their city counterparts are still working on careers and cannot afford the investment it takes for a serious committed relationship and kids. So you'll see them out...partying hard and working hard. In the end we all want the same thing for the most part: a family. We all go about it in different ways.
But there are TONS of women in big cities that are not into the getting trashed and hanging at the club scene. Actually the majority of women in the big city are not into that at all. The thing is that as a reflex we young guys think that the club/bar late night is the place to meet women. You can meet women there of course....but they are there to party....obviously you're not a fan.
Meeting women in the big city is awesome because of the variety and quality. There you can find the cream of the crop. But you have to know where to meet them. You yourself must become more cultured and change your lifestyle where you meet more women. Some simple changes I made:
1) Instead of shopping at walmart for groceries I started shopping at Trader Joes. Why? The food at Trader Joe's is awesome and cultured! Nice wine selection. And the type of women I date shop there. Every girl i've dated since I started shopping there shops there.
2)Instead of going to the gym when it's dead I go during peak hours right after work. Everyday...same time. Soon I was having women approach me at bars saying "this might sound weird but do you work out at La Fitness on McDowell"? And I wouldn't be afraid to do the same.
3) Hopped into a dance class my university offered. I'm a shitty dancer but I made sure every girl I danced with had fun and I had fun...while learning something
4)Happy hour is clutch. Girls go to happy hour after work grab a few drinks with girl friends then head home and are in bed by 11pm. Most of my friends want to head to the bar at 11pm. By then most of the quality "take her home to mom" girls have left. Round up one or two goodlooking confident guys and take them with you to happy hour. Make yourselves open to meeting new people...guys and girls.
5)Volunteer. Do something you're passionate about. I volunteered my time advising young men on leadership and acted as their mentor.
Doing these things for the purpose of meeting women will be disappointing. Doing these things to be a better man however will yield changes..including the type of women you meet.
Big city ain't so bad.
GQ
